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| Topic | dogs and cats need to live longer |
| adjl 09/16/25 2:17:51 PM #8 | Imagine waking up in the morning and thinking "man, I wish dogs died more often." Unless, of course, he's going for "people do too much to prolong the lives of old dogs that are clearly suffering instead of humanely letting them go at a more appropriate time," which isn't entirely without merit, but "dogs should have lower average lifespans" would be a really weird way to present that argument. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Finishing up with BANANZA, what should I play next? |
| adjl 09/16/25 1:07:56 PM #6 | funkyfritter posted... 1.0 release for Hades 2 is coming near the end of the month. Probably worth waiting until then before starting it. Having no other strong opinions between the two, I think this is the best answer. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | I'm turning 30 in a few months. Does it hurt? |
| adjl 09/16/25 11:28:32 AM #38 | As soon as you wake up on your 30th birthday you immediately die in horrible pain, but are brought back to life by a capricious and cruel god of senescence who forces you to relive this ritual every day for the rest of your life as he drains a little bit of your remaining vitality each time. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | my wife's expensive gaming laptop can't run Borderlands 4 |
| adjl 09/16/25 10:51:13 AM #7 | I still haven't even played 3, after getting it in a bundle a few years ago (and I think again as an Epic giveaway since then). --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | "Cancel Culture" |
| adjl 09/16/25 10:48:36 AM #6 | It's largely impossible to say. It's not something that lends itself to tracking with concrete statistics, and without concrete statistics, any opinion on the matter is utterly worthless. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | "Cancel Culture" |
| adjl 09/16/25 9:14:34 AM #2 | "Cancel culture" is just voting with your wallet and advising other people to vote with you. It's not inherently bad or good, instead depending on the cause for which one is voting. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | my wife's expensive gaming laptop can't run Borderlands 4 |
| adjl 09/16/25 9:06:40 AM #5 | hockey7318 posted... Still mad that minesweeper isn't included by default on my work computer. We used to be a real country. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Girlfriend and I are on a "break" |
| adjl 09/15/25 7:29:03 PM #42 | OhhhJa posted... I think you're grossly misinterpreting what most of us are saying. I dont think any of us are "not on his side." We're just giving our input as to what it seems his situation is. Yeah, that's a better way to frame it. It's not so much "this is actually all your fault" as it is "what you're saying suggests that the relationship is fundamentally pretty broken and this incident is a symptom of larger problems." It's nothing that can't be recovered, if you both want to recover it, but it's going to take quite a bit of work from both of you. I am on your side, in that I want you to have a healthy relationship in which you feel loved, respected, and can trust that your partner accepts you for who you are (and, in turn, that you can be that person for her). I'm just not sure this is it, and I'm quite sure that putting off the conversation you need to have with your GF because you're afraid of losing face if you go back on your suggestion isn't going to help the situation. If you want a break, it should be because you need time to yourself to figure out how you feel, not because you think it's what's best for her or because your ego is keeping you from walking back the idea. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Girlfriend and I are on a "break" |
| adjl 09/15/25 6:58:14 PM #40 | Stimpy posted... Relationships are far more nuanced than a message board post can convey. Not nuanced enough for "looking weak" by acknowledging that you made a mistake to ever be a meaningful consideration. A relationship where you're afraid to correct your mistakes because of how you'll look to your partner is not a healthy adult relationship, at least not past the initial stages of trying to impress each other. That fear means you don't trust them to accept your flaws, and that trust is crucial for a long-term relationship given that you aren't going to be able to hide those flaws forever (or if you do, it's going to be taxing enough on you to be unhealthy). Stimpy posted... Letting her cool her heals for a few weeks was how I got her in the first place. In her own words it made me want you more. Giving her some breathing room for two wks aint gonna kill her. Trying out not having a prospective partner around to test the waters of a new relationship is pretty reasonable. Starting a relationship is a commitment, and having a more immediate comparison to "prospective partner not here" can help evaluate it. Playing such games when you've been together long enough for marriage to be an option, though? If she doesn't know she wants you already, a few weeks isn't going to change that (or if it does, you're looking at a long-term cycle of having to keep playing this game to keep her interest up). Salrite posted... And even if it were valid and she was feeling like he was moving too fast, she should be communicating this properly, not shutting down and playing games. Absolutely, but I'm still getting the vibe that things aren't necessarily the healthiest from TC's end either. That's not necessarily contributing to the issue immediately at hand, but it does raise broader concerns. Salrite posted... And no, sticking to your convictions is not something to be ashamed of. It's what anyone should be obligated to do. Sticking to your convictions when you have good reason to believe those convictions are mistaken is absolutely something to be ashamed of. That's axiomatically a terrible idea in every possible context and nobody should ever do it. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | What are some old bad games that are only bad in execution? |
