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Still live with family members feel like a complete loser

It's okay to not be married or have kids.

Am I the biggest loser on the beach?

GateOfDoom posted...

Still live with family members feel like a complete loser

I'm 42 and exactly the same, except I haven't had a job in 24 years either. I don't want kids though and never having a gf isn't that big a deal. I like not having responsibilities.

GateOfDoom posted...

Still live with family members feel like a complete loser

Your fine. At least you got family members alive to live with and these days with cost of living better off living with family anyways

TuxedoCyan posted...

I'm 42 and exactly the same, except I haven't had a job in 24 years either. I don't want kids though and never having a gf isn't that big a deal. I like not having responsibilities.

No job since 18? How'd you pull this off?

Crimsoness posted...

Am I the biggest loser on the beach?

Been hearing moist Critikal say that every five minutes when he streams he needs new material lol.

So long as you're not overweight or out of shape but still saving money & working, I don't think it makes you a loser OP

FinalBraveNUT posted...

No job since 18? How'd you pull this off?

I live with my parents.

TuxedoCyan posted...

I'm 42 and exactly the same, except I haven't had a job in 24 years either. I don't want kids though and never having a gf isn't that big a deal. I like not having responsibilities.

Do you live with someone who pays for all your needs? Do you have a handicap of some sort?

Do you tc?

If you live off someone else's money and there's nothing wrong with you, then...

Smackems posted...

Do you live with someone who pays for all your needs? Do you have a handicap of some sort?

I live with my parents and I have severe social anxiety. I have done absolutely nothing with my life in the last 24 years because I just don't want to be an adult and have responsibilities and work for a living and all that. So I don't. My parents are okay with this. I'm sure they wish I had a normal life but they don't want to force me.

I think context always matters. Like if youre purposefully living with elderly or disabled relatives to help watch over them and take care of them that is completely different than someone who decided to never leave home and just mooches off their parents.

There are always situations that can arise out of nowhere and cause a setback. A sudden loss of your job, a sudden divorce and you have no where to go. These are much different situations than never leaving the nest.

Some people cant leave home though because of a disability or whatever. It happens. Many people have many different circumstances.

Your situation is your business but I just hope your feelings about your situation arent being influenced by others. If its simply how you feel about your situation then maybe you can work on either why you feel that way or change the circumstances of why you feel that way.

TuxedoCyan posted...

I live with my parents and I have severe social anxiety. I have done absolutely nothing with my life in the last 24 years because I just don't want to be an adult and have responsibilities and work for a living and all that. So I don't. My parents are okay with this. I'm sure they wish I had a normal life but they don't want to force me.

Whats the plan if something happens to them?

TuxedoCyan posted...

I live with my parents and I have severe social anxiety. I have done absolutely nothing with my life in the last 24 years because I just don't want to be an adult and have responsibilities and work for a living and all that. So I don't. My parents are okay with this. I'm sure they wish I had a normal life but they don't want to force me.

You could try getting a work from home job.

I work for Scribe America. I work at home and say MAYBE 30 words a day and only to one person

The work is easy and stress free for the most part

They're always looking for new hires, no experience or education necessary. Just need to have a GED, pass a background check, and pass a urine test

So there are absolutely things out there for people with bad social anxiety if you're willing to try

hereforemnant posted...

Been hearing moist Critikal say that every five minutes when he streams he needs new material lol.

So long as you're not overweight or out of shape but still saving money & working, I don't think it makes you a loser OP

Wait am I loser cos I'm overweight despite going college then smh

archizzy posted...

I think context always matters. Like if youre purposefully living with elderly or disabled relatives to help watch over them and take care of them that is completely different than someone who decided to never leave home and just mooches off their parents.

There are always situations that can arise out of nowhere and cause a setback. A sudden loss of your job, a sudden divorce and you have no where to go. These are much different situations than never leaving the nest.

Some people cant leave home though because of a disability or whatever. It happens. Many people have many different circumstances.

Your situation is your business but I just hope your feelings about your situation arent being influenced by others. If its simply how you feel about your situation then maybe you can work on either why you feel that way or change the circumstances of why you feel that way.

I did this (and also care gave for others that I wasn't kin to) for a decade and you can absolutely get paid decent money for it

GeminiDeus posted...

It's okay to not be married or have kids.

