LogFAQs > #970027831

In my first psychology solo session I kinda realized that while I can be emotional very easily, I'm not good at talking about my feelings? Specifically negative ones. I tend to logic my way out of those feelings or do a, "I feel angry but..." and totally invalidate myself? I also feel a lot of guilt about negative feelings I have about my marriage. I do this all the time in my marriage as y'all can tell that my wife has SO many things going on that are all shitty.

I'm allowed to feel things about our relationship too. Like today. It sucks that my day today was starting at the hospital, working 8 hours, and spending another 3+ hours at the hospital after that. It sucks and I didn't like it. I would have rather spent my time in any number of ways.

FEELING this way is valid and I need to not feel guilty about having those feelings. My wife is not responsible for that being what the reality of the situation is. I'm not blaming her for the situation in vocalizing that it sucks.

In my time with her tonight I opened up about some of the negatives about what our relationship looks like. I expressed my disappointment in some things, frustration with other things, and struggled very much doing so without feeling a tremendous crushing guilt over it. My hope is that being more open as much as I can will allow me to have negative feelings without feeling guilty about them.