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emblem boy posted...

I was like, wtf. Shit like that worries me.
This is something I should be thinking about correct? Cause now when she mentions she wants to go on a trip, in my head I'm like"you don't got traveling money"

Definitely something to think about in conjunction with her other habits. Because having debt and spending on luxuries can be mitigated by her being generally responsible/having a budget and all that. If she just spends frivolously it's more of a red flag obviously

emblem boy posted...

What's the difference in those 2 things?

I don't think I can answer this in a satisfactory way - I've generally found it to be a more intuitive feeling and I'm not always able to place it. But being in a relationship generally (and ideally) demands more openness and responsibility than being a friend imo, and when you're constantly in close quarters with someone like that (physically and emotionally) personality traits are amplified and can become grating if they're not suited to each other.

Granted, that might be a problem that can be solved with communication and compromise - Darkman once recommended a book called "The 5 Love Languages" or something that was about the different ways certain people express and expect affection and how those can clash, that might be instructive here
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