Lurker > Corrik7

Mr Lasastryke posted...

this is probably something you should work on, especially since you seem to be pretty wealthy (given that you own a house with a pool).

lol? Not sure if serious on the pool or wealthy comment.

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PrivateBiscuit1 posted...

Because they want it done in proper and productive avenues and not just any idiot throwing shit at the Judge. Many rules of Court are created from Judges just outright being like "I'm sick of these pro se idiots doing this shit so we'll make it more of a pain in the ass for them to."

But, if you represent yourself, you are held to the standards of the bar for being a lawyer. So, it's kind of contradictory.

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Yeah, texts and emails are allowed to be submitted to the court, if you have a lawyer, in a custody case. You cannot submit these things without one, oddly enough.

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SovietOmega posted...

I remember liking it. I remember virtually nothing about it though.

Spider Pig, Spider Pig!

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LordoftheMorons posted...

Do not do this; PA is a two party consent state so this would be illegal (unless you informed her that you were recording ahead of time)

Yeah, unless you consent to a recording on private property, it is illegal.

Lopen posted... I think starting every phone conversation with a notice that the conversation is being recorded would make discussions with her more productive (even if she just immediately hangs up every time) so maybe that option is okay!

This doesn't constitute her consenting to being recorded.

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kevwaffles posted...

So you didn't change the locks?

I forget to lock my door a lot. = /

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She is very, very, very tedious in making sure she texts nothing. She calls and says anything like that via voice. She entered my house when I was at work and took some of my kids stuff the other day. Every last part of it she made sure she called. She also called me a psycho for pointing out that was two different crimes she committed lol. Not that I am the person who is going to use texts and shit against someone. But it does amuse me realizing she has been acting this way for years, and I only realized it now.

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ChaosTonyV4 posted...

If it was amicable and you wanted to pay for her lawyer so someone could coordinate the completion of paperwork, that's one thing, but in a disputed split, paying for her lawyer is just paying for someone to turn the shitty things she wants to do to you into actions, de facto paying for your own losses?

There isn't any paperwork to coordinate anyways. If she literally just signed an agreement, it would already be over with. She said outright she intends to do all she can to bleed more and more money from me in the process. Which I don't know why! All the money I spend can't be used on our child!


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Waluigi1 posted...

So why even hire a lawyer if you clearly know better than them? Lol

No lawyer had said to do that. So that makes sense. And just because someone is a lawyer doesnt mean they can't suggest something dumb. Otherwise there would be no cases of negligence and malfeasance ever.

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If my lawyer ever suggested to pay for her lawyer, I would drop them on the spot. That's asinine.

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charmander6000 posted...

Things become a lot more real when it becomes legally binding. Do you think getting her a lawyer might help ease her doubts?

I would die a thousand deaths before I get her a lawyer. If she wants a lawyer (which she should probably get since she is wrong on everything she says), then she can use her money on it.

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Accused me of trying to trick her when it came to serving her with papers. She kept stating a ton of things that was absolutely not true.

Her reaction to the proposal is simply "not agreeing on anything".

She actually was agreeable to this proposal before we got to me filing. lol

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What I proposed is this...

In case interested at any point in an agreement, I would like something like this.

2-2-3

Mon Tues You - Wed Thurs Me - Fri Sat Sun You - and alternate the following week.

Pick ups would be the DAY of 6:30PM. Pickups responsible by party taking over custody that day. So Mon Tuesday would be pick up at 6:30PM Monday. Picked up by other parent 6:30PM Wednesday for their time. And then picked up 6:30PM Friday by the other parent.

If not already having the child on parents birthday, the parent can pick an 8 hour window to pick up the child that day unless otherwise agreed upon. If parent for Mother's/Father's Day respectively doesn't have the child, they can pick an 8 hour window that day to pick up the child unless otherwise agreed upon. If time cannot be agreed upon, it will be noon-8PM.

Parent that does not have the child on Easter, New Years Day, Memorial Day, Labor Day, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Child"s Birthday, and Christmas Day can try to arrange a 5 hour window with the other parent to pick up that child that day. If time can't be agreed upon it will be noon-5.

Each Parent can request 2 weeks upon which they already have the child Mon Tues and Fri Sat Sun that week to become a full week Mon-Sun in the summer (defined as months school is out of session).

I think it's pretty fair.

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I got a Xbox Series X.

She is refusing to agree to anything. Refused to be served the court paperwork. Made me pay for a certified letter to serve her. Refuses to agree on a custody agreement. Making me pay for mediation. Refusing on anything across the board. Not because she wants something different. But, because she just refuses to agree on anything I say! Literally has not stated anything she wants besides "I want my kids to both go on the same weekend so I can have weekends without kids". Nothing else (which also is not at odds with what I proposed).

