Poll of the Day > still a virgin at 46.

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Oh my god this topic is too much

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wolfy42 posted...

I mean there is probably another factor here that hasn't been acknowledged. While I have not done research on this, I have heard before that as you get older and stop having sex, everything basically shrivels up and gets smaller.

I can attest myself that while I larger than average by at least an inch through my 20's and 30's, at this point I am probably under average if that. By the itme your 46 if you havenot had sex for awhile (virgin or not), things are probably going to get pretty small, which is going to make any sex fairly difficult.

Now I have never taken pills etc, so all that may reverse such things, and if you become sexually active again, it's quite likely that might help as well. I have no clue, but I would imagine if you don't have sex for over 10 years, your gonna have a hard time (at least as a man, and I'm guessing there are probably similar issues for a woman (Although lube etc might over come thing, I have no clue).

I mean if you still have been having sexy dreams and pleasing yourself etc, then your probably all right, but if its' been at least a few years since you even bothered with that......Well it certainly could be another hurdle and something you should plan for. I would even suggest talking to your doctor about the issue and see if he recommends taking vitamins or pills etc to help.

I have no real interest in having a sexual relationship right now, but if I did develop one, I would certainly have some work to do before hand (probably using my hand lol, and more then likely involving pills as well). Luckily I have lots of experience am great with my hands and other body parts and can use toys etc as well, so I wouldn't have a "hard" time pleasing a woman, but yeah, it would probably take awhile before we could really start having good traditional sex again (no that I am going to meet anyone, I don't socialize anymore and am now a hermit).

Whoa whoa whoa, hold on, are you saying your dick shrinks as you get older regardless, or that your dick shrinks due to not having sex with it? If it's the latter, I'm mad. Hypnoxing should count.

This dude couldn't close the deal with a girl he was dating for 2 years, and he's going to try a bar hookup?!
Basically, it's your goal to be a 47 year old virgin?!?

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SusanGreenEyes posted...

This dude couldn't close the deal with a girl he was dating for 2 years, and he's going to try a bar hookup?!

Yeah I agree with you, something about that explanation was bunk.

OP dated someone from 2015 to 2017 and never fucked. Some deets are missing.

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I believe it's through dissuse. I think (again ain't do research) women go through menopause and have less lubrication (naturally, though you can use other lubricants to make up for it), I know many men who have active sex lives into their 80's, so it doesn't just BAM happen, but I think if you are old enough and you stop having sex all together (including self pleasure), then it starts happening. If it concerns you, I would certainly look it up. Also as I mentioned talking to your doctor wouldn't be a bad idea either.

In my case my wife was ill since 2010, and I have not had sex in all that time. Even though she was ok with me seeing someone else (Since she was bed bound for 3+ years), I don't do casual and I was already taking care of her full time, I couldn't get involved with another person. By the time she passed (almost 3 years ago now) and I recovered (somewhat) from that, I just have no sex drive left at all. I could probably get one by taking pills, steroids, etc, or heck even actively dating etc, but I'm not interested enough to do so, and to be totally honest, I'm scared about caring for someone again, and I don't know how to have sex with a person without caring about them (heck I care about people I don't have sex with).

So doesn't really leave me many options, therefore, I just decided to stop even being open to relationships etc.

More than likely if you have never had sex, but actually want to, that......motivation...should keep you active, at least for awhile. I don't know how common it is to actually make it to your 40's without having sex. I had sex the first time at 19 and by that point I was completely and totally out of patience for waiting and even though I was a romantic that wanted to find "the one" etc, I ended up losing my virginity to a girl I met in a restaraunt and that I only saw a few more times after that.

How you can actually hold out through your 20's is beyond me, but it's also a different world now with tons of methods of entertainment, games etc, so I could see getting distracted and never actually finding a girl (or finding a girl who doesn't want to till marriage etc, but then not actually getting married etc).

Anyway, people are having strong sex lives easily into their 60 and 70's and I have a friend who had about 4 mistresses in his 60's lol......so yeah, your not too old yet, but...also you don't wanna actually go to have sex and find it goes nowhere fast because you havn't been exercising the right muscles recently lol.

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Ill say it again, he is better off booking a room at the Mustang Ranch if he wants an easy way to lose his virginity

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Ogurisama posted...

