LogFAQs > #952384559

In a lot of ways having separate interests can make your relationship stronger.

Of course you want to spend time together doing whatever it is you both enjoy, but it can be equally important to the overall health of each person and their relationship to spend time apart from one another.

My wife and I both enjoy traveling, dining out, visiting museums, going on hikes, going to the beach, kayaking, cycling, etc

But she enjoys watching medical dramas like ER or Grey's Anatomy, which I don't care for. And I enjoy kung-fu flicks and video games, which she doesn't care for. So maybe one night a week or so we'll each do our own thing.

Once in a while it's nice to put aside your differences and try to enjoy each other's interests. Sometimes I'll watch a couple episodes of ER, or she'll play a few rounds of Mario Kart with me, just to spend some time together.

You can't always be a stick in the mud. It's good to be open to new experiences, and allow yourself to enjoy them. Don't go into it holding a grudge and starting off on the wrong foot being miserable from the jump. Be open-minded and look for things you do enjoy about her activities. Even if you don't enjoy them 100% you may find some part of the experience enjoyable and you can focus on that if you ever do it again.

You may be able to discover some facet in shared activities and that you can relate to other activities that you both might enjoy.

Let's say one of you like hiking but the other doesn't. Maybe try geocaching and seeing if you have a better time of it

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