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CoyoteTheGreat posted...

I mean, if you aren't fun or interesting, you are just dead weight that could presumably be filled in by another team member who could both do their job, and be pleasant to interact with. There are also people who might not have a job that depends on you doing yours competently, and to them, it isn't going to matter whether you do your job or not, all that matters is literally whether you are pleasant to interact with.

ye but they don't know if I'm fun or interestin if they haven't bothered to interact with me. When people get to truly know me, they find that I'm very unique which is an interestin trait in itself.

It's ironic that most people who are perceived to be interestin are dull as dishwater. Most people don't stfu about their borin family lives with their fancy wife and kids, or gettin pissed on the weekend. That's literally all they talk about, yet people gravitate to these kind of people because society places 'status' on a pedastool above all else. I've always found the quiet ones to be the most interestin yet these are the ones treated with the most derision.

That bein said, I can see your point, at the end of the day we're just cogs in a wheel, and the ship keeps sailin regardless.

GuerrillaSoldier posted...

lotta angles here, lotta factors. but from what it sounds like, you aren't just silent, you also refuse to participate in social activity and there's no clear reason why (to them), which could be misunderstood as your dislike of the parties involved.

people also tend to prefer things they're familiar with, and people too. thus they'll include or prioritize those they know over those that are basically just shadows on the wall.

then there's also the idea that people are just assholes in general and has nothing to do with anyone being silent. and so on and so on...

It's a combination of all those factors, especially in the environment I work. It's such a regimented culture, almost like a military operation. As a result, this enables people to be stuck up arseholes to anyone they perceive beneath them. Body language speaks volumes, it's not normal for colleagues to give you nothin but awkward silence.

This has persisted for a year for no apparent reason, which suggests it's either my shy personality or there's some unconscious prejudice on some level. They don't even say hi, the odd few are friendly but most treat me like a fuckin alien. I've had similar experiences in other workplaces which suggests it's definitely to do with how I look. Maybe my big nose isn't glamorous enough to share their privileged air space. I've been bullied for that in other jobs and throughout school. I was also bullied for my eye twitchin, which is attributed to my anxiety. I've always proven to be a good dependable worker in every role, it's just a shame that the hostile attitude from those around me doesn't reflect my contribution to the cause.