Ill say it again, he is better off booking a room at the Mustang Ranch if he wants an easy way to lose his virginity

Legit. A safe, clean, controlled environment to explore your interests as much as you can afford.

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SusanGreenEyes posted...

This dude couldn't close the deal with a girl he was dating for 2 years, and he's going to try a bar hookup?!
Basically, it's your goal to be a 47 year old virgin?!?

RCtheWSBC posted...

Yeah I agree with you, something about that explanation was bunk.

OP dated someone from 2015 to 2017 and never fucked. Some deets are missing.

I explained that it was because we couldn't meet in person as often as we liked. Plus, we're both old and unattractive. If anything, it was because of my lack of trying.

wolfy42 posted...

I believe it's through dissuse. I think (again ain't do research) women go through menopause and have less lubrication (naturally, though you can use other lubricants to make up for it), I know many men who have active sex lives into their 80's, so it doesn't just BAM happen, but I think if you are old enough and you stop having sex all together (including self pleasure), then it starts happening. If it concerns you, I would certainly look it up. Also as I mentioned talking to your doctor wouldn't be a bad idea either.

Menopause makes you drier down there. I god damned knew it. I would like to have sex with a woman and satisfy her in ways that get her to self-lubricate. This is just not an option for older women? I mean, a much lesser option? God DAMN IT!

RCtheWSBC posted...

Legit. A safe, clean, controlled environment to explore your interests as much as you can afford.

Prob not even that expensive over all, if planned out in advance. Bus rides to Vegas from surrounding areas are very cheap. Might be a good idea, since I'm pretty sure the girl would be understand and well...has alot of experience lol. No clue on the rates but I bet you could do the whole trip for under $1k and do other things while your there as well (all those buffets!!!).

Food has always been >>>>> than sex for me. Even if Sex was quite enjoyable for most of my life (food is life so there is no comparison).

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Oh god please dude

FrothySolutions posted...

If anything, it was because of my lack of trying.

Again....before you try to jump into a situation, I truly encourage you to explore this from within to make sure you're truly ready. It's difficult to self-reflect, but it can be really helpful to consider what worked and what didn't in previous circumstances in your life.

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RCtheWSBC posted...

Oh god please dude

Again....before you try to jump into a situation, I truly encourage you to explore this from within to make sure you're truly ready. It's difficult to self-reflect, but it can be really helpful to consider what worked and what didn't in previous circumstances in your life.

I'm ready like it's Lemon Crush. But also, it seems a little disingenuous for everyone to be like "Sex is nothing, even something as basic as food is better" but also say "Sex is a big huge thing, make sure you're ready."

FrothySolutions posted...

I explained that it was because we couldn't meet in person as often as we liked. Plus, we're both old and unattractive. If anything, it was because of my lack of trying.

Menopause makes you drier down there. I god damned knew it. I would like to have sex with a woman and satisfy her in ways that get her to self-lubricate. This is just not an option for older women? I mean, a much lesser option? God DAMN IT!

Well, it can, I don't think it always does, and more then likely it's still affected by sexual activity as well, so if a woman goes through menopause AND doesn't have sex for awhile, it's probably more likely (but I'm not a doctor, and also not a woman).

But you can certainly still please a woman sexually after menopause, and at 46 your not too old to actually date women in their mid 30's and it not feel creepy, which is pretty much their sexual peek, so no worried.

It's funny cause I always wanted to, and never got to do the early dating stuff. I graduated on my 16th birthday and had never been on a date, never got to hold hands, go to movies, my first kiss with a woman was while actually having sex with her. I have always regretted that.

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Nah, it's really not a big deal. I say those things because I'm picking up on non-sexual things about you that seem to raise flags >_>

Like, why do you think you didn't try to do those things within your previous relationship?

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wolfy42 posted...

Well, it can, I don't think it always does, and more then likely it's still affected by sexual activity as well, so if a woman goes through menopause AND doesn't have sex for awhile, it's probably more likely (but I'm not a doctor, and also not a woman).

But you can certainly still please a woman sexually after menopause, and at 46 your not too old to actually date women in their mid 30's and it not feel creepy, which is pretty much their sexual peek, so no worried.