| adjl 09/15/25 4:42:09 PM #16 | Yeah, as much as people get butthurt over competitive bans and tier restrictions and whatnot, at the end of the day, they really are just a matter of addressing the games' balance concerns so the playing field is more level. Banning a Pokemon that's so powerful that every team needs to run a counter to it increases the variety of people's teams within that tier. Being mad about such bans decreasing variety fundamentally misunderstands the issue. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | What are some old bad games that are only bad in execution? |
| adjl 09/15/25 4:06:05 PM #14 | man101 posted... Oh how I wish I had never developed a critical perspective on games and I could still just enjoy almost everything as simple entertainment. I envy the people who can buy the yearly installment of whatever derivative AAA franchise and genuinely feel in their hearts that it's a 10/10 game. :/ It kind of just comes with experience. As much as it was (and still is, in some ways) fun to brainlessly exploit poor balance, experiencing games with better balance (or at least that offer the imbalance in a better-designed way, like something like Binding of Isaac where you can break the game wide open and have your way with it and that's what makes it fun) has led us to realize that they're actually more fun. Personally, at least, I don't think it's limited my ability to enjoy games. Yes, I'm very guilty of optimizing the fun out from time to time (my efforts to get through SMT Devil Survivor are being stymied by this as I get bogged down trying to min-max but don't actually know the game well enough to do so effectively), but I have no shortage of games to play and the vast majority of the things I've chosen to buy for myself have ended up being fun enough that I don't regret the purchase. I also just enjoy the act of critiquing media. Thinking about and discussing what I do/don't like is itself an enjoyable enough process that even a game I wasn't big on can offer me something of value. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | What are some old bad games that are only bad in execution? |
| adjl 09/15/25 3:50:16 PM #10 | There is something to be said for being a stupid little kid who just loves picking the best thing and beating everything else up with it, with no concern for how balanced or well-designed that is. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Mega Dragonite |
| adjl 09/15/25 3:10:50 PM #146 | $30 DLC can be fine, if there's enough content to justify. $30 DLC before the game even launches is a pretty bad look, though. At least with the DK Bananza DLC, the game's been out for two months and the DLC is very clearly just an extra mode to stick on top of it. ZA's DLC may also fit that mold, much like S/V's did, but announcing it before anyone's experienced the game to be able to understand how it fits in or how complete the game is without it really makes it look like "we just cut this content out to be sold later." --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | What would be the best use of ground fish? |
| adjl 09/15/25 3:05:28 PM #4 | Pretty much anything you'd do with flaked fish. I don't think ground fish would work all that well, though. I wouldn't expect it to have the same cohesiveness that ground meats have, so packing it into patties wouldn't work so well. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Girlfriend and I are on a "break" |
| adjl 09/15/25 2:38:28 PM #35 | If you're worried about "looking weak," you shouldn't be in this relationship regardless of what her reasons for balking are. Long-term relationships are not about impressing each other or keeping up appearances. They're about trust and support, which includes being vulnerable with each other. If you've been dating long enough that you feel it's reasonable to get engaged, but you still can't let yourself relax enough around her to admit to making a mistake, it wasn't much of a relationship in the first place. Marriage should never be on the table if you have so little trust in your partner that you're more concerned about saving face with them than saving your relationship, so if that's seriously where you are, you're probably better off cutting your losses now because there isn't anything worth saving. Heck, I might even go so far as to guess that that lack of trust and vulnerability is the main thing making her feel like it's too soon to get engaged (again, assuming she is actually dealing with relationship jitters and not just cheating). Moreover, admitting that you made a mistake is not weakness, nor is trying to rectify that mistake. Quite the opposite, in fact: staying the course when you know it's wrong and will likely make things worse because you're afraid of what people will think if you change your mind is about as weak as you can get. Anyone who would actually think less of you for trying to fix your mistake isn't worth your time or attention. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | I long believe Michael Jackson to be innocent, til Epstein |
