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gamepimp12 posted...

When were good ? Between typically between 3-1 times a month, she might swing by my house to pick up some stuff but those are typically 20 minute visits on the way to her moms house, Im not complaining considering she lives an hour and a half - 2 hours away.

and I totally understand her thinking I want more, I dont want a relationship right now but If I did itd be her, and Ive openly admitted that. Ive also openly admitted that while I treat her like my gf (when were good I regularly by her flowers, generally make sure shes good.) I dont want a girlfriend until I feel I can provide accordingly for myself her and whatever family we may have and I dont know how many times I can express that without coming off as a broken record.

i support her self discovery completely, but at times it comes at my direct expense. She does weird shit like block me on social media apps we dont speak up and gives no reason, or make pretty romantic plans with me only to cancel at the last minute and instead go and get tacos a week later, or wear my favorite hoodie, my favorite t shirt and the necklace I bought her to tell me she doesnt like me (cause she wont acknowledge any feelings atm) its just weird and feels like the run around. Cause she does all this hot and cold stuff but the second she thinks im disappointed in her, shes making plans to see me with in the week.

No offense man, but this sounds like your actions aren't matching your words. You say you don't want a girlfriend right now, but then you treat her like your girlfriend. And you call her your ex, despite her never actually being your girlfriend.

It sounds like you do want a relationship right now. You're just telling yourself you don't, because she doesn't want a relationship. The more you explain about this situation, the more I say you should just leave her alone and find someone that actually wants to start a relationship.

Right now you're orbiting, hoping that she will eventually want a relationship with you once she's done with her self discovery. And she's keeping you around for the closeness and goes cold when you start getting too close. All of this is just going to keep making you feel bad.