It's funny cause I always wanted to, and never got to do the early dating stuff. I graduated on my 16th birthday and had never been on a date, never got to hold hands, go to movies, my first kiss with a woman was while actually having sex with her. I have always regretted that.

I'm not gonna be 46 forever. 47 is right around the corner. How much of my 40s can be spent putting the bendy banana to women in their "mid 30s?" How much catching up can I possibly do?

FrothySolutions posted...

I'm ready like it's Lemon Crush. But also, it seems a little disingenuous for everyone to be like "Sex is nothing, even something as basic as food is better" but also say "Sex is a big huge thing, make sure you're ready."

Food is not simple, food is life. Before I go on any trip, I research the food available and plan for it. I have moved to areas specifically for the food, I once flew cross country to NY just for some pizza. I am a bit crazy about food, and no, many people wouldn't rate food over sex.

I have never had a huge sex drive, I didn't go searching for someone to have sex with, I went searching for someone who's company I enjoyed and liked to do things with, and one of those things would sometimes end up being sex.

That is not normal, that is not most guys especially in their 20's (or at least it didn't used to be), but that is me.

And yeah, sex for the first time at 46 is kinda a big deal, that is why I'mlike, prepare man, because if you try it and it doesn't work out well, you might give up or be too nervous to try again. A little preparation and knowledge could help make sure your first time goes well, and you enjoy it, therefore making it more likely for you to have more of it *lol*.

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FrothySolutions posted...

Wait, why is what I said not "meaningful?" Some people find meaning in a relationship. I find meaning in sloppy bathroom sex. Because sloppy bathroom sex is harder to have than "committed relationship sex" or "Tinder sex.

It's not harder. It's actually quite easy. Some people even have that fetish. And are easy to find on apps/sites. You can even do that in a committed relationship...

FrothySolutions posted...

But that is help. Right there, that's telling me how the bar/club scene tends to play out. That's basically what I came here asking for. Which women I should try chatting up, and how.

Did you even read what I said? I said we cant help you because we don't know who you'll run into or what they are like. The only person who can help you there is your friend...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Oh my god this topic is too much

It really is...

SusanGreenEyes posted...

This dude couldn't close the deal with a girl he was dating for 2 years, and he's going to try a bar hookup?!
Basically, it's your goal to be a 47 year old virgin?!?

It does seem so...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Ogurisama posted...

Ill say it again, he is better off booking a room at the Mustang Ranch if he wants an easy way to lose his virginity

Legit. A safe, clean, controlled environment to explore your interests as much as you can afford.

Probably is the best way...

FrothySolutions posted...

I explained that it was because we couldn't meet in person as often as we liked. Plus, we're both old and unattractive. If anything, it was because of my lack of trying.

I barely get to see my SO these days. Yet we still have sex pretty much every time we see each other. Not seeing each other a lot isn't an excuse on it's own. They are right that some details must have been left out or something... And why date if you weren't attractive to each other. Also, if you're unattrative, then picking up people at the club/bar isn't an option for you. So if that's the case, online would be a much better choice. And lack of trying makes it sound like you really don't want to have sex...
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RCtheWSBC posted...

Nah, it's really not a big deal. I say those things because I'm picking up on non-sexual things about you that seem to raise flags >_>

Like, why do you think you didn't try to do those things within your previous relationship?

It was too inconvenient to see her that often. Also, our situation wasn't very interesting or exciting. I need thrills, like trashy, unprotected sex. A committed relationship is super untrashy.

FrothySolutions posted...

It was too inconvenient to see her that often. Also, our situation wasn't very interesting or exciting. I need thrills, like trashy, unprotected sex. A committed relationship is super untrashy.

Sooo what's been holding you back from seeking these thrills over the last like, 5 years?

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LinkPizza posted...

It's not harder. It's actually quite easy. Some people even have that fetish. And are easy to find on apps/sites. You can even do that in a committed relationship...

It's easy if you post "I wanna have sex in a Burger King bathroom" on Tinder and wait for someone to find you. It's harder to meet someone at Burger King for the first time and find that she's down to have sex in the bathroom. Am I wrong? Are you saying Burger King sex is easier? Without going directly online to people who have that fetish?

LinkPizza posted...

