A person who kills themselves is not some hero, but selfish is the wrong word to describe it. Theyre not doing something to make themselves happy at the cost of their loved ones happiness.
No one said they're a hero. But they shouldn't be vilified either. When someone has reached a level of depression where they think suicide is not only the best answer, but the only answer, they aren't thinking rationally.
It's not like when you are in a deep, clinical depression you can just change something and it goes away. I've seen depressed individuals be told "Oh just go for a jog" or "You have everything going for them", like these people haven't already tried something or listed out the things they have going for them, like the people who are making these suggestions are some type of depression savant. In most cases those people are coming from a place of caring, but it can actually do more harm because when you are depressed and people are telling you to do these things and it will make it go away, when it doesn't go away, you further think you are broken.
I agree.
I wanted to make it clear Im not defending suicide. Im not condoning it, Im not saying it is a good thing, Im not saying there is no other option, Im not saying that a person cant seek help, Im not saying that a person who kills themselves is automatically a good person.
But calling somebody who kills themselves selfish or cowardly is fucking bullshit