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joe40001 posted...

No. I am asking as a fundamental broad question. This does not relate to anything specific.

Like people said, really depends on the context.
It's easy to tell people to not be offended, but that's not how it works and some things are of course legitimate to be offended about.

Who you are talking to, your relationship with them, the setting and what it's actually about.e Being a bully and being racist/bigot is not tolerated. Being an asshole for no reason also shouldn't be tolerated. Threatening someone's safety won't be tolerated. If you are at a comedy club and make fun of everyone and yourself, that's okay, because the general audience knows it's an act.

But If you want to speak the truth to someone, like how you are feeling because they make you feel upset, how and where you say things matter still. There are a lot of sensitive matter that not everyone needs to know as well. Like if you say offensive shit at work, then you can get disciplined or fired at work..

Being honest, even when delivering the truth hurts, is a valuable skill to have. But you can't be blunt in every facet, especially if it humiliates others and creates a toxic environment. Especially at work. Sometimes you don't even say things intentionally as a joke like what you perceive as a harmless racist or sexist joke, but your coworkers aren't your best buddies and that will get you in trouble.

I was too soft at my previous job. I never reported my manager for the unprofessional shit she said to me as well as the gaslighting. And I had to pay for it in the end.

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