| adjl 09/14/25 11:37:46 PM #25 | willythemailboy posted... Why would you believe it even if the government were to be overturned? It's almost certainly been tampered with already, you'd at best be getting a tampered version. I'm sure an unmodified version exists somewhere, but actually accessing it without the consent of whoever's hiding it is probably impossible. Given a choice, I expect that individual will be taking it to their grave, so even if the entire government were gutted by force, it's not likely to be found. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | They need to reform online customer reviews |
| adjl 09/14/25 10:56:59 PM #9 | willythemailboy posted... Some of that, but more the opposite: they know more people that had a mediocre experience will give a 3/5 or 4/5 rating rather than a 0/1 rating. It catches "fails" that the customers wouldn't be willing to call fails. For example: I just spent nearly $100 on groceries at Walmart and I was mostly happy with that experience, but their banana table was full of crap that I wouldn't even spend someone else's money on. Do I rate the entire shopping experience as a 0/1 fail or give it a 4/5? The flip side is that a whole lot of people see a perfect score as something that should only be handed out in exceptional circumstances. If everyone you interacted with was friendly, you found everything you were looking for without difficulty, and you didn't notice any problems, is that a 5/5? Or do you call that a 3/5 so there's room to give a higher score when your expectations are exceeded? I can get behind "perfect score unless something was wrong" as a philosophy, and I'd agree that a table of festering banana-adjacent goop would warrant knocking off a point or two instead of tanking the whole rating (and, on the corporate side, that rating suggests that there are problems that can be addressed), but the unfortunate reality is that that's not how a lot of people think about scores. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | they made mountain dew flavored gummy worms and i have them |
| adjl 09/14/25 9:27:07 PM #11 | Far-Queue posted... ( ) Yeah, that just made me think "sounds like Helly's allergic to a couple of food dyes." --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | I long believe Michael Jackson to be innocent, til Epstein |
| adjl 09/14/25 9:25:55 PM #15 | ParanoidObsessive posted... Or that it's even trustworthy at this point, considering how many hands its passed through by this point, and how much opportunity there's been to tamper with it. It's never going to be a magical smoking gun that brings all the perverts to justice. Yeah, at this point, nothing about "the list" is particularly credible. Half of the people suspected to be on it have had a chance to modify it, and the other half is friends with the first half. To put any stock in "the list" is to assume that there's anyone at the top of the justice system seriously looking for solid evidence to bring corrupt people in places of power to justice, and that assumption grossly underestimates just how much power those corrupt people have. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | They need to reform online customer reviews |
| adjl 09/14/25 9:22:01 PM #5 | willythemailboy posted... Basically everyone does that, even for internal numbers. If you've ever seen the "rate your experience" thing at the self checkout at Walmart or something, those are pass/fail as well even though the numbers will never be seen by the public. The store is rated by corporate for the percentage of 5s they get, anything from 1-4 is considered a fail. If anything, I'd say corporate is fully aware that most people don't treat a 1-5 scale as being binary, but keep them around solely so they can point at any number of sub-5s as evidence of poor performance if they want an excuse to punish people/franchises. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Meme 39: A Toast to The Internet |
| adjl 09/14/25 9:20:00 PM #98 | SinisterSlay posted... Pretty much, but its to reduce head count. If you make people quit by instituting unreasonable policies, you don't have to pay severance! --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Girlfriend and I are on a "break" |
| adjl 09/14/25 9:17:18 PM #30 | Stimpy posted... Engagement Then I'd guess one of two things:
