In your opinion should a man ever hit a woman?

For something like a big argument, or she slapped him, nah, I don't think so.

KogaSteelfang posted...

For something like a big argument, or she slapped him, nah, I don't think so.

Agreed with the argument part. However if she slaps the guy she's basically asking for a slap back.

Eh, I feel he should just take the first one.

Because a slap generally isn't much of an attack. It's more like an insult or something(besides, he might deserve it)

Sure, under any context where he would be justified in hitting a man.

I'm massively side-eyeing any dude who's sitting around trying to figure out a way he can acceptably hit a woman

Kana posted...

I'm massively side-eyeing any dude who's sitting around trying to figure out a way he can acceptably hit a woman

That's not fair, he asked!
It's like shouting "DOLPHINS" at you and then getting mad if you think about dolphins.

I keep hearing a lot of folk say that a man should never hit a woman. Even in self defence. I'm curious what PotD thinks of this mentality.

Personally I think it's perfectly acceptable to hit a woman in self defence. I'm not a violent person but if anybody tries to attack me physically in anyway I'll put it a fight regardless of if your a woman or not. Your age doesn't matter either unless you're a child. I think it's stupid to expect a guy just to stand there and take it if a woman attacks him.

This, which pretty much exclusively means in a legitimate self-defense context (legitimate self-defense being more than just "you hit me so I'll hit you back"), aside from formal sparring. Statistically, that's going to mean there are more men against whom violence would be justified than women, since men are stronger on average and therefore more likely to pose a legitimate threat, but the same logic should be applied in choosing to respond with violence.

adjl posted...

since men are stronger on average and therefore more likely to pose a legitimate threat, but the same logic should be applied in choosing to respond with violence.

In theory this is good, but the problem is you can't always tell at a glance who poses a legitimate threat and who doesn't. I'd probably have a better chance against an untrained guy my size than I would against a woman with a blackbelt in BJJ.

You can still use some level of judgement. If you aren't actually fearing for your safety, you can't call a violent response self-defense.

adjl posted...

You can still use some level of judgement. If you aren't actually fearing for your safety, you can't call a violent response self-defense.

Honestly I think anyone coming at you with any level of violence deserves a violent response. My whole point was you don't know what the other person is coming at you with. Sure a 6' 5" 300lbs meat monster is much more likely to be able to do extreme damage, but 120lbs woman with an advanced martial arts degree or a knife in her belt can fuck up your day too. Unfortunately with the latter you can't know until she slashes your throat or snaps you arm. Giving 10% because you look someone over and determine they're no match for your fighting skills is a good way to get your skull kicked in.

if she slaps the guy she's basically asking for a slap back.

It kinda irks me when adults tell young boys that it is wrong to hit girls and leave it at that. The lesson for all kids should be that it isn't ok to hit at all.

how can she slap!?

You can, however, tell the difference between "I'm attacking you" and "I'm mad so I'm taking a swing at you."

For something like a big argument, or she slapped him, nah, I don't think so.

depends. if a woman is seriously giving you a beating and she won't stop, then you need to do something to make her stop. but if she gives you a push or a slap I don't think that warrants a hit back.

wwinterj25 posted...

if she slaps the guy she's basically asking for a slap back.

how can she slap!?