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Topic | every friend i have who's going to therapy is doing the same as ever, or worse |
Dungeater 06/10/24 9:12:52 PM #9 | oh this dude is definitely shitting
why so many of u like this what's so hard about bein fr on here --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | every friend i have who's going to therapy is doing the same as ever, or worse |
Dungeater 06/10/24 9:11:23 PM #6 | therapy is years of hard work. often just to deal with one or two issues
most people have more than one or two issues math --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | accidentally pushing Y in slay the spire |
Dungeater 06/10/24 9:10:17 PM #2 | whats Y do
i dont even use my keyboard when i play --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Male nurses. |
Dungeater 06/10/24 8:59:51 PM #3 | tf?
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Topic | "I just hope they don't make Snake Eater political" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 8:35:19 PM #48 | he was probably "joking" but well aware that statements like that act as a rallying rad for his angry and impressionable young base
plausible deniability, best of both worlds OR he genuinely thinks he hasnt been portraying himself as someone that stupid, and truly didnt think through the optics of joking like that either way i dont think he actually meant it, but im sure he's happy to reap the benefit of the spotlight regardless --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | "I just hope they don't make Snake Eater political" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 8:30:03 PM #43 | HighSeraph posted...
Guy with repeated dumb takes about "politics' surprised when people believe joke about having a dumb take about politics. --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | The person you've been trolling on this websight confronts you IRL |
Dungeater 06/10/24 7:46:35 PM #48 | nvm i troll jerry hellyeah so i can kick his ass on behalf of whomever he's tryin to insult
--- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 7:43:55 PM #38 | alright. im going to draft my HR email
if even ppl here can plainly see that work is now taking its toll on my relationship, thats the sign i need. i should have listened to my therapist sooner --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | The person you've been trolling on this websight confronts you IRL |
Dungeater 06/10/24 7:32:03 PM #44 | a good many ppl here hate me for w/e reason but im confident id demolish any of em if they tried to fight me
oh. i read this as "who's been trolling u" i dont even troll anyone so this can't happen --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 5:40:16 PM #37 | it does help, i genuinely appreciate you, especially since you so often take the time to sympathize
i think this topic and my reflection have been the push i needed. ill get the Leave papers from HR and go over it with my therapist made it through another work day. really gonna give myself a break tn been going hard in on exercise. gonna just take an extra long warm shower, put on pajamas and slippers, and watch she-ra or something --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 4:05:56 PM #34 | thursday can't come soon enough lol (therapy day)
--- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 2:13:12 PM #33 | lunch break. finally. today has been hard on my brain between all the reflection and the work stuff
--- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 1:12:29 PM #32 | its alright, the fact that u read and posted already means something to me
i know my problem here is somewhat "advice-proof" by nature :v --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 12:54:44 PM #30 | i know about meetup yeah. the thing is, im not trying to meet a lot of people. i dont like people. in fact i hate people. thats another reason i default to tinder, its so easy to vet ppl one by one
and it takes a RARE person for me to actually wanna be friends in person with them. this is another thing i go over in therapy, we don't think this is liable to change thats why clicking/not clicking with this chick was such a drag too lol. never had a fromsoft friend, i was so stoked the weeks we talked [LFAQs-redacted-quote] yeaaaaa NoxObscuras posted... Also, if you feel like you just need a hug, or to be held, have you looked into platonic cuddling? There's sites for both professional cuddlers (that charge money) and amateur cuddlers. I tried it once a few years ago. I felt like I just needed physical contact with someone and it was very relaxing for me.its unfortunately not something im capable of its not so much *any* touch i need. its my partners touch --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 12:20:39 PM #26 | we do talk about it, and its only started bothering me a year and a half in when the long distance has become so hard due to other stressors in my life, namely work
we talk about it a lot actually. generally speaking, this has been the most communicative relationship of my life the difficulty is due in part to the fact that i never considered myself to have physical needs. i never ever got lonely. i never ever craved companionship. but as our relationship progresses, as we visit each other more, as we plan our next steps more i have found that for the first time in my life i am capable of feeling loneliness. and wanting a hug. its really hard to deal with since ive never had these feelings before. and theres no real way to address it in a long distance relationship argh --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 12:11:39 PM #24 | bsp77 posted...
Could it be that you don't actually want to be poly? That could be why you don't want physicality with someone else and also could be why you there is a roadblock with your partner. I could see that you want to be the kind of person who is poly based on your overall lifestyle and worldview but maybe you aren't actually built that way.im not polyam, i consider myself monogamous the extent to which i engage with the polyam community is reading books and asking questions, trying to gain insight and be supportive. i have no desire to practice it myself regarding my partner having other partners and relationships, i feel no jealousy. i dont feel that it comes at the expense of our own relationship. i just do this thing where i compare myself with him, and i think "man it would be so easy for me right now if i was capable of doing that too" its not even that i want to be able to date other people. its more like "man, i can turn on easy mode anytime but i just dont. because its not for me" its difficult to explain --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 12:08:19 PM #23 | god fuck gamefaqs dude. i wrote this whole big thing and it crashes my phone browser. ugh
--- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 11:57:23 AM #21 | NoxObscuras posted...
