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Glob posted...

Maybe if your colleagues are all teenagers.

I wish that were the case.

Being friendly with one person doesnt mean you have to be unfriendly to another. Sounds like your workplaces have problems with tribalism and a lack of professionalism.

I'm friendly to most people here. I am unkind to none of my coworkers, and even stand up for them if they are being mistreated by clients. I have others come to me for help with work, even. But I keep professional barriers with these folks. You seem to mistake my being professional with being cold, which I am not.

Probably. I work for a very small company, and we've all known each other for a while. Everyone's chill and there's no drama. Well, sometimes work-related drama, but that will be the clients acting up.

I will say that at the last agency I worked at, we were very small and friendly with one another. About as close as I've ever come to "We're a family" being true. I still kept up barriers there, but if I ever go back I might relax thise rules just because of how special that place was.

Literally everywhere else I've been (including the huge agency I'm at now) has not been the case.

Shamino posted...

You are going to live a very lonely life if you don't make any friendships at all at work. Such a pessimistic view of friendship isn't healthy.

I've seen how people get treated after they leave here. They're just numbers, for the most part, and everyone is in a cliques and backstabbing. Half the reason I want to leave.

I don't want a large circle of friends, anyway. Makes me anxious. I am very glad I have a small circle of people I can trust with my life outside of work, and I'm okay with that. At work? There are literally two people that I will treat as anything above "friendly", but not quite friends. Too many bad experiences.

What industry do you work in that creates so much drama?

Government. Before that, law (which was only marginally better). Before that, food service and retail.

I worked at Target for years and never once was I sucked into drama, and I even worked there with friends I knew before I worked there. And I started working there after I graduated HS, as did most people I worked with.
In fact, when it came to romance people were very discrete. Mainly because no one was try to create drama on purpose or get fired or get talked about.

That sounds like good people to work with. For the most part, I do not have those.

Are there any consequences for drama where you work ?

Professional? Not many, unless you really fuck up and the union can't defend you. Mostly it's social ostracization and pettiness. I have seen people get ostracized and talked about behind their backs more than me, the guy who tries to stay above the fray. Seeing that people kept me out of drama by my way of just being neutrally friendly with everyone has reaffirmed my beliefs in this.