I'm pretty sure the guy in the Raimi movies was a burgler who broke into their house, while Peter was gone. Peter came back to a dead Uncle Ben, while it happened right across the street in this one. He saw the action, but he didn't realize until he got over there that it was Uncle Ben.
Nope, in the Raimi movies Uncle Ben tried to stop them from taking his car, only to get shot. Peter then runs up to find Ben still alive in his final moments.
In this one, Peter may have heard the scuffle, but he clearly waits to turn around until after the gunman has left. Once again, he doesn't witness the deed, only arrives to see his uncle (already) dead.
The moment in both movies happens out of spite, but in the Raimi ones, it's because Peter is acting very smug and over-confident, and in the new one it's because he was emotional after having a fight with his uncle. Peter is much less of a jerk in this one, which makes the scene that much more meaningful. Acting out of spite because you're emotional is a much more human experience.
That's the thing, though: both are a reflection of the character's development up until that point. In Raimi's Spider-Man, it's about Peter Parker's growing confidence and smugness driving a wedge between him and his uncle. In the new one, it's a reflection of frustration. Both work in terms of what they were trying to accomplish relative to character development.
We definitely see it, though. She's the head intern at a major lab at age 17, which is incredibly impressive.
No, see, that's telling. Showing would be giving examples of Gwen's drive and intelligence. OK, she has a post as head intern at Oscorp. Why? Do we get any scenes that show off Gwen's intelligence? Hell, I think we get more scenes that involve showing Gwen's, well, stupidity. I mean, she attacks the Lizard with a trophy. She takes the system for delivering the Lizard formula, and rather than tossing it out the window, or hell, DESTROYING IT she hides in a closet and tries to stop the Lizard with... a bunsen burner. I guess if we're supposed to play this character off as intelligent as Parker, there should have been more scenes showing that off. Have them talking in class or something that reflects that. I guess I don't see Gwen as that intelligent in the film.
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