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Filed for 50/50 custody today

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shockthemonkey posted...

Yeah the NFL definitely paid out on Kaeps lawsuit because he was entirely in the wrong

They paid out to avoid discovery and to stop paying costs associated with the lawsuit.

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Kap literally turned down jobs. What is with this revisionist history that the NFL ran him out of the league.

He wouldn't agree to take the jobs that were offered to him. And, one team that was about to sign him, his girlfriend called the owner racist right beforehand so they changed their mind. Like, use facts. Kap wasn't run out of the league. There were teams that did not want his distraction and locker room issues, but teams were willing to sign him. He just wasn't good enough for the contract he wanted though. He wanted to be a star and make tens of millions. He was benched for Gabbert or some crap for literally being that bad in SF. He had a meteoric rise and fall in the NFL. You could argue Alex Smith got done dirty for Kap in the first place.

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I know one thing. A lot of people tend to say people should be able to abuse drugs or so on outside of work because their time off the clock is their own time.

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UltimaterializerX posted...

Dunno how I missed this post.

MMORPGs are all dog shit. I recently had to break off a 20 year friendship with a buddy because he was addicted to Final Fantasy 14 (this after being addicted to 11 and failing out of college because of it), to the point where even though he has a wife, he got married in-game to a dude and convinced his wife that they should meet the man he married in-game and turn an in-game marriage into this weird three-way relationship in real life. This would only be a thing with a girl that has ZERO self worth, because no woman worth being with would put up with that shit. If youre straight up emotionally abusing and cheating on your wife over a fuckin MMO, Im out.

That entire genre and everyone who enjoys it can burn, because Im convinced everyone who plays those games is a nutjob addict. Have you ever actually gone on Twitch and looked up the people who stream this junk? They all look like theyve been on psychotropic drugs for their entire life.

Lol what

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Alrdy being done.

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She gone. A lot of insults were hurled to get her gone, but she gone for good. That's good, I suppose. I do feel bad for being so mean to her, but she wasn't leaving otherwise.

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CaptainOfCrush posted...

I fear what you're going through as a "worst case scenario" if I ever break up with my gf (though you've likely got it 100x harder because of the kid/custody). She's kindhearted by nature and has never seemed vindictive, but she does live in my place, and who knows how anyone will react if you trigger their survivalist instincts.

*shrug* I just figured you know her dipping out on me with a flush bank account wouldn't have triggered the survivalist instincts so much!

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Well, i know why she is doing this. She is living here for free and they keep prorating her rent until she actually resides there. So, she is saving money at my expense the more she can put it off. The fact she ransacked almost my entire kitchen besides the refrigerator stuff tells me that she probably doesn't have a refrigerator running atm. (She also is trying to delay until she has internet set up).

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She still hasn't left. Keeps making excuses and moving back the date. She has moved most of her stuff out. I noticed over the past few days she literally just took a shopping spree through my house and took all kinds of shit out of it that wasn't hers or was food and stuff from my kitchen. She says she cooks so she needed the stuff so she didn't have to rebuy it. I was like, yeah, it doesn't work that way. She took literally over $150 in spices if not more. And, was vindictive about it. Like, if there was salt that was low and another that was full... she didn't just take the one that was low to have some and left the full one... she took it all. My kitchen went from stocked up to literally barely anything in it. All sides besides a box of macaroni and cheese was taken. Almost all of my canned goods. Most of my plates, bowls, etc, which doesn't matter because she keeps using the ones I have and leaving them unwashed. Won't leave but won't clean or anything either. Just making more and more of a disaster. Like, you can just look around the house and notice how vindictive she was across the whole thing. Now, I know why she made a big deal that I be out of the house and she pack herself. I shoulda just tossed her things on the porch and called it a day.

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foolm0r0n posted...

I tried in 2014. I went out with like 5 total and getting there was so much effort. Each match is a massive performance every time, and even meeting up doesn't feel right. It came so naturally to some people I guess.

But I have heard that the traditional sites that require a ton of investment to set up a profile still work decently. The high barrier to entry filters out a lot of people

That's literally eharmony and it's like 24 million people where like maybe half a million have accounts where they can even respond.

And, Tinder used to be a guaranteed lay back in the day. Lol.

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I don't give a shit about her anymore. It sucks that my life has been upended and basically destroyed but whatever. Don't care anymore. It is weird that we had sex more times in the last 2 weeks than the past 5 years combined though probably. My damn stomach muscles have been sore as fuck all week from all the thrusting and nonsense going on.

