LogFAQs > #968338054

To make a long story very short, my wife has a multitude of complex medical problems which has no real treatment. Chief among these is Ehlors Danlos which causes her body to rip and tear very easily (her body does not produce and use collagen correctly) and something called MCAS, which makes her VERY allergic to a whole range of different items. From allergies to many food items to medicines to daily products like soaps and fragrances.

On top of this now it seems that she has some sort of immunosuppression disease which leads her to being consistently battling infections and other illnesses. Ehlors Danlos typically ends up killing someone by one of their major organs ripping. She's already had a lot of heart problems which has led to her having a pacemaker in her mid 20's, for example. She has no real pain management available and as such she is consistently in pain and discomfort without a plan to alleviate such things.

Rather than wait for further deterioration, my wife is applying for Medical Assistance in Death. Multiple doctors have to look into her medical history and agree that there is no opportunity for things to improve in a significant way, and then you wait at least 90 days after that. You can change your mind at any point and you can choose to it at any time after those 90 days if you are accepted.

I am this odd mixture of devastated but also happy my wife will not need to live in constant pain? I'm not sure how you even START doing all this as the one who will be left. I have a wonderful family and support structure around me. I WILL be fine... but I'm not always fine right now even though it isn't an assured thing yet.

Why make the topic? I dunno, help me work out my own shit about it? Maybe talk with some people who have gone through similar shit? I dunno.