Did you even read what I said? I said we cant help you because we don't know who you'll run into or what they are like. The only person who can help you there is your friend...

You said...

You have to be able to read people out of the limited choice there. And while someone could write you a novel on the subject, might as well just jump in head first. Or waste money taking class, I guess. And you better save up. Youll probably thane to hit someone drinks. And probably multiple people if they still dont want to go home with you because they have an SO, or just dont want to...

That's helpful. That's the advice I'm looking for.

LinkPizza posted...

I barely get to see my SO these days. Yet we still have sex pretty much every time we see each other. Not seeing each other a lot isn't an excuse on it's own. They are right that some details must have been left out or something... And why date if you weren't attractive to each other. Also, if you're unattrative, then picking up people at the club/bar isn't an option for you. So if that's the case, online would be a much better choice. And lack of trying makes it sound like you really don't want to have sex...

I was into it at the time, but like most old people the spark just kinda fades, I guess. But I think "not seeing each other" is a good excuse. I have other things to deal with in my life. I have to wake up early in the morning and go to work. And so does she.

But that part about me being unattractive is sobering. :( But if I really am ugly, why is online a better option than the bar/club scene? Ugly is ugly.

RCtheWSBC posted...

Sooo what's been holding you back from seeking these thrills over the last like, 5 years?

I don't know how to get them. I've been seeking them, I've been to dive bars, night clubs, fetish parties, Hash House Harriers, everywhere trash congregates. But it's not as simple as rocking up to a random person and saying "Do you perhaps wish to do sex on me?" There's other stuff you have to do, I assume. I assume because I've never done it.

Post pics

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RCtheWSBC posted...

Post pics

Of me? I'm afraid I can't do that.

Still reads like a shitpost, then

An entertaining one, mind you

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FrothySolutions posted...

I explained that it was because we couldn't meet in person as often as we liked. Plus, we're both old and unattractive. If anything, it was because of my lack of trying.

First of all, you couldn't meet up enough?! You had 2 years!
Second of all, if you were both as old and ugly as you claim, then who gives a shit?! You could have hooked up with each other and it wouldn't have mattered because it's not as though anyone else was looking for either of you.
In addition, if you're still old and ugly, what makes you think anyone at a bar is trying to have sex with you, since there should be younger and more attractive people there?


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SusanGreenEyes posted...

First of all, you couldn't meet up enough?! You had 2 years!
Second of all, if you were both as old and ugly as you claim, then who gives a shit?! You could have hooked up with each other and it wouldn't have mattered because it's not as though anyone else was looking for either of you.
In addition, if you're still old and ugly, what makes you think anyone at a bar is trying to have sex with you, since there should be younger and more attractive people there?

What this boils down to is "You're ugly, she's ugly, it was either her or nobody." I know that. But it doesn't mean we have to like it. If her only option is to eat garbage, is she supposed to be excited to eat garbage?

Actually how you dress and look over all is more important than your physical appearance to many women, unless it's an extreme or something. Post a pic if you want and we can have more of an idea.

I don't do casual, never have, so I can't give you advice on random dating, apps etc. I can tell you women both want to have sex and enjoy it as well though, so if you put yourself out there, are not an absolute troll (in looks or attitude) and probably even then to be honest (especially if you go to places where alcohol is involved), you'll find someone. It is a bit harder (or not lol) post 45 or so, your kinda in the limbo between when most people are dating, and senior dating starts. Basically you could just wait to 55 and then you will be young stud in the senior living apartments etc *heh*. I only have 5 years and I'll be in high demand!!!

But I mean what always worked for me was to do things I enjoyed. There will be women doing those things as well (usually...and way more often now than in my day if that thing is video games) and then you can just get to know a few and if your attracted to one, let her know and see where things go.

Doesn't have to be a big deal, and if she isn't into you, no big deal either, you can't be dying to have sex for over 30 years, so don't worry about it too much. IF you want to just get it over with, go to vegas or wherever (Amsterdam?) where prostitution is legal, in fact that is probably a great idea since they probably have alot of experience with similar situations (at least guys in their mid 30's etc).

