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adjl posted...

"My name is ____."
"No it's not."

It truly baffles me that people seem to think that's acceptable behaviour in any context outside of formal identity verification (and even then, it's not "your name isn't what you say it is," it's "you haven't completed the necessary paperwork for us to be able to recognize that name").

It's entirely valid, you just have to understand the basic premise of what a name is, which is:

name
/nem/

noun

a word or set of words by which a person or thing is known, addressed, or referred to.
"my name is John Parsons"

You do not determine what your name is, your name is how you are known. Your name is chosen by your parents out of convenience to distinguish you, it doesn't have any value beyond an indentifying code. If you know you as Elliot then that's great, but other people know you as Ellen and so your name is Ellen as that is how you are known. It's no different to being known as a drunk or a womaniser, it's an identifier.

What's completely unacceptable is to say "You don't know me how you think you know me, you know me by X because I said so." You do not decide what other people think and feel, that is completely off-limits to you and to think you can dictate that to people is completely disrespectful of their autonomy.
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