So, what was the goal in meeting someone on tinder? Just to see if you could manage it? She probably ghosted because she expected some kind of hookup out of a tinder match. Nothing wrong with it, just... expect that kind of reaction again if you meet someone else on there. There's quite a few "I'm not looking for a hookup" people that end up hooking up.tinder is really the only place i know how to make friends, but yes i run into the problem you outlined here. i used to not have a problem casually sleeping around (years ago, plus i was single) and made a lot of friends that started as hookups i do need that break from work its just really hard taking that step. our department is bleeding members left and right and its only getting busier. i understand thats on my employer for understaffing us, but i dont wanna deal with the interpersonal drama that could arise from me disappearing for a month i do think if work was eliminated id be able to tolerate the distance between me and my partner, fwiw [LFAQs-redacted-quote] more the latter. and on his end, he can supplement the LDR with actual irl people, so it doesnt hit him as hard (still hard though) --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 11:46:51 AM #17 | Mistere_Man posted...
Who we are is an ever evolving thing, so there are times one can need to break the norm and reevaluate things as change is how we grow as a person.i appreciate u posting anytime, dont beat yourself up. you gave me something to think about, that makes your post worth it --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 11:43:40 AM #15 | bsp77 posted...
To me, this says you are not investednoted AceMos posted... *hug*i do talk to my therapist about this. i appreciate the sentiment since i kno its genuine coming from u but yeah if i moan about something here its a safe bet im venting and actually do talk about it in therapy --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Pill went down the wrong way |
Dungeater 06/10/24 11:41:10 AM #5 | that shit hurts
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Topic | Guys im looking for a specific ancient reaction gif |
Dungeater 06/10/24 10:43:44 AM #3 | https://i.imgur.com/feiHirk.gif
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Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 10:42:22 AM #10 | im very invested in my relationship, i can still easily picture a life together. the waiting is just hard
i turned her down because i dont wanna get physical with other ppl. i had a feeling she was gonna want that (we met on tinder after all) but i was upfront to start with that its not something thats for me. unfortunately shes just in a place where thats what shes looking for and when i say its a bummer, thats all it is. we were only talking for a few weeks, but we clicked really well and i was really happy to have someone as autistically into fromsoft as i am lol --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 10:26:49 AM #8 | Waxitron_Gazer posted...
there are so many red flags there idk what to say other than i hope your effort on yourself makes your fate the grandest and more brilliant of all.i dont think id call anything red flags. yellow flags sure. we're together a year and a half at this point and normally i dont dwell on things like this, but work has been really rough lately and ive got no real relationship support structure due to the distance and distaste for dating others, so im just sort of weathering the storm on my own i dont think these thoughts would come up if not for work breaking me apart. but as work gets worse and worse, more and more i focus on only negative things. i dont even laugh most days anymore my therapist has been urging me to go on mental leave for a while now. she said its going to start causing me to spiral and possibly tank relationships and start isolating etc shes prolly right [LFAQs-redacted-quote] ive seen plenty work. my real problem is the distance. its very difficult. i have all of the investment of a relationship but only get my needs met every couple of months. im not upset at the fact he has other partners, im upset that its not something im able to do myself, because if i was then id be able to get my short term needs met and.more easily wait out the time til we move in together --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | so I've asked my partner for a "break" |
Dungeater 06/10/24 8:58:02 AM #1 | not the "i want to fuck around with other people but still keep you in my back pocket" break, but like, an actual time out
i havent had the energy to put into the relationship for a while, i need it on the backburner while i recover and figure things out he was just away for two weeks on a trip to australia. during that time a new friend id made (big deal for me, i dont like getting new friends) told me she'd wanted to escalate to a physical relationship, be that fwb, casual dating, or whatever. i turned that down which confused her (and myself ig) because given the parameters of my partners and my relationship, it would be fine. he has other partners and he has casual hook-ups. we're also long distance but it just wasnt something i could bring myself to do she's soft-ghosted me, which is a bummer. because i havent clicked with a new friend like that in a very long time. if my partner can fuck around and not feel bad about it, why can't i? so thats one of two big things i need to sort myself out on. the other is that its becoming nearly impossible to recognize he has "problems" like everyone else in life. i have this issue where if someone is well off, has no stress, has all their needs met, loves their job, has a ton of off time, and is at no threat of any of this being taken away from them, then i dont really consider that person capable of having real problems (beyond interpersonal stuff) and thats the kind of life he has. we were supposed to do another visit this month and instead i asked for a break. cuz i didnt miss him during his trip, i asked him not to message me while he was on it, and that alarmed me somewhat. ive got some work ahead of me. it sucks man --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | I have no idea what it's like to have to work for anything in life |
Dungeater 06/09/24 10:59:19 PM #6 | i would like to be handed something sometime
--- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | people upset that a majority of protagonists in new revealed games are female |
Dungeater 06/09/24 10:00:58 PM #29 | i prefer a male protagonist but i wouldnt complain about a chick at all
--- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | reminder that Nimona is a TRASH film *spoilers* |
Dungeater 06/09/24 9:47:33 PM #58 | AceMos posted...