In the end it's up to you how much effort its' worth if any, or if you even want it to be a part of your life. I've had sex, good sex, and it can be great, it's also good exercise, it helps with depression and it helps bond you with another person and make you closer, more comfortable with each other etc. Even with all that, and the knowledge of how positive it can be etc, I am still not looking for a sexual relationship again. I'm done with it, and since you have not even had sex, you could easily choose the same path. Many people have gone their whole lives without having sex and the is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

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wolfy42 posted...

Actually how you dress and look over all is more important than your physical appearance to many women, unless it's an extreme or something. Post a pic if you want and we can have more of an idea.

I don't do casual, never have, so I can't give you advice on random dating, apps etc. I can tell you women both want to have sex and enjoy it as well though, so if you put yourself out there, are not an absolute troll (in looks or attitude) and probably even then to be honest (especially if you go to places where alcohol is involved), you'll find someone. It is a bit harder (or not lol) post 45 or so, your kinda in the limbo between when most people are dating, and senior dating starts. Basically you could just wait to 55 and then you will be young stud in the senior living apartments etc *heh*. I only have 5 years and I'll be in high demand!!!

But I mean what always worked for me was to do things I enjoyed. There will be women doing those things as well (usually...and way more often now than in my day if that thing is video games) and then you can just get to know a few and if your attracted to one, let her know and see where things go.

Doesn't have to be a big deal, and if she isn't into you, no big deal either, you can't be dying to have sex for over 30 years, so don't worry about it too much. IF you want to just get it over with, go to vegas or wherever (Amsterdam?) where prostitution is legal, in fact that is probably a great idea since they probably have alot of experience with similar situations (at least guys in their mid 30's etc).

In the end it's up to you how much effort its' worth if any, or if you even want it to be a part of your life. I've had sex, good sex, and it can be great, it's also good exercise, it helps with depression and it helps bond you with another person and make you closer, more comfortable with each other etc. Even with all that, and the knowledge of how positive it can be etc, I am still not looking for a sexual relationship again. I'm done with it, and since you have not even had sex, you could easily choose the same path. Many people have gone their whole lives without having sex and the is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Picture circa-2006 Jackie Earle Haley. How should I dress? To be what a woman would want?

FrothySolutions posted...

What this boils down to is "You're ugly, she's ugly, it was either her or nobody." I know that. But it doesn't mean we have to like it. If her only option is to eat garbage, is she supposed to be excited to eat garbage?

If you're truly as ugly as you claim then how do you plan to pick up strange women in public when they have better options?

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I am really enjoying this topic, TC doesnt seem to want help but just whine.

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SusanGreenEyes posted...

If you're truly as ugly as you claim then how do you plan to pick up strange women in public when they have better options?

It's not my idea, it's my friend's idea. He assures me this will work.

Ogurisama posted...

I am really enjoying this topic, TC doesnt seem to want help but just whine.

What do you mean? People are giving me help and I'm accepting it.

FrothySolutions posted...

It's easy if you post "I wanna have sex in a Burger King bathroom" on Tinder and wait for someone to find you. It's harder to meet someone at Burger King for the first time and find that she's down to have sex in the bathroom. Am I wrong? Are you saying Burger King sex is easier? Without going directly online to people who have that fetish?

Burger King? No. A club. Pretty easy, depending on the club. Like I said, I went to a club once where people were just blowing everyone in the bathrooms. And you can just walk into either gender bathrooms, depending on the club. I went to the girls bathroom just to take shots once... You have no right to say it's hard as having sex anywhere seems to be hard for you...

FrothySolutions posted...

You said...

You have to be able to read people out of the limited choice there. And while someone could write you a novel on the subject, might as well just jump in head first. Or waste money taking class, I guess. And you better save up. Youll probably thane to hit someone drinks. And probably multiple people if they still dont want to go home with you because they have an SO, or just dont want to...

That's helpful. That's the advice I'm looking for.

If you want to pretend that's advice. Basically, you need to listen to your friend. The stuff I put is just common knowledge. If you didn't know that stuff, I'm not even sure you're ready to live in the real world...

FrothySolutions posted...

I was into it at the time, but like most old people the spark just kinda fades, I guess. But I think "not seeing each other" is a good excuse. I have other things to deal with in my life. I have to wake up early in the morning and go to work. And so does she.