But whatever.

So on a veer. Dating is weird. I don't even feel like I know how to talk to girls anymore now since I been with one so long. Part of me is like let's go I am getting too old and wanting to find someone to have a family with is a closing window. Other part of me is like I don't know how I feel about women right now. So whatever.

One girl has been all up my ass trying to get with me to the point of annoyance because she seems like all over the place. She also can't have kids anymore so that's a big ehhhhhh.

This other girl I liked seems to conveniently ignore any hitting on her, but did recently tell me she is talking to someone else so that's fine... (Though we have basically everything in common and are in the same exact stages of life).

There is a other girl from the past who wanted me bad when I was already with my ex, so I am gonna see what's up with her. I doubt she is feeling it anymore after being jilted previously.

Online dating is a literal shitshow. It's so monetized that they are practically worthless. Tinder is like nonexistent anymore for matching at least in my areas. So many bots. I was judiciously using likes but after awhile I said fuck it and just swiped right on everything. Still not a single match there. *Shrug*. Hinge seems like the best one so far, but I have only had a single convo there with a cute girl but she went silent. Oh well. Match is weird. I have probably viewed 10,000 profiles at this point and easily like 50 in 30 minutes as they come up, yet only 33 people have viewed mine over the past 2 weeks. They want money. I get it. But, *yawn*. 1 match and 3 likes there but they didn't send me a message so I can't see who they are to send them one. Oh well.

Pof seems like a ghetto version. Lots of wanna fun people. It's by far where I have matched the most. 1 girl I matched with there I had to politely tell her she was one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen and can't possibly be in her stratosphere of what is acceptable to her and bow out. Matched with a few others there and it says a lot liked me but I haven't found them yet in swiping. So who knows. Pof is okay I guess.

Eharmony is the fucker though. So, they tricked me into paying for their website, and I instantly regretted it. They give you personality profiles and only let you talk to the people you match up well with. Well, nice I paid for a sub and have already exhausted those options already! Now what?! Lol. I did talk to one girl there, but pretty much all the other girls don't have subs themself so can't see me or reply to me. So, I get it's a scam to get you to sub. And I fell for it. Blah. Ironically the girl I matched the highest with on this site was the girl from above I said I had so much in common with but she is already talking to someone. Lmfao.

Rejoined my gym since my gym at work is closed due to covid. Starting that tomorrow. Played basketball the other day and was dominating like usual until I felt like I literally couldn't breathe anymore. My chest has been super tight and I have had a lingering cough for awhile. So might be why. I immediately quit smoking after that game just cuz that has to be playing a part in it. I usually only smoke when I drink so very rarely but all the stress lately had me chain smoking.

My cousin is trying to get me back into wow lol.

She still won't leave my house though she is almost all moved out now. Keeps citing new every changing reasons.

And, yes, I know my profile pictures are probably holding me back on OLD, but I don't really have people who wanna run around and take pictures of me.

And my cell phone doesn't charge anymore by wires. She destroyed the last bit of if that worked last week. So I bought some wireless chargers. They work but slow. I also was gonna buy a s21 + today but cricket said they don't support them. Wild.


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I am actually gonna call about a therapist Monday, just because I want a true independent voice. If I need to be better or if I was just being used and stomped on, I wanna know. To be better for the next girl.

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UltimaterializerX posted...

The next time people like me tell you about female nature, listen.

Now that we've established I know what I'm talking about, get yourself a female lawyer who isn't white. Just trust me on this one. You need someone on your side who understands exactly what kind of nonsense she's trying to pull. Go destroy her in court and never look back.

Also, hype.

It's a hard Trump area. I don't think that will help here. Judge likely is gonna be a republican.

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The kicker was when I said I could afford a certain number. She said that wasn't fair. When I pointed out it is double what she is getting from her other child's dad she reiterated it wasn't fair and wanted a number just about triple of the other support payment. When I shower her my bills and how I couldn't afford to stay living here with that amount, she said "sell your house and get a small apartment". Far cry from wanting me to stay there for my child's sake. That's when the light bulb went off. This was all about easing me into the game plan the whole time and trying to take advantage of my niceness in the process. I was giving her beds and dressers and desks and tv screens and etc. Not any more.