If the former, the prognosis isn't so great. Stimpy posted... Sorry, Ive been extremely depressed lately, and I figured people were gonna be mean in the topic so I just dodged it for a few days. Not even sure why I made it, its not like yall can do anything to fix whatever her problem is. The whole things just a bummer. All good, dude. Sometimes, you just want to vent more than actually solving the problem, and the Internet isn't always nice to people in your situation. I'm honestly surprised people have been relatively civil and have been giving sound advice (if on the pessimistic side). Stimpy posted... So yeah, she needs some time to miss me and know what its like to go without me for a bit. To be blunt, if you're in a long-distance relationship, she already knows what it's like to go without you for a bit. There is certainly a difference between not talking at all and talking regularly but not seeing each other all that often, but she should already be well-acquainted to what it feels like to miss you. This break isn't going to give her any sort of "I realize I can't live without him" epiphany, so if you're hoping for that, you should probably give up on that hope and change tacks. Stimpy posted... I dont think more communication is gonna fix this. If the problem is in fact not that she's found somebody else, more communication is the only way to fix this. Fundamentally, the problem is that neither of you seems to know what the other wants from the relationship. You're not going to figure that out without talking about it, and sitting silently on that question is just going to keep feeding those insecurities that you're feeling because she won't be giving you the answers you need to clear them up. I still recommend saying something like "I've been thinking about it, and I don't think a break is actually a good idea. We need to talk about this and figure out where we both stand in terms of what we want from the relationship. If you don't want to get engaged now, that's fine and I can accept that I misread the situation and jumped the gun on that, but I don't understand what you're feeling right now and I don't think that's a good situation for us." Again, give her a few days to collect her thoughts if she needs it, rather than putting her on the spot, but if she's not willing to talk about the issues that are making her not want to be in the relationship, you might just have to accept that she doesn't want to be in the relationship. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | I'm having an internal debate about whether to go to work or not tomorrow. |
| adjl 09/14/25 2:57:10 PM #3 | If you don't feel up to working, there's nothing going on at work that's urgent enough to warrant pushing through that, and you've got enough paid sick leave to not have to consider the financial implications of taking a day off, take the day off. It's what sick leave exists for, regardless of the nature of your illness. The rest, you need heckin' therapy, my dude. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | I long believe Michael Jackson to be innocent, til Epstein |
| adjl 09/14/25 1:26:14 PM #4 | On the one hand, I get where PO is coming from. Epstein's shenanigans are far from unique, and are only at all noteworthy because it's a rare case of actually being able to hold the culprits accountable for them. On the other hand, though, dismissing that attention because it's not an unusual crime directly works against holding the culprits accountable and risks wasting that rare opportunity. No matter how often people get away with raping kids, it's still important to stop people from raping kids whenever possible. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | How do celebrities avoid identity theft? |
| adjl 09/14/25 12:24:55 PM #3 | There's a certain amount of identity protection inherent in being recognizable. If you roll up to a bank and say "hello I am international superstar Brad Pitt please give me a loan for ten million dollars because you know I'm good for it," they aren't going to buy it. To steal somebody's identity, you rely on people not realizing that you aren't actually your victim, and that in turn relies on most people not knowing who your victim is. That said, celebrities do still face some identity security issues. The Fappening was one of the most notorious examples of this: various celebrities' cloud storage accounts were breached by using publicly-available information to answer their security questions. Having an account compromised is a form of identity theft, if not necessarily what most people think of, and that's definitely an elevated risk for celebrities. Fortunately for them, though, most accounts that could be accessed that way tend to be relatively inconsequential. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Have you ever met anyone who shares a birthday with you? |
| adjl 09/13/25 7:33:46 PM #20 | Not that I know of. I've met a few people that share birthdays with relatives, but nobody with mine. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | why... do people... be rude... |
| adjl 09/12/25 11:35:07 PM #6 | Now there's a gimmick account I haven't seen in a while. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Girlfriend and I are on a "break" |
| adjl 09/12/25 9:36:57 PM #24 | Accrovideogames posted... Even if she has a non-selfish reason to be scared of communicating, it doesn't change the fact that staying with her would mean remaining in a toxic relationship. How can you trust her to tell you the truth in the future? It sets a bad precedent. Someone who refuses to communicate once will continue to do so. She'll hide things from you, either out of fear, lack of trust, or selfishness. It doesn't matter whether she's manipulative or insecure, you can't trust her to change. She can change, but not with you. I mean, it's not impossible or entirely inadvisable to try to provide a relationship in which she feels safe to move past her communication issues, if she does in fact have a legitimate reason (such as anxiety or past trauma that makes it hard for her to trust