yep watch both of those love themtohah, i had a feeling :p --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | reminder that Nimona is a TRASH film *spoilers* |
Dungeater 06/09/24 9:28:43 PM #55 | well i don't wanna go into too much detail but he's worked on amphibia and moon girl/devil dinosaur to name a couple
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Topic | reminder that Nimona is a TRASH film *spoilers* |
Dungeater 06/09/24 8:41:25 PM #51 | i know i know! ive been meaning to get around to she-ra for ages at this point
ya know what tonights the night --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | reminder that Nimona is a TRASH film *spoilers* |
Dungeater 06/09/24 8:37:14 PM #48 | there's a pretty good chance he's worked on a show or two that u like tbh
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Topic | Are the Yakuza games good |
Dungeater 06/09/24 7:42:36 PM #13 | there was a 15 month stretch of my life when i only played yakuza games. marathoned the entire series including dead souls, all the way up to lost judgment. no kenzan or ishin at the time tho, just the localized ones
and kurohyou --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Are the Yakuza games good |
Dungeater 06/09/24 7:38:10 PM #11 | might be the most consistently good series in existence. deff a contender
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Topic | reminder that Nimona is a TRASH film *spoilers* |
Dungeater 06/09/24 7:30:48 PM #46 | AceMos posted...
wait your partner is friends with ND stevenson SWEETyeye he knows a lot of ppl in the industry actually --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Did you use a spirit ash on Malenia? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 4:00:57 PM #4 | also, don't feel bad if ppl condescend to you about using them. its not "cheesing" or whatever
if u won u won --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Did you use a spirit ash on Malenia? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:59:56 PM #3 | not usually, tho I've beaten her with em in subsequent playthrus. ive finished the game dozens of times at this point tho and i usually fight her solo
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Topic | Do you call a Pizza with just cheese abd no other topping a Cheese Pizza? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:50:05 PM #34 | no one calls it plain pizza either. its a regular pie
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Topic | WTF MAX IS BACK!?! Am I seeing this right? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:39:11 PM #19 | Prestoff posted...
Mix feelings. On one hand the story of the first game was already completed, there's almost no reason I can think of other than nostalgia and $$$$$. On the other hand, because of nostalgia and how much of an impact the first game had on me, this is probably going to be a day 1 purchase for me as well. So yeah this is me at my cognitive dissonance, but at least I acknowledge it.this about sums it up like, this is a game i never imagined existing. thats how conclusive the first one felt to me i never even conceived of it now that i can see it is a reality, im all in --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | WTF MAX IS BACK!?! Am I seeing this right? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:31:13 PM #11 | Doe posted...
Wasn't the more popular player choice ending (Mega Spoilers)damn that would suck i went thru so much pain and turmoil picking the other one --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | WTF MAX IS BACK!?! Am I seeing this right? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:21:56 PM #5 | day 1 buy
didnt touch any life is stranges besides the first im in it for max, not anthology randos --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Does anyone actually do the peanuts and Coca Cola thing? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:10:06 PM #3 | someone on reddit posted a pic of it the other day, it hit the front page
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Topic | 101 days later, have you played Final Fantasy 7 Rebirth? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 3:06:27 PM #29 | UnholyMudcrab posted...
I've never played any Final Fantasy game --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | The amount of girls who promote their OF's on dating apps is disgusting |
Dungeater 06/09/24 2:56:06 PM #127 | Axiom posted...
Stop hitting on every girl in lingerie that's posing like she's in playboy and you won't have that problemprolly tru, but i have lingerie pics on my tinder and i dont shill nothin ppl ive matched with too --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Do you call a Pizza with just cheese abd no other topping a Cheese Pizza? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 2:52:52 PM #29 | no that's weird af
it's just a pizza --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Dragon Age: The Veilguard Reveal Trailer |
Dungeater 06/09/24 2:33:17 PM #21 | dragon age has well and truly lost its way
or rather, i should say, its unequivocally no longer for me. this looks like a marvel movie ah well, hope it pays off for those who are gettin it --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Cheese pizza is the blandest, most pointless pizza ever. |
Dungeater 06/09/24 11:41:35 AM #79 | no
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Topic | Cheese pizza is the blandest, most pointless pizza ever. |
Dungeater 06/09/24 11:34:32 AM #77 | LinkPizza posted...
Nope. Its pretty normalits not --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
Topic | Let's entertain the nightmare that Trump wins, then what? |
Dungeater 06/09/24 11:33:07 AM #35 | Eat_More_Beef posted...
Yeeeaaaaaah, I dunno if that's gonna be a good move in a couple of years. Pierre Polliver is probably gonna win the next election we have and then we're gonna start spirling down the right wing shit hole that is the United States.vancouver. im moving regardless --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him |
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