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As someone who has settled it's a rough thing to do because in a way you aren't fully committing to the relationship. You're selfishly being with someone you aren't attracted to pursue your own happiness.

I agree with TC that acceptance is an important part of a relationship and there's too little of it in the early part of the dating process. But accepting someone you aren't excited about being with is a waste of your time and more importantly a waste of their time.

Noticed this with my perpetually single sister. I believe her mistake isn't having high standards but never being friends with guys she actually enjoyed going out with. She can't keep a man longer than a month because she expects fireworks and a first date effort every time. As soon as the guy starts relaxing, she's out the door seeking someone who tries harder for her affection.

With guys it's the opposite. They don't actually enjoy dating and seek the comfort of the relationship above everything. But you always have to date your GF or wife. You're always supposed to be courting her. The comfort you receive is your reward for doing right by her.