somebody). "I can fix her" is perhaps not the best attitude to take in choosing to enter/maintain a relationship, but provided you're aware and accepting of the difficulties that will bring, establishing yourself as the support she needs to grow and change can ultimately end up being a good thing. That absolutely has to start with her being willing to take some first steps toward that goal, though. If you offer her a comfortable space in which to work through her anxieties or whatever, and she still pushes you away, you're done. That's her telling you that she doesn't want to be fixed, whether because she's not ready/willing to take that step yet, because she doesn't trust you enough to be that comfortable space, or because there isn't actually anything to fix and she just doesn't actually like you enough to commit to a relationship. Don't torture yourself waiting for her to come around, especially where, as everyone else is saying, you can probably safely assume that she's cheating. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Nintendo has lost their mind with the new amiibo prices. |
| adjl 09/12/25 9:22:16 PM #19 | Shadowbird_RH posted... I actually think the original going prices were fair. What wasn't though were how they were implemented. If you have one amiibo that works across a wide range of games, unlocking cameos and cosmetics, that's cool, but when the majority of amiibos are game/franchise specific and are used to lock features, abilities, modes, and gameplay relevant content behind, that's going down a very wrong direction. Yeah, I never got into amiibos myself, but the concept of buying one to act as a sort of pseudo-DLC for multiple current and future games was a nifty enough one that I would have felt like the cost was justified if I'd taken the plunge on any. When it's a matter of pseudo-DLC for just one or two games, though, it stops being so worthwhile. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Is no one talking about how Nintendo Patented more Summoning mechanics? |
| adjl 09/12/25 5:43:15 PM #2 | I suspect the actual text of the patent is significantly more specific than that article makes it sound. A patent that broad likely wouldn't have been granted in the first place. Even if it is narrower, though, there's enough precedent for other games using summoning mechanics that there's no way this would actually hold up under any real scrutiny. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | When you pick wait and save to be somewhere in 50... |
| adjl 09/12/25 4:03:14 PM #25 | Revelation34 posted... Unless you're a professional biker you're not going to be eating a ton more by just using a bike to get to work or the grocery store. The energy's gotta come from somewhere. What you're touching on is that the energy required for the amount of biking most people are going to be doing is quite trivial, which is why the difference in CO2 emissions is so ultimately meaningless. SunWuKung420 posted... I'll argue that the mining and production of ebike batteries is markedly destructive to the environment. That's including the differences in emissions associated with manufacturing them. E-bike batteries aren't particularly demanding, materials-wise. There are certainly secondary considerations around end-of-life handling for e-bike batteries that aren't there for conventional bikes (well, the conventional bike's power source does have environmental concerns around end-of-life, but that's not the bike's fault), but lumping in e-bikes with the environmental concerns around EVs (which are themselves significantly overblown given how much better they are in that regard than ICE vehicles) doesn't make much sense due to the massively smaller scale. ultra_magnus13 posted... That stat is nonsense on its face. You'd think, but not actually: https://www.bikeradar.com/features/long-reads/cycling-environmental-impact TL;DR: Conventional bikes emit ~21 g CO2/km, E-bikes emit ~14.8. It's mostly a consequence of the environmental cost of getting food to our tables. Transporting food produces a lot of emissions. Producing and transporting fertilizer produces a lot of emissions. Transporting the feed for and raising livestock produces a lot of emissions. All of that adds up more quickly than you might think. Now, that said, it depends a lot on what you eat. If you grow most of your food in a backyard garden, that's going to massively slash your emissions. If you eat nothing but beef raised on a ranch 300 km away, cycling is worse for emissions than driving. There's a lot of variability there. E-bikes also tend to offer greater overall environmental advantage because people are more likely to use them instead of driving (there's considerable middle ground between being too tired/lazy to pedal a bike and being so tired/lazy that driving is the only option, and e-bikes occupy that space). It's not necessarily as cut-and-dry as just saying "21>14.8," but it's still fun to upend the assumption that human-powered transportation is always going to be the most efficient. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Do you all remember when you couldn't even fine a Wii in stores (circa 06-07) |
