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mercurydude posted...

Why are you asking me to speak for Demi Lovato? All of that is their business, it has nothing to do with me.

Anyway, some people are genderfluid, maybe that's how she sees herself. But yeah, it seems your confusion stems from you trying to place someone in a box they were never in to begin with.

I've never really had any difficulty in the area of pronouns despite my understanding of these issues sometimes feeling imperfect. I just follow one simple rule when it comes to pronouns and it's served me well. The rule is this: don't be a douche.

If someone wants me to refer to them as something, it doesn't break my leg to do so. I don't throw out the one republican joke about an attack helicopter, I don't get in someone's face about how put upon I feel to refer to them a certain way (because why the hell would I feel put upon over such a simple thing?), etc. IOW, I don't lose my shit over being considerate to somebody, and I don't understand why people do lose their shit over it. Life's too short.

Not asking you to speak for her! I was in simple terms trying to ask if its allowed within the LGTBQ+. Im one to admit that I have no idea what Im talking about when it comes to it, thats why I asked. Your explanation along with others of genderfluid explains it/makes it make sense for me. I call anyone whatever they want to be called. Ill never purposely be a douche, although it does take a little time to get used to. For example, I reread my first post and realized I called Demi Lovato she a couple times. It wasnt done with malice though.