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EclairReturns posted...

helIy posted...

jen have a lot of alts

Some people would argue that RC is another account that she owns, but the premise is entirely ridiculous.

idk, I saw a very compelling string board.

JCvgluvr posted...

I live in a small midwest city of 60,000 people or so. Using the 60 mile limitation got me about 15 matches in total after a month of waiting. That's what I call stupid. I didn't see an alternative to opening my distance limitation. I'm also not interested in using hookup apps like Tinder. I'm not looking to score some dirty poon tang. The same goes for bars and clubs. Don't want to meet the women who go to those places. I don't even drink.

...then try another dating app. eHarmony doesn't have nearly as large a userbase as many others. And you could also change your parameters so you turn up more matches.

In general, eHarmony was a big deal like 15 years ago but it's not terribly relevant any more. While I'm not sure what the best online dating site is (and quite frankly I prefer meeting people IRL), I will tell you that some of my friends, co-workers, and relatives met their future spouses on POF.

JCvgluvr posted...

Like I told Zeus, I was originally matched with about 15 women. I messaged one of them. (Didn't like the rest, or wasn't compatible with them.) And she checked out my profile, refused to reply back, and then ended the match connection, politely indicating she'd moved on. It happens. Since then, I've messaged 4 more women, after opening up my distance limitation. Some of them are a few hours away from me. But there's at least one chick I'm really hoping gets back to me! She's a cute disney nerd who listed tons of anime in her favorite tv section. Could be my kind of woman. =D

LOL! So basically your entire activity has consisted of messaging five woman? And you're wondering why you didn't have any luck? -_-

Either change your search parameters or use a different service. In fact, just use a different service.

JCvgluvr posted...

Yeah tell me about it....I've had absolutely no luck in real life, and I'm really hoping to get married some day. I'm turning 30 in a couple of weeks and haven't had a romantic relationship yet. It bothers me. I look young for my age, thankfully. So it's not too late. Rather than pine for my soul mate every day, I do my best to remind myself that I'm very blessed in my daily life, and I should just be grateful for what I have. But it's still rough sometimes.

Honestly, if you can't can't talk to women and convince them to go out with you IRL, you probably shouldn't expect to have much more luck online. If you're 30 and you've never been with anybody, you're most likely lacking basic skills. And while you might get lucky and just have a woman land in your lap, it's much more likely that you're going to require help of some kind. Otherwise you might still be stuck in this boat a few decades down the line. And talking about being grateful for what you have makes it sound like you're trying to get comfortable with the fact that you're going to be alone, which isn't the mindset you want to have.
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