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Attorney time. She basically just wanted all the money she could get and a schedule to her preference. It was all a game. She was trying to figure out how to swingle keeping the car as well. She was never negotiating an agreement in good faith. I told her to get the fuck out. She is claiming I can't kick her out and she can stay as long as she wants until she is ready. I made it clear to get out and all the stuff I was gonna give her to help her was all staying now and off the table. Getting an attorney Monday to fight for me having 51/49 custody. I don't want child support off of her like she did off or me however. I no longer feel bad about things. I no longer am depressed. She showed her true colors and made me realize I was blind to her true self all along. Now I don't care about her anymore and I am going down fighting. Everything is being laid on the table. No pulling punches now to be nice.

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Everyone in real life has pretty much echoed everything here, but we all agree for keeping my house that staying out of the courts is the best option on that end

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foolm0r0n posted...

Dude clearly doesn't care about his kids at this point

Fuck off

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A bunch of people who keep telling me how bad of a person I am are telling me to do the same thing.

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Probably.

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Wanglicious posted...

bro, that ain't the message here, it's that even the people who don't like you are telling you to take care of yourself because you're clearly not, you've admitted you're not, and you're actively choosing the most self destructive pathways available.

No hope. No path forward. Trying to negotiate one forward that doesn't ruin everything. I was very suicidal a couple weeks back. I am trying to get my head on straight. I was feeling okay until she dropped that bomb on Wednesday. But, she is willing to come to an agreement she says so trying to do that.

Hopefully that works out at least.

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Samurai7 posted...

Does this really surprise anyone based on the way corrik has behaved in the past? It's just like the dui thing. When the situation applies to him he loses all sight and logic. Corrik man, as much as I don't personally like you, you've got to do this thing right. Don't make a silly mistake you'll feel the rest of your life.

Sorry to hear how much you personally don't like me. I don't know what I did to you personally to feel that way, but I am sorry for whatever I did. I wish you didn't feel that way.

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Trying to negotiate a child support payment with her as of now.

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I have lost 55lbs over the past month and a half maybe 2 months. Barely eating. Can't leave bed. Didn't go to work today or yesterday. Just nothing left.

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I ain't getting a lawyer. I don't care about anything anymore. Probably not even going to work anymore. I just have nothing in me left.

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As days go by she is getting crueler, ruder, and more hostile. She is still staying here and hasn't packed anything, but, yes, as you all warned she has said she is filing for a custody order I can't possibly follow and she knows that and for child support.

She ignores me completely and any time she talks to me she is rude or screaming.

I don't have any will or drive left.

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Lucavi000 posted...

you told her to roll over and not do anything?

I actually encouraged her to go for child support and she refused. Until he filed for custody. = /

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kevwaffles posted...

You say she didn't escalate in her last marriage until her ex filed for custody, but I'm 100% sure you just got her side of the story on that one.

I was with her. I know exactly how it went down. I told her how to proceed with it.

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Lopen posted...

He is frustrated because you're getting stepped on and saying "no, please, step on me more" rather than listening to advice that would save you from getting stepped on

You're an ant that loves a boot so much that you'd rather be crushed by it than run out of the way and deny the boot the satisfaction of crushing you.

You're acting like people want you to screw over the girl you love-- they don't, they just don't want you and your kids to get screwed over needlessly. There are ways to achieve that without hurting her, but you need to take some basic precautions to do so. Your path leads only to your destruction, but you'd rather mope than try to do anything.

I feel there are better ways to go about saying that. I also think things don't have to be so black and white. I have been physically ill. Mentally unwell. Barely eating. And have zero energy to do anything. I don't think saying I can't wait to laugh at you in 6 months is the best tact.

I get he is trying to be helpful. But, I think red's idea was far more apt. Get a consultation. Have someone on stand by if needed. And see what happens.

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Lucavi000 posted...

case in point, it got escalated.

I agree. By him.

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Lucavi000 posted...

when there are children involved it will always be escalated.

I guess youll find out soon enough.

She never took her ex for anything custody wise or child support wise until 4 years later when he filed for custody.

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PrivateBiscuit1 posted...

Cool, looking forward to you making a topic crying about how you have to have a custody battle when all this nonsense falls through in a messy way in six months.

You seem super antagonistic to someone who is not in a very great state of mind.

If she files something, I would get a lawyer then. You are trying to force me into the court system and escalate things that may not need to be escalated.

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There is no hearing.

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I feel like a walking corpse. And this pounding headache won't go away.

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red13n posted...

Of all the stuff you could potentially have to fight over, "hey i want to come over and use your pool" seems laughably hilariously dumb and pointless to me.

That's absolutely something that would ensure you never had another relationship again.

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Generally that agreement ends up being her having to know my work schedule and any day I am off having the kid overnight and any days she is off so she can do stuff. It's a way to ensure I am not seeing someone else and to ensure she can do whatever she wants with a built in babysitter.

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