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Most of all that you can fix. Baldness isn't really bad at all, just go with it and shave your head (I have friends who have done that), or I guess there are wigs you can get eventually etc. I was seriously thinking of wearing a cyan wig for awhile (It just looks stupid on me sigh).

I don't know where you live, but walk around for now...build up your stamina, and I bet there is a place within walking distance you can at least get a minimum wage job. Yeah, sounds like you went to college etc, but any job is better then none, and any money is better then being broke. You don't have to pay back student loans if you make less then a certain amount as well, so if you have them, you might not even be making much less at that point.

As far as chicks finding you attractive, EVERYONE finds people having fun attractive. Find things you enjoy doing, do them, and then invite others to do them with you. That is honestly the key I have found. It helps to have social skills etc, and of course body type matters, but you can work on getting in shape, and you would be amazed at how little that can actually matter (especially if your going in a positive direction). There are plenty of girls out there looking to/trying to get in better shape as well, and the fact you are actively doing that, would be very attractive to them, even before you actually got there.

Also, honestly 40 is pretty young at this point....which sounds crazy but it's true....there is no rush here, you could take 2 years to get yourself put together before really starting to date etc, but in 2 years you could be a whole different person if you work on it every day.

You just need to find the motivation within yourself, and actually the BIGGEST part is having something you actually want or desire. If you still want to date, or find a woman to care for and that will care fore you, you have already won the race. You have something to motivate yourself and are WAY ahead of the game then many people at this point (myself included). I don't have almost anything I desire left in life, and just living for other people only goes so far. I am trying to find things I want to do, like travel around the country, but it's a constant effort.

If you have things you want, things that you would get if you had the money for it, places you would go if you could etc, then you have motivation. Use that, and focus on it.....get out there and try...you have nothing to lose. There are SO many people out there (yes of the opposite sex as well) in a similar situation that could use a partner. If you are going in a positive direction and actually trying....you will find someone to make the journey with you.
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