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If you're worried about "looking weak," you shouldn't be in this relationship regardless of what her reasons for balking are. Long-term relationships are not about impressing each other or keeping up appearances. They're about trust and support, which includes being vulnerable with each other. If you've been dating long enough that you feel it's reasonable to get engaged, but you still can't let yourself relax enough around her to admit to making a mistake, it wasn't much of a relationship in the first place. Marriage should never be on the table if you have so little trust in your partner that you're more concerned about saving face with them than saving your relationship, so if that's seriously where you are, you're probably better off cutting your losses now because there isn't anything worth saving. Heck, I might even go so far as to guess that that lack of trust and vulnerability is the main thing making her feel like it's too soon to get engaged (again, assuming she is actually dealing with relationship jitters and not just cheating).

Moreover, admitting that you made a mistake is not weakness, nor is trying to rectify that mistake. Quite the opposite, in fact: staying the course when you know it's wrong and will likely make things worse because you're afraid of what people will think if you change your mind is about as weak as you can get. Anyone who would actually think less of you for trying to fix your mistake isn't worth your time or attention.