LogFAQs > #888816041

LurkerFAQs, Active DB, DB1, Database 2 ( 09.16.2017-02.21.2018 ), DB3, DB4, DB5, DB6, DB7, DB8, DB9, DB10, DB11, DB12, Clear

Topic List	Page List: 1
Topic	What would you do if you have 30y/o NEET son living with you
TheCyborgNinja 10/20/17 6:15:33 PM #17:	Zeus posted... MannerSaurus posted... Zeus posted... Of course, if it was me, I wouldn't have waited to resolve the problem until he was 30. That's just shit parenting. True. But what if something happened at 30 years old and it triggered all kinds of extreme mental problems? Just bouncing thoughts here. The majority of mental problems don't just come out of nowhere, though. And, if it was a case of PTSD, you'd know enough to get the kid counseling at the first signs of trouble. Frankly, I'd probably get him counseling even before problems manifested if I suspected there was a risk. A person's children should be their highest priority. Yeah, as a certified maniac, I can vouch for this. The better somebody is at adapting to their problems, the longer it will take to confront them. I never had substance abuse issues and was very charismatic in the face of introversion, so I was able to avoid getting the help I didn't want but sorely needed. Nothing really caught up to me until I moved out (at age 21) with my girlfriend and we went 2000 miles away from home. I held it together enough that I still wasn't forced to confront anything though... The hardest part, from personal experience, is that mental illness becomes normalized over time when you're constantly having to factor it into daily life. You develop coping mechanisms, which are often bad, and aren't necessarily consciously aware that you're as fucked up as you truly are. Everything clicked the night I was puking on myself in the emergency room, feeling like I had pneumonia, and it turned out it was stress-related. I got a new doctor around that time and he was vastly superior to my old one, and he made it really easy for me to get things in order. Therapy helped me immensely by just peeling off layers like an onion and allowing for a lot more introspection. My understanding of things prior was extremely rudimentary, which is why I couldn't get anywhere on my own. I needed an educated, outside opinion to guide my investigation, and that made all the difference. --- "message parlor" ? do you mean the post office ? - SlayerX888 <cite>TheCyborgNinja posted [p:888816041] in What would... [t:75901074]...</cite> <quote><cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote><cite>MannerSaurus posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>Of course, if it was me, I wouldn't have waited to resolve the problem until he was 30. That's just shit parenting.</quote> True. But what if something happened at 30 years old and it triggered all kinds of extreme mental problems? Just bouncing thoughts here.</quote> The majority of mental problems don't just come out of nowhere, though. And, if it was a case of PTSD, you'd know enough to get the kid counseling at the first signs of trouble. Frankly, I'd probably get him counseling even before problems manifested if I suspected there was a risk. A person's children should be their highest priority.</quote> Yeah, as a certified maniac, I can vouch for this. The better somebody is at adapting to their problems, the longer it will take to confront them. I never had substance abuse issues and was very charismatic in the face of introversion, so I was able to avoid getting the help I didn't want but sorely needed. Nothing really caught up to me until I moved out (at age 21) with my girlfriend and we went 2000 miles away from home. I held it together enough that I still wasn't forced to confront anything though... The hardest part, from personal experience, is that mental illness becomes normalized over time when you're constantly having to factor it into daily life. You develop coping mechanisms, which are often bad, and aren't necessarily consciously aware that you're as fucked up as you truly are. Everything clicked the night I was puking on myself in the emergency room, feeling like I had pneumonia, and it turned out it was stress-related. I got a new doctor around that time and he was vastly superior to my old one, and he made it really easy for me to get things in order. Therapy helped me immensely by just peeling off layers like an onion and allowing for a lot more introspection. My understanding of things prior was extremely rudimentary, which is why I couldn't get anywhere on my own. I needed an educated, outside opinion to guide my investigation, and that made all the difference. --- "message parlor" ? do you mean the post office ? - SlayerX888</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Topic List	Page List: 1