| adjl 09/12/25 1:39:26 PM #23 | Damn_Underscore posted... They had the Classic Controller Generally speaking, anyone who busts out a comment like "the Wii didn't have a real controller" probably isn't worth engaging with. That's somebody who just wants to hate on the system and isn't actually interested in thinking about the matter. man101 posted... They straight up closed the location between when I pre-ordered and the release date and didn't bother to update their notification system. When I went to another location later that day the manager more or less said "not my problem" and was going to refuse to give me a copy until I asked for his name and essentially threatened to take him to court. Then he finally relented. That should probably actually have been a matter of asking him for the contact info for the district manager. He was right that his location wasn't responsible for filling the preorders of a different location, but GameStop as a corporate entity was still responsible for honouring it (or else refunding you). The DM's response would likely have been to just tell the guy to give you a copy, though (they should have designated a different store to fill preorders from the closed one, but if they hadn't, defaulting to the one you were currently at would make sense), which is presumably why he relented. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Video game questions on Jeopardy are way too easy |
| adjl 09/12/25 12:01:31 AM #21 | When my girlfriend was playing through Violet, she was asking for advice on what to name her Tinkatink, and I suggested "Celebimbo." Now she has a Tinkaton named Celebimbo. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Video game questions on Jeopardy are way too easy |
| adjl 09/11/25 8:02:24 PM #19 | I mean, we laugh, but for somebody unfamiliar with both Pokemon and LotR, Glorfindel could easily be a Pokemon name. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Girlfriend and I are on a "break" |
| adjl 09/11/25 7:15:26 PM #9 | Was the ring a matter of "I'd really like that ring as soon as possible," and you spending a reasonable amount of money on it as a thoughtful gift? Or was it a matter of her dropping hints about the kind of engagement ring she'd like someday and you just jumping on it prematurely? The way I see it, one of three things happened:
Whatever the actual reason, taking a break for a few weeks isn't going to help. This is something you're only going to resolve by communicating, specifically by establishing where she wants the relationship to be, how she feels about what you've been doing to date, and what she wants to do moving forward. Don't necessarily demand that she sits down with you and gives you an answer immediately, since that kind of pressure will probably work against her being able to give you an answer, but walk back your offer of a break and ask her to take some time to think about what she wants and get back to you in a couple days or so. Do whatever you need to for her to feel comfortable explaining the issues she's having, but make it clear that even if she's concerned that her issues might end up being a dealbreaker, her refusal to talk about them *is* a dealbreaker, so you want to at least try working through the issues before giving up. You're not going to be able to have a relationship under those conditions. Fortunately, the first two of those possibilities can be resolved by communicating. You're within your rights to be upset that she said she wanted something but then got upset when you gave it to her, but that's something you can move past and use as the basis for establishing more comfortable boundaries for both of you. The third... you're going to have to have a conversation about how exclusive you want your relationship to be, and there's a pretty significant chance that'll be the end. If she continues to be evasive and start crying over your efforts to get an answer despite trying to work with her to make her feel more comfortable voicing her concerns, there's a good chance the third possibility is the case. It's up to you whether you cut and run right away or try to work out some way to let the other guy(s) know he's not the only one in her life. If you do insist on going ahead with the break idea, define the parameters: How long is it? What questions are you hoping it will answer? Are either of you allowed to see other people? At risk of acting like TV is real life, this is exactly the problem with the break Ross and Rachel took: They weren't clear about what they wanted from it, they each made their own assumptions about how the other felt, and they blew up the relationship over that miscommunication. Salrite posted... If she's not even willing to communicate with you, she's not worth investing any more thought into. Unfortunately, this is the bottom line. If you're going to have a healthy relationship, you *both* need to be able to communicate about it. Even if a break somehow helps now, it's only a matter of time before she clams up about another serious issue she doesn't want to deal with and you'll once again be left making decisions around her refusal to work together to solve the problems. You don't want to be the only person putting effort into the relationship. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | people always talk about Nintendo controllers being the best ever |