But that part about me being unattractive is sobering. :( But if I really am ugly, why is online a better option than the bar/club scene? Ugly is ugly.

Next time, just have sex before that spark fades. If you did that, you wouldn't still be a virgin. And it's not a good excuse. Seeing each other just once is enough to have sex. Literally just once. So, no. It's a bad excuse, and you know it.

The reason online is better is because you have a higher chance or finding someone who doesn't think you're as unattractive as you think. At a bar or club, people will try to take home someone they find attractive. One reason is because if their friends are there, some people seem embarrassed to take home somebody who their friends would say is unattractive. Another reason is why take home a less attractive guy if you have a chance with that more attractive guy over there?

But those issues are different online. Online, she won't have to worry about her friends finding out who's coming over. And depending on the time, she may be willing and ready right when you message her. Also, you can maybe make yourself look a little better in the pictures. But don't lie. But if you do and they invite you over, even if you're not looking exactly like the picture, they may still be like, "Well, they're already here." Ugly is ugly, but ugly would have an easier time online...
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FrothySolutions posted...

I don't know how to get them. I've been seeking them, I've been to dive bars, night clubs, fetish parties, Hash House Harriers, everywhere trash congregates. But it's not as simple as rocking up to a random person and saying "Do you perhaps wish to do sex on me?" There's other stuff you have to do, I assume. I assume because I've never done it.

It sounds like you've tried clubs and bars and they don't work. So, why are you still trying?

FrothySolutions posted...

It's not my idea, it's my friend's idea. He assures me this will work.

So, your friends "knows" this will work (which sounds like he's done it), yet you still think it doesn't happen?

FrothySolutions posted...

What do you mean? People are giving me help and I'm accepting it.

Not really. You're just going to do what you want. You don't want help. You want us to say what you want us to say. We could tell you 10 different things, and you'll pretend like you didn't hear it. That, or you'll twist one thing we said around, and make it sound like we gave you bad advice when it doesn't work...

FrothySolutions posted...

Picture circa-2006 Jackie Earle Haley. How should I dress? To be what a woman would want?

Depends on the woman, so we can't help...
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Lol, I am the last person on the planet to ask how you should dress. I think I must actually be pretty freaking attractive (my father (never knew him) was supposedly a male stripper and I look just like him) because I have literally never cared about the clothes I wear etc. I would semi-dress up for court (even wear a tie) but that was about as far as I ever went.

So yeah, sorry, you gotta ask other people for tips on that. I just wear sweat pants and t-shirts now and even did that when I taught elementary school (Was called Mr. Wolf because I always wore wolf t-shirts hehe).

In general though just you know keep your hair (facial hair etc) trim/nice, and don't wear dirty clothes and you should be ok. There is WAY more to it than that, but I have literally never given 2 mucks about it lol.

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Ogurisama posted...

I am really enjoying this topic, TC doesnt seem to want help but just whine.

Gotta keep fueling responses for the shitpost

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LinkPizza posted...

Burger King? No. A club. Pretty easy, depending on the club. Like I said, I went to a club once where people were just blowing everyone in the bathrooms. And you can just walk into either gender bathrooms, depending on the club. I went to the girls bathroom just to take shots once... You have no right to say it's hard as having sex anywhere seems to be hard for you...

Hold on, where in God's name??? Because I specifically make my roost in bar/club bathrooms. I don't see any of that. Am I just in the wrong part of the country? Are you even in the United States? We're talking about the United States here.

LinkPizza posted...

Next time, just have sex before that spark fades. If you did that, you wouldn't still be a virgin. And it's not a good excuse. Seeing each other just once is enough to have sex. Literally just once. So, no. It's a bad excuse, and you know it.

This isn't about me just not being a virgin, I want a sex life worth having. Sex one time isn't enough. And what do you want from me? Every time we met, neither one of us wanted to have sex. We wanted to do the thing we met up for and then go home.

LinkPizza posted...

It sounds like you've tried clubs and bars and they don't work. So, why are you still trying?

So, your friends "knows" this will work (which sounds like he's done it), yet you still think it doesn't happen?

They don't work, because I don't know what I'm doing. With my friend's help, I should know what to do.

LinkPizza posted...

