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Just because your asexual doesn't mean you don't have a sex drive, or can't get turned on, it just means looking at either sex doesn't automatically turn you on, you often may not get sexual jokes/innuendo etc, and sex may not be a primary (or any type) of motivator for you.

You can be asexual and still have a totally normal sexual relationship. Heck gay people have been faking it with people they are not sexually attracted too throughout history. Asexuals can certainly do the same, and can still even enjoy sex.

I have certainly been attracted to women throughout my life, but boobs etc are not a primary turn on for me. I would consider myself Demisexual in that I can become attracted to someone I know, physically, and it's primarily because of the intimacy/closeness and pure fun, of sex, not an innate drive/desire for it.

I had sex for the first time at 19, but I certainly had opportunities before that (even if I didn't know it at the time) I was totally clueless when girls hit on me when younger. I only had sex then because EVERYONE was having it and talking about how great it was etc, it wasn't because I saw some girl and was turned on by her.

I could probably be in a relationship with a guy just as easily as with a girl, but I don't think my personality fits what most guys would be into, I did have one guy I guess was seriously hitting on me back in my 20's when I was in theater arts, he asked me to go on a trip with him and stuff and I had no clue at all he was interested in me (I realized it years later). I had girls literally sit on my lap (ask to) when I was a teen and I had no clue she was interested at all lol. I was a total clueless idiot.

I think it actually made me better at having sex though as there wasn't a sense of urgency, and I was willing to take my time and concentrate on my partners pleasure etc.

Shrug, certainly don't think being asexual is just equivalent to a low sex drive.
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