| adjl 09/11/25 6:47:08 PM #43 | Salrite posted... The problem with the Wii controllers is that they were a dumb gimmick that only ever really worked out for a significantly small amount of titles that were specifically designed for them. Wiichucks worked perfectly fine for plenty of games that didn't do anything with motion controls. Heck, even when motion controls did factor in, I prefer Wiimote pointer control for first-person games over dual analog (obviously pointer controls are inferior to M+KB, but we're talking about controllers and that means we're considering the issue from the perspective of a console peasant such that M+KB isn't part of the comparison). Salrite posted... I wouldn't even give them that, because of how cumbersome it was to fiddle with all the individual pieces needed to get them to work. It's two things. Rarely even two things that you're considering independently of each other, unless you're swapping between games that demand different configurations. If I'm picking up a Wii game for the first time in a while, yes, it's more involved to fish out both a wiimote and a nunchuck/CCP than to fish out a single controller, but that happens so rarely that I have no reservations calling that a negligible issue. Salrite posted... Says they got undeserved hate, starts listing all the things wrong with them, lol. I mean, I'm not going to pretend there weren't problems. The existence of those problems doesn't mean they were never a pleasant experience to use, though, and the "undeserved hate" to which I refer is people saying just that. I do really like having my arms detached like that. I wish joycons were better so I could take more advantage of that option with the Switch, but the pro controller is just so much more comfortable that it offsets that potential benefit. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | people always talk about Nintendo controllers being the best ever |
| adjl 09/11/25 4:32:34 PM #40 | Wiichucks in particular get a lot of undeserved hate. Functionally, they were definitely too limited, which hampered the Wii's ability to stay relevant because multiplat games just straight up weren't compatible (plus the obvious performance issues, but the Wii's market share was large enough that downgrading multiplat games to match its specs might have been worthwhile if not for the controller incompatibility issues), and the motion control angle was hit or miss, but they were actually quite comfortable as a controller. Having the freedom to put your hands wherever you want while playing instead of locking them a few inches apart is pretty nice. Joycons are even better in that regard, and without the functional limitations, but they're not as ergonomic. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | If animals had the ability to talk, would they take over the world? |
| adjl 09/11/25 4:03:38 PM #25 | fettster777 posted... Having the ability to talk has nothing to do with intelligence. It indicates the ability comprehend abstract thought, which is generally considered to be one of the key criteria for defining intelligence in animals. The bar tends to be a bit higher than that when evaluating the intelligence of humans. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Do you all remember when you couldn't even fine a Wii in stores (circa 06-07) |
| adjl 09/11/25 3:57:04 PM #2 | It's really quite baffling that Reggie had to fight tooth and nail to convince Iwata to agree to packing Wii Sports in with the Wii. The overwhelming response to that idea had been that they didn't want to devalue the work on the game by giving it away (which is why Welcome Tour has a price tag), but it did so much to drive sales of the system that it was clearly the right choice to include it for free. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | kinda harsh but ok |
| adjl 09/11/25 3:52:29 PM #74 | willythemailboy posted... Yes? Moderating based on the likely responses to your post has always been policy. It's literally in the definition of trolling, for example. The two topics in question were virtually identical in the content of their opening posts. They were equally likely to elicit "political discussion." The observed distinction between them isn't a matter of likely responses, it's a matter of *actual* responses, and that's a pretty ridiculous basis for deciding how severe a punishment to attach to the moderation. willythemailboy posted... We're all assuming he was banned for the topic here solely because that was the topic we saw. We are, but I see no reason to believe that's not a safe assumption. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | How do you put money in your wallet? |
| adjl 09/11/25 2:55:57 PM #14 | agesboy posted... adjl, half the time i think you're my eminently logical half and the other half you say shit like toonie TOOOOOONIE --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | kinda harsh but ok |
| adjl 09/11/25 2:43:52 PM #68 | willythemailboy posted... They aren't the same because your post made them not the same. The second topic had no equivalent post and didn't turn political other than site moderation politics. So the creator of the first topic got banned because somebody else made a post in the topic that (allegedly) pivoted the discussion to be more political, but the creator of the second topic did not get banned because somebody else didn't make such a post? We're deciding whether or not to punish topic creators based on the discussions other people choose to have in their topics? --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Video game questions on Jeopardy are way too easy |
