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TetsuoS2 posted...

idk man, if it was this one event I would at least try to see if they have any reasonable excuse to do it, and if they're lying.

If it was building up for a while and you didn't put it on here then it's really up to you.

Sometimes new insults just pop up depending on the media you've consumed recently.

It's not that I'll think they're lying, it's that we've said things to each other jokingly, insults, and what not, but never in the heat of an argument.

R1masher posted...

I try to work things out with people I consider friends

We've been friends for 20 years and I've done a lot to keep our friendship and we've had moments, but it feels like we've drifted a lot anyway. We work together but barely talk and I just say it's because we're always near each other, but he usually talks to the other cooks about what game they're playing and etc. We usually talk about comics when he's in the mood for it. It is what it is, I don't mind anymore.

SpiritSephiroth posted...

Maybe try to talk to him. People say shit they don't mean all the time, if its just a one off and this person really is close to you, try to talk it out.

I agree. People say things they don't mean, it just sounds like something he wouldn't ever say and I worry that it's something he subconsciously thinks of me.

Baron_Ox posted...

I feel like, once things have calmed down a bit, you should try to talk things out just because like you said, you two are on different wavelengths about things, and he might not have known how hurtful what he said could be.

not to give him a pass, but to let him know how it made you feel and to see if there's getting past it.

like, I'm from a background where me and my friends would shit talk to each other, and I feel like that might make me blind in how I might interact with others who might not have done so.

I believe he knows already. The problem is that it used to be me that would blow up in anger but I'd never do that. We'd argue, yell, but never to a point where I'd use whatever insult that came to mind because I know him well enough about what insults would make hurt him well. We know each of our secrets and insecurities. So to say it loudly in a store full of customers....