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Tyranthraxus posted...

The vast majority of the world does not have to explain what sex they are to partners. There's a standard here that applies only to transgender people that is extremely discriminatory and there's no defense for it even if she lied.

Unfortunately, it is what needs to happen in order to protect trans people from using what amounts to deception to obtain consent and being on the receiving end of a sexual assault case.

If you have knowledge that might reasonably and/or actively impact someone's decision to engage in sexual activity with you, the onus is on you to disclose that information.

If a cishet woman presented as a man to get a gay man to sleep with her, we'd all be on the side of the gay man. It wouldn't matter if they only had non-penetrative or the gay man was only the recipient of oral and never saw the genitals of the cishet woman.

Deceiving people by withholding information or providing knowingly false information(like saying you're on your period), regardless of how 'obvious the truth' is or what the info is, in order to get them to consent to sexual activity is a crime. Regardless of the reasoning behind it.

Everyone in this UK story sucks, of course, but trying to handwave the actions of the trans woman because the legal victim here is transphobic will only serve to embolden transphobes and give them examples to point and go "see! They don't even want us to be able to refuse consent." (even if that's not the intent behind acknowledging the legal victims transphobia here).