Not really. You're just going to do what you want. You don't want help. You want us to say what you want us to say. We could tell you 10 different things, and you'll pretend like you didn't hear it. That, or you'll twist one thing we said around, and make it sound like we gave you bad advice when it doesn't work...

Yes really, I asked which women I should look out for in a bar/club. You can help with that, can't you? You're right that I do reject your idea of "Just don't go to the club," if that's your idea of help then yeah I'm not looking for that. I'm looking for help in the bar/club scene.

FrothySolutions posted...

Hold on, where in God's name??? Because I specifically make my roost in bar/club bathrooms. I don't see any of that. Am I just in the wrong part of the country? Are you even in the United States? We're talking about the United States here.

Yeah. I'm in the US. I go to clubs all around. Whether travelling with friends and family, or for my job, I've been to many clubs. More so around my home state and current state. Maybe you just miss them. Sometimes, you want to go on certain nights. Other times, it's happening all the time.

FrothySolutions posted...

This isn't about me just not being a virgin, I want a sex life worth having. Sex one time isn't enough. And what do you want from me? Every time we met, neither one of us wanted to have sex. We wanted to do the thing we met up for and then go home.

You say sex one time isn't enough, yet that's exactly what you looking for? So which is it?

And you don't have to have sex only one time. Whenever I hook-up with my SO, we go at least twice in a row. And it seems like you didn't really want to have sex. You just said neither of you wanted to have sex. Were you even dating, or just friends without benefits? Which would just make her a friend...
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FrothySolutions posted...

They don't work, because I don't know what I'm doing. With my friend's help, I should know what to do.

But you made it seem like it was super hard, yet you friend thinks it's pretty easy, apparently...

FrothySolutions posted...

Yes really, I asked which women I should look out for in a bar/club. You can help with that, can't you? You're right that I do reject your idea of "Just don't go to the club," if that's your idea of help then yeah I'm not looking for that. I'm looking for help in the bar/club scene.

We can't help you with which women you should look out for in a bar or club as we aren't there with you to see them. And I never said to not go to the club. So, there's the word twisting. I said, you can. I said online is easier. But you can meet them at the club. Like I said, you can meet them online to get you dirty club sex that you want.
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FrothySolutions posted...

Hold on, where in God's name??? Because I specifically make my roost in bar/club bathrooms. I don't see any of that. Am I just in the wrong part of the country? Are you even in the United States? We're talking about the United States here.

This isn't about me just not being a virgin, I want a sex life worth having. Sex one time isn't enough. And what do you want from me? Every time we met, neither one of us wanted to have sex. We wanted to do the thing we met up for and then go home.

I mean she could have been Asexual or demi-sexual, which is more common than people think. I would consider myself demi probably, although I was certainly quite attracted to women in my 20's and 30's and still can appreciate them, I also was slightly turned off by porn in general (certain types more then others, I don't like bodily fluids basically). There are plenty of women out there as well, so even if your not Demi, she could have been.

I sometimes wonder if/how two demi-sexual or worse asexual people ever have sex at all lol (kinda like Sheldon from BBT I guess). I never dated/slept with a demi, every woman I was every with had a strong sex drive and other then the first (who also did.....and I wasn't ready for it at that point) always initiated sex, not the other way around.

IF it was up to me, I probably wouldn't have had sex till I got married again after the first time.

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Another thing I have not seen mentioned. Even though I am totally not a club type guy, I have been around forever, and seriously if your hitting bars/clubs, go with friends, even if ti's only one, especially if you have no experience. You'll feel way more confident, you'll have someone to hand out with talk with, and in this case your friend probably won't ditch you for some girl he fancies because he knows your sitch.


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LinkPizza posted...

You say sex one time isn't enough, yet that's exactly what you looking for? So which is it?

The kind of sex I'm hopefully about to have, I'd like to have again and again with multiple casual partners, found the night of in bars and clubs.

LinkPizza posted...

But you made it seem like it was super hard, yet you friend thinks it's pretty easy, apparently...

We can't help you with which women you should look out for in a bar or club as we aren't there with you to see them. And I never said to not go to the club. So, there's the word twisting. I said, you can. I said online is easier. But you can meet them at the club. Like I said, you can meet them online to get you dirty club sex that you want.

