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TheLiarParadox posted...

I was a NEET until 30, largely because of C-PTSD and undiagnosed ADHD. I just ask myself what dwelling on the past ever got me. Spoilers nothing good.

That time is gone, regardless of what I did or didn't do with it, hated or loved about it, gained or lost from it. It's over and I won't get it back, which used to be absolutely heart-wrenching, but I still have the present and the future that I don't want to let go by like that. I'm screwing up what time I have left by agonizing over what has already passed. Now I focus on the present so I can have a better future and the past doesn't seem that important anymore.

Also, I felt like I wasted all that time but I look back on it now and am retroactively learning lessons I was incapable of realizing at the time. It's probably not as empty as you think.

And this. Work on getting uncomfortable or accept that you'll never change and probably find yourself in 16 more years wondering how the hell that happened.

Yeah since I got diagnosed for my ADHD 3 years ago, I have been super productive in my career, and better at home.

I agree that we have to get out of our comfort zone in order to grow.

Agreed. Time goes by fast. A day, a week, month, year, several years. If we aren't better in some way than the year before, we fucked up. This could be relationship, career, financially, health..We should always strive to be better and learn from our mistakes instead of constantly relating them.

I think Maturity is experiencing life, learning from it, and holding ourselves accountable for our mistakes.