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Topic	How do you deal with self centered loved ones?
adjl 02/04/23 10:39:20 PM #19:	Tell her you either need to start charging her for the time, gas, and car wear, or she'll have to figure out a different way to get to work. You can give her some time to sort things out, but ultimately you need to say no to her. Yes, that'll result in her leaning on your mom/brother instead, but preventing that isn't your responsibility. Support them as needed to also say no to her, but don't let your desire to make things easier for them leave you stuck with the burden of dealing with her. The bottom line is that you can't stop somebody from being selfishly codependent by enabling their selfish codependency. You have to tell them there's a problem and work with them to solve it. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. <cite>adjl posted [p:971332305] in How do you... [t:80335633]...</cite> <quote>Tell her you either need to start charging her for the time, gas, and car wear, or she'll have to figure out a different way to get to work. You can give her some time to sort things out, but ultimately you need to say no to her. Yes, that'll result in her leaning on your mom/brother instead, but preventing that isn't your responsibility. Support them as needed to also say no to her, but don't let your desire to make things easier for them leave you stuck with the burden of dealing with her.The bottom line is that you can't stop somebody from being selfishly codependent by enabling their selfish codependency. You have to tell them there's a problem and work with them to solve it. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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