| adjl 09/11/25 2:01:07 PM #15 | Damn_Underscore posted... They had a fairly difficult sports-related question as a Final Jeopardy question recently. I forget what it was, but the question/answer was about Super Bowl winners and the answer/question was the Final Jeopardy questions are usually more difficult. More saliently, because there's only one question about one specific subject, it's less likely that any given person watching will be familiar with that subject and you don't have the same ability do distract yourself from that failure by getting other questions right that you have during the other rounds. That makes it feel even harder. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | people always talk about Nintendo controllers being the best ever |
| adjl 09/11/25 1:55:05 PM #37 | Actually, having fewer buttons can mean more weird combos, since it means you have fewer options for attaching a given action to a single button press. You see this a lot with console ports of PC games that made good and efficient use of the keyboard: Quite a few actions end up mapped to things like "hold R and press X," just because there aren't enough buttons to cover all of them without invoking combos like that. The flip side, though, is that having more buttons available means mappings become more arbitrary and less intuitive, which I think might be what you're actually getting at. If you're playing Super Mario Bros on the NES, A is jump and B is run/fireball. This makes sense, because A is the easiest to reach and jumping is the game's core mechanic. If you're playing Super Mario Bros on a controller with buttons for A through H, though, it's anyone's guess which button ends up being jump and you're less likely to see similar controls between similar games. Standards can still arise (WASD for keyboards being the best example), but it's messier than if there are relatively few buttons available. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | How do you put money in your wallet? |
| adjl 09/11/25 11:19:07 AM #4 | When I take the time to organize it, bills are organized by denomination and oriented the same way (Canadian money makes this relatively easy in that there's a very obvious asymmetry to every bill). If I've just been handed money, I'll slip it in wherever or just stuff it in my pocket. That said, my wallet currently contains one $20 bill and a toonie. I'm not really in a position where I even can put effort into organizing it, let alone where I would choose to do so. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Video game questions on Jeopardy are way too easy |
| adjl 09/11/25 11:08:39 AM #11 | agesboy posted... 90% of jeopardy questions are going to be frustratingly obtuse to the average person but they'll 100% know the other 10%. that's part of the appeal, viewers like having one up on the contestant. it's like the appeal of a good mystery novel, except you chance into knowing the answer occasionally rather than having 2 b gud at smart And, very often, it's those moments of feeling smug that you know things the contestants don't that stand out in any given episode, with all of the other instances fading into the background. The show offers everyone a chance to feel like they know stuff, and knowing stuff feels good. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | kinda harsh but ok |
| adjl 09/11/25 10:47:01 AM #61 | For that matter, feeling empathy for somebody doesn't have to include wishing overall that they hadn't died. One's opinion on a given person's death is the sum of many factors, only one of which is a baseline empathetic wish for everyone to be able to live a happy, comfortable life. It is very possible to both feel sad that Kirk's kids are going to grow up without their dad and also feel happy that Kirk won't be espousing any more harmful rhetoric or using his platform to promote harmful political agendas. People are complicated. There's no reason to expect our opinions on those people to be any less so. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Video game questions on Jeopardy are way too easy |
| adjl 09/11/25 10:19:37 AM #7 | Damn_Underscore posted... lol why you checking? Sorry, I just had this idea again and I forgot I had it already I remembered it without checking and would have estimated 6 months, but confirmed so I'd have the right date. SinisterSlay posted... I never thought about that Any trivia-based game tends to focus on breadth of knowledge over depth. The people who do well at them know a little bit about everything. People who know a lot about a few things will ace those categories, but struggle with the others. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | kinda harsh but ok |
| adjl 09/11/25 9:39:16 AM #59 | hockey7318 posted... Was he? Is it? Human life has value for sure and he didn't deserve to die, but the man himself said empathy is a woke leftist idea. Why empathize for this shooting over the hundreds of others that have happened this year. Everyone knows that empathy has nothing to do with being a good person. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
| Topic | Video game questions on Jeopardy are way too easy |
| adjl 09/11/25 9:12:45 AM #3 | You made this topic back in February. You're unlikely to get any new opinions on it a second time around, given that the board's demographics haven't meaningfully changed in that time. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. |
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