pick4six posted...
It would be interesting to hear his side of the story because the way you treat him isn't all rainbows and unicorns either. That's messed up.
I know there's always two dudes to every story. I always try to remain objective between two people, but in this case he has no defense. Me, mom, my brother, and my cousin can't all come to the same wrong conclusion.
He did work hard in his younger days, as a construction worker. I have to give him that. But when his paycheck is his, and he goes on trios with his friends leaving his wife and 2 young children with no food at home. Then beats us when he returns and ask if he can buy a loaf of bread, because we're not entitled to the money that he works for. But now that he's older and retired, all the money we earn is to be spent on him. While we wait hand and foot on his every whim so he doesn't have to lift a finger. He literally calls himself our king and thinks we are his servants. Not joking, he actually declared himself king and if he has to even get his own plate of food rather than having it carried to him(while insulting us while we do it), he throws a fit.
chrono625 posted...
Dad seems like he has major deep seeded psychological trauma himself.
I wouldn't say it's trauma. But mental illness does run in his family. He's absolutely an unrelenting narcissist, he has no empathy whatsoever and no one outside of him matters. His mother spoiled him, his brother's spoiled him. He's simply an over entitled spoiled manchild who thinks screaming and violence will get him what he wants.
Once when he was younger, he literally shot his brother for calling him spoiled. He would've killed him if his other brothers didn't step in and mess up his aim. Instead of shooting him in the back like he tried, he hit him in the leg.
Then there's the time he tried the same on me, but we got the gun away and tried beating/strangling me to death instead. The reason he tried killing me? Mom spent like 15 minutes with me in my room watching a movie. He thought she was choosing me over him, so I needed to die.
g0ldie posted...
idk, maybe he's also looking out for his mom/rest of family
This is half of it. I'd never forgive myself if I left her here and something happened to her.
The other half is because I'm just not strong/brave enough to leave. I'll say that I've been broken and have no will left... But really I'm just a weakling.