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Topic	If one person in a gay couple becomes a transgender woman
ClockworkHare 11/23/21 9:26:23 AM #17:	EffectAndCause posted... are they now just a regular boring straight couple? In my experience, it generally depends on how both partners view their relationship. I have met one couple where the gay man still viewed his transwoman partner as male "on the inside" despite the significant surgical changes to said partner's body. They both insisted they were comfortable with this stipulation and valued the fact that it worked for them. The gay man made it clear he had no intention of ever identifying as any other orientation besides the homosexuality he lived for over 40 years despite settling down with someone who later identifies as a woman. And his trans partner voiced respect for that condition because it felt mutual. She said she really valued the relationship more than idealism, stating that "trying to settle down as a trans woman" seemed like an almost impossible feat as is. That understanding is part of why they felt comfortable enough to remain married even after one partner transitioned. She said she felt fine about compromising for him because honestly he made one of the biggest compromises a gay man could make in return. The man continues to identify as a gay male while the wife identifies as a transwoman. They said other people understanding how that works was unnecessary and critique was unwelcomed. Another couple I met contrasted heavily and basically went the opposite direction. A couple that was originally 2 gay men decided to begin identifying as a straight couple because the transwoman partner felt more comfortable and the other partner consented. I would imagine this is probably a more ideal arrangement for the trans partner compared to above. Although I could definitely see reasons why it would not be a simple adjustment for everyone to make within gay communities. As someone who's been active within gay communities for years, I saw both arrangements as valid despite what some critics would say. Both couples functioned in their own ways as happy pairings. To me that's primarily what matters. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://tryimg.com/u/2020/08/11/1tZ1gcH.jpg <cite>ClockworkHare posted [p:960269566] in If one per... [t:79774688]...</cite> <quote>EffectAndCause posted... </cite> <quote>are they now just a regular boring straight couple?</quote>In my experience, it generally depends on how both partners view their relationship. I have met one couple where the gay man still viewed his transwoman partner as male "on the inside" despite the significant surgical changes to said partner's body. They both insisted they were comfortable with this stipulation and valued the fact that it worked for them. The gay man made it clear he had no intention of ever identifying as any other orientation besides the homosexuality he lived for over 40 years despite settling down with someone who later identifies as a woman. And his trans partner voiced respect for that condition because it felt mutual. She said she really valued the relationship more than idealism, stating that "trying to settle down as a trans woman" seemed like an almost impossible feat as is. That understanding is part of why they felt comfortable enough to remain married even after one partner transitioned. She said she felt fine about compromising for him because honestly he made one of the biggest compromises a gay man could make in return. The man continues to identify as a gay male while the wife identifies as a transwoman. They said other people understanding how that works was unnecessary and critique was unwelcomed. Another couple I met contrasted heavily and basically went the opposite direction. A couple that was originally 2 gay men decided to begin identifying as a straight couple because the transwoman partner felt more comfortable and the other partner consented. I would imagine this is probably a more ideal arrangement for the trans partner compared to above. Although I could definitely see reasons why it would not be a simple adjustment for everyone to make within gay communities. As someone who's been active within gay communities for years, I saw both arrangements as valid despite what some critics would say. Both couples functioned in their own ways as happy pairings. To me that's primarily what matters. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://tryimg.com/u/2020/08/11/1tZ1gcH.jpg</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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