Poll of the Day > How long should someone be in a relationship before they're married?

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LinkPizza posted...

Not all. But a good number might actually be. There are lots of marraiges where people fall out of love or whatever. It divorce wasn't looked at so negatively, there would probably be more, tbh...

Blame the religious nutbags. I think only the Philippines has it illegal entirely still for countries.

AllstarSniper32 posted...

This means one person is happy or fine with the marriage and is living life while the other person wants out for whatever reason. But I don't say that's how all divorces are. Just how it can ruin life for a person in that situation.

Of course there's times when both people mutually want out of the marriage. But even if that's the case, if those people have kids, it's usually not going to be so simple for the kids.

But if you're married to someone, you don't have any kids and you're both fine with divorcing, you'll probably be better off apart.

So then how would it ruin the life of somebody who didn't want out of it?
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Revelation34 posted...

LinkPizza posted...

Not all. But a good number might actually be. There are lots of marraiges where people fall out of love or whatever. It divorce wasn't looked at so negatively, there would probably be more, tbh...

Blame the religious nutbags. I think only the Philippines has it illegal entirely still for countries.

AllstarSniper32 posted...

This means one person is happy or fine with the marriage and is living life while the other person wants out for whatever reason. But I don't say that's how all divorces are. Just how it can ruin life for a person in that situation.

Of course there's times when both people mutually want out of the marriage. But even if that's the case, if those people have kids, it's usually not going to be so simple for the kids.

But if you're married to someone, you don't have any kids and you're both fine with divorcing, you'll probably be better off apart.

So then how would it ruin the life of somebody who didn't want out of it?

I, too, would like to know that...
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GanglyKhan posted...

40 is the cutoff for kids when you're a woman, unless you're doing some selective fertilization. The chances of having a kid with a serious birth/genetic defect is under 1 in 100 past the age of 40. The earlier you have kids, the bettet chances for them being healthier.

Edit: I should mention that it typically has that female focus because the eggs start to deteriorate over time leading up to menopause. Guys are pretty much fine as long as they're still fertile since sperm(s?) are made on the daily.

Fun fact. Men are not exempt from this problem but late paternal age is 50 for us.
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chaosbowser posted...

Fun fact. Men are not exempt from this problem but late paternal age is 50 for us.

Citation needed.
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Revelation34 posted...

chaosbowser posted...

Fun fact. Men are not exempt from this problem but late paternal age is 50 for us.

Citation needed.

I was conceived when my father was 62.
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Firewood18 posted...

I was conceived when my father was 62.

So you're saying you have mental and physical difficulties because of his age?
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Revelation34 posted...

Firewood18 posted...

I was conceived when my father was 62.

So you're saying you have mental and physical difficulties because of his age?

Touch, but no.
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It all depends on the couple and their maturity.

I proposed to my wife after knowing her only a few months, and we were married about a year later. We had our first child about a year ago. I feel like that timeline would have worked terribly as a younger man.
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