Situation literally happened not along ago between my ex and her husband. I helped them patch things up. They have 6 kids though, so that definitely influenced it.
meestermj posted...
Situation literally happened not along ago between my ex and her husband. I helped them patch things up. They have 6 kids though, so that definitely influenced it.
If they didnt have any kids, do you think they would have still worked things out?
The idea of emotional cheating sounds stupid as hell to me. Having a close friend you can confide in is cheating now?? Or is it having confidants while also having a shitty relationship with your spouse? Jesus this world is fucking ridiculous.
Or am I missing something here???
I don't know. I don't really get what you mean. They were sexting them and saying they loved them? That sounds pretty serious even if it's non-physical.
Your wife telling another man she loves him seems like a pretty big thing to overcome. But like everything else it entirely depends on context.
sexting? maybe
telling someone else you love them? HAHA NOPE GET AWAY FROM ME
Is sexting emotionally cheating? That seems like something different. It's kinda like prodding the line to have an affair.
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
Yeah I have to admit Id have an easier time with the sexting. If they declared love for each other Im not sure if I could overcome that.
SophieLuvsTofu posted...
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
Then I guess I can never fall in love?
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
I would do anything for love...but I won't do that.
SophieLuvsTofu posted...
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
I dont think thats a fair statement. You could easily turn it around and say if the person truly loved you, they wouldnt have cheated.
Everyone is entitled to their boundaries.
I'm kinda in that situation now. A woman is basically emotionally cheating on her husband with me >_>
No love confessions or sexts (we're living in SEA so it's rather conservative), but she has told me she misses me sometimes and still goes out with me on weekends despite her husband knowing about us and forbidding her from seeing me outside of work (yes we are colleagues too <_<).
We say good night to each other everyday and she always uses that kiss+heart heart emoji in our texts.
I don't even recall how we really started...
Cleo_II posted...
SophieLuvsTofu posted...
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
I dont think thats a fair statement. You could easily turn it around and say if the person truly loved you, they wouldnt have cheated.
Everyone is entitled to their boundaries.
I mean yeah you can disagree with me, I very blatantly stated its my opinion. I get that argument to it, but I don't agree with it. Like you said in your original, very well written post, people make mistakes. Can't blame someone for being human. But, your tolerance level for mistakes depends on your affection for someone. Think about if your coworker did the same mistake your spouse did, who would you forgive sooner?
I'm kinda in that situation now. A woman is basically emotionally cheating on her husband with me >_>
No love confessions or sexts (we're living in SEA so it's rather conservative), but she has told me she misses me sometimes and still goes out with me on weekends despite her husband knowing about us and forbidding her from seeing me outside of work (yes we are colleagues too <_<).
We say good night to each other everyday and she always uses that kiss+heart heart emoji in our texts.
I don't even recall how we really started...
SophieLuvsTofu posted...
Cleo_II posted...
SophieLuvsTofu posted...
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
I dont think thats a fair statement. You could easily turn it around and say if the person truly loved you, they wouldnt have cheated.
Everyone is entitled to their boundaries.
I mean yeah you can disagree with me, I very blatantly stated its my opinion. I get that argument to it, but I don't agree with it. Like you said in your original, very well written post, people make mistakes. Can't blame someone for being human. But, your tolerance level for mistakes depends on your affection for someone. Think about if your coworker did the same mistake your spouse did, who would you forgive sooner?
Right, I dont think you can blame someone for being human. Same goes for the person who feels they just cant trust their spouse the same way again, or love them the same, those are human feelings. Thats just my opinion though, I dont mean to be dismissive of yours or anything. We can agree to disagree.
For those who said no:
Love isn't about the ability to deal with the best of what life throws at you; its the ability to persevere when life throws its worst at you.
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
SophieLuvsTofu posted...
For those who said no:
Love isn't about the ability to deal with the best of what life throws at you; its the ability to persevere when life throws its worst at you.
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
You sound like someone who just cheated and now you're trying to cover your tracks. Love is not something someone else can define for you.
Dude... why not just find a single girl?
That was my perspective on what you sounded like, since we are in the topic of perspectives. But my main point was disagreeing with your definition or even having a definition of love.
Like the saying in Fast and Furious 7 goes, you can't tell someone they love you. I don't know if this is entirely relevant, I just wanted to be able to quote that
That was my perspective on what you sounded like, since we are in the topic of perspectives. But my main point was disagreeing with your definition or even having a definition of love.
Like the saying in Fast and Furious 7 goes, you can't tell someone they love you. I don't know if this is entirely relevant, I just wanted to be able to quote that
For those who said no:
Love isn't about the ability to deal with the best of what life throws at you; its the ability to persevere when life throws its worst at you.
If you can't survive cheating, emotional or physical, I don't think its true love, sorry, my OPINION.
Re-iNcarnated posted...
That was my perspective on what you sounded like, since we are in the topic of perspectives. But my main point was disagreeing with your definition or even having a definition of love.
Like the saying in Fast and Furious 7 goes, you can't tell someone they love you. I don't know if this is entirely relevant, I just wanted to be able to quote that
IIRC she posted that her partner has both cheated on her and hit her. Probably a troll account but who knows.