You said to try Tinder. That's what I mean, that advice doesn't help me. I appreciate it, but I'm not doing Tinder. So when people come by like "Why isn't OP accepting the advice to try Tinder," I'm like, I clearly said I will not try Tinder and the only advice I'm looking for is how to comport myself in the club. Is it really just impossible to give advice for that?

wolfy42 posted...

Another thing I have not seen mentioned. Even though I am totally not a club type guy, I have been around forever, and seriously if your hitting bars/clubs, go with friends, even if ti's only one, especially if you have no experience. You'll feel way more confident, you'll have someone to hand out with talk with, and in this case your friend probably won't ditch you for some girl he fancies because he knows your sitch.

I'm aware of that now, that the bar/club scene is better navigated with friends. I still don't see it happening, but people tell me that to go to the bar/club alone is a waste of time. See? This is advice.

Have you considered propositioning your ugly ex girlfriend for sex? She's probably got nothing better going on and clearly neither do you.
Was she also a 40 year old virgin?
Shit! Who knows. Maybe you can fuck her in a bathroom next to the trashcan.

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SusanGreenEyes posted...

Have you considered propositioning your ugly ex girlfriend for sex? She's probably got nothing better going on and clearly neither do you.
Was she also a 40 year old virgin?
Shit! Who knows. Maybe you can fuck her in a bathroom next to the trashcan.

We aren't interested in one another.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

Shit! Who knows. Maybe you can fuck her in a bathroom next to the trashcan.

Lmaoo

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Has anyone suggested you write a book and then sell it to a production company so they can make a sequel to the 40 year old virgin? The 50 year old virgin, you just gotta wait a few more years and you could be rich.

And rich I have heard is attractive, so then you'll have tons of girls beating down your doors and you won't be a virgin anymore!!

Problem solved!

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RCtheWSBC posted...

How are you supposed to sus out a woman's character like that at the bar? What an unrealistic ask. Pro-tip: friends confide in friends about their hookups, regardless of sex. Wouldn't you tell your bar-friend about the shit the next day, too? Why would you care what she said to her friends? How would you even know?

Wait is he just looking to get laid for one night with some girl? I figured at 46 he'd be looking for a relationship so that's why I said to find a girl who isn't that shallow.

Also:
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So not sure if serious poster.

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wolfy42 posted...

Has anyone suggested you write a book and then sell it to a production company so they can make a sequel to the 40 year old virgin? The 50 year old virgin, you just gotta wait a few more years and you could be rich.

And rich I have heard is attractive, so then you'll have tons of girls beating down your doors and you won't be a virgin anymore!!

Problem solved!

That wouldn't work. 40-Year-Old Virgin ends with Steve Carell having sex with Catherine Keener. He's not a virgin anymore.

FrothySolutions posted...

The kind of sex I'm hopefully about to have, I'd like to have again and again with multiple casual partners, found the night of in bars and clubs.

Which you could also find online. Some of them might even be online, as well... I don't see how the sex you'll get will be different as 1.) you don't know what kind of sex you'll have with either partner, 2.) You don't even know what kind of sex you like, and 3.) You've never had it.

But you act like having sex with your friend would have been bad because you do it once. And how do you know you'll be able to get girls in a bar or club more than once? Or even once? Especially since you said you were ugly...

FrothySolutions posted...

You said to try Tinder. That's what I mean, that advice doesn't help me. I appreciate it, but I'm not doing Tinder. So when people come by like "Why isn't OP accepting the advice to try Tinder," I'm like, I clearly said I will not try Tinder and the only advice I'm looking for is how to comport myself in the club. Is it really just impossible to give advice for that?

I said app/site. Which doesn't have to be Tinder. And I also said that you can meet the people online anywhere. Like say, a club. Where you can have trashy club sex. Which also might turn you off from sex, as it's uncomfortable and gross. So, there's that. But you do you. Maybe you'll like. Though, you've never had sex, so who knows.

FrothySolutions posted...

I'm aware of that now, that the bar/club scene is better navigated with friends. I still don't see it happening, but people tell me that to go to the bar/club alone is a waste of time. See? This is advice.

That's actually just common sense. Even a child who has seen a tv show could tell you that...
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Doompa posted...

So not sure if serious poster.

Pretty sure he's not, based on the responses...
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