What you're saying is "Rather than making bigots concede anything, you as their victims should have to concede some of your humanity."
You're a male, presumably? Here's what you're proposing.
Rachel wants all men to be forcibly castrated upon reaching the onset of puberty. At minimum, in order to discuss the basic reproductive rights at stake you'll have to at least agree that all men at age 18 should be forced to receive a vasectomy and it can only be reversed should they enter into a gay relationship and get married to that partner for a period of no less than 5 years.
If you don't agree with that then how can you, the victim Rachel wants in this scenario, ever possibly have a meaningful conversation?
I dont think thats a good comparison because I don't think transgenders fit into a normal gender role so why use a restroom for someone who is? I'm all for transgender restrooms or gender fluid/non binary. But you have to see that there are concerns in some scenarios.