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Decoy77 posted...

Not being interested in a person due to the color of their skin isn't racist. Some people like girls with big boobs some small boobs. Doesn't mean they hate the opposite kind, they just aren't attracted to it. Some people like short girls other taller girls. Doesn't mean they hate the opposite kind. Some are attracted to white girls some to black some to asian, etc, etc. Doesn't mean you hate the others just not something you are attracted to. Like red heads, blondes, black hair, and on and on and on.

I think the thing that's throwing people for a loop is the difference between 'I do not find this trait personally attractive' and 'this person is unattractive'. Especially since it's possible to find someone physically unattractive in one aspect but either not have it be a major degree of unattractiveness to the point where they still wouldn't want to be with that person. Plus remember this isn't consistent between the sexes. I.E. someone may find the phenotype of an asian woman attractive but the phenotype of an asian man unattractive in whatever context 'attractive' could be used in.

Ultimately I think the only real answer would be that there just isn't enough information in the question and the question itself is invalid because it makes multiple assumptions. It's effectively asking you to assume all the traits about an entire race hold true for a specific individual, rate that individuals appeal as a mate based entirely on physical attributes, then heavily skews any negative responses towards an assumption of racism.

For example, when it comes to Japanese people there's a MASSIVE amount of variety for both sexes. What is actually 'consistent' for a 'Japanese' person? Hair? Not all of them have straight, black, hair even though it is the dominate kind and there's a ton of varieties of things one can do with their hair. Skin tone? There's a variety of those even if they don't reach towards the darker end of the spectrum. Do I assume a Japanese woman has a small chest? A Japanese man is not muscular? That MIGHT be true on the average but no sane person would question for a second that exceptions exist.

The more I think about it the problem is that the question itself forces you to adopt a mindset dominated by assumptions made about a people group that don't hold true individually then judge an individual by those same assumptions (which may or may not hold true). If I said 'I wouldn't date an African-American man' I have to make MULTIPLE assumptions about what constitutes an 'African American' to answer either in the positive or negative.

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