This. Some people never find anyone. It just doesn't happen. It's better than marrying someone that you're unattracted to (physically and/or emotionally) for the hell of it. But even given that, it can still happen. You're 37 not 77. You'll have to put some serious effort in though.

But the living with your family, I would try to fix. It'll increase your quality of life by a lot.

Drrobotniks posted...

Whats the plan if something happens to them?

No plan.

Smackems posted...

You could try getting a work from home job.

Too much anxiety.

I'm 34 no kids or wife and live with my parents but I'm the only one paying for the bills. Dad can't work and mom has to watch him because he can't be left alone

Smackems posted...

You could try getting a work from home job.

I work for Scribe America. I work at home and say MAYBE 30 words a day and only to one person

The work is easy and stress free for the most part

They're always looking for new hires, no experience or education necessary. Just need to have a GED, pass a background check, and pass a urine test

So there are absolutely things out there for people with bad social anxiety if you're willing to try

.

Good advice. Think I'm going to check out that job opportunity

TuxedoCyan posted...

No plan.

Too much anxiety.

You need to make a plan. You don't want to be on the receiving end of the world without one in that situation

FinalBraveNUT posted...

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Good advice. Think I'm going to check out that job opportunity

Doesn't pay much but it's better than nothing

Also the experience is insanely valuable. You're literally the closest person to a doctor every day, working right beside them (either in person or remote) 8 hours a day (or you can do part time)

I'm 35 (going on 36) I was married, just had a huge falling out with my wife, she lives in Canada and I was so close to moving there (got my permanent residents and everything).

Now, I'm 35, Single and for the first time in my life, truly untethered to anyone else around me (Live in Seattle/Bellevue area)

This excites me as much as it frightens me.

Smackems posted...

You need to make a plan. You don't want to be on the receiving end of the world without one in that situation

One of my wife's friends has cystic fibrosis terminally confined to a wheelchair and she's able to hold down a WFH job as a writer. She and her husband (yep) are looking for a house last I heard.

If this guy is 42 then I wonder how old his parents are. My father died just over 3 years ago - trust me they don't last forever.

Smackems posted...

You need to make a plan. You don't want to be on the receiving end of the world without one in that situation

Oh trust me I know I am really going to be up the creek without a paddle one day.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Oh trust me I know I am really going to be up the creek without a paddle one day.

Try something that involves no one but you. Try to learn an instrument, draw, code, just something so that when that day comes you can have a skill in your back pocket

GateOfDoom posted...

Still live with family members feel like a complete loser

I blame Bidenomics

40, no kids. Have had plenty of girlfriends, though. At this point having kids at my age would probably be very tiresome. If it happens it happens. It isn't for everyone. As long as you are happy don't let societal expectations bring you down. But if you wish for a wife and kids and the white picket fence, go out and make it happen!

Smackems posted...

Try something that involves no one but you. Try to learn an instrument, draw, code, just something so that when that day comes you can have a skill in your back pocket

I've never once in my life had any life ambitions or goals or dreams. The only thing I am good at is doing nothing. I've been shut-in for 24 years only going out in public a hand full of times during that entire time span. I'm immune to cabin fever. All I want to do is be left alone. I would absolutely apply for disability if I knew I could get it. I don't want to work.

Grass is always greener on the other side. Many times I want to go back to those days without a wife or kid.

Couldn't take living with the parents though. The meals were really blah, although the expenses were quite low.

Look on the brightside. You could have a wife or ex wife, and kids, and just be a dead-beat dad who can't pay child support because you spend it all on pills, and booze. Now those are REAL losers.

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hereforemnant posted...

So long as you're not overweight or out of shape

WTF is this?

ItsNotA2Mer posted...

WTF is this?

It gives outsiders an excuse to say you're lazy or not working, last thing you want is to be able to be perceived as a NEET who is out of shape or doesn't look like they take care of themselves

I assume you are planning on inheriting their home. As a back up plan you might want to buy a nearby house. If you don't want to live in it, rent it out.

GateOfDoom posted...

Still live with family members feel like a complete loser

There is a board on GameFaqs that can help you call the sex board try posting this there to get good faith advice and supportive discussion that wont archive in a few days.

@Umbreon can you provide a link? I cant figure out how to grab one for individual boards on my phone

B18Champ posted...

I blame Bidenomics

Explain this with data to back the claim

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What were you replying too, because as I read this topic in chronological order it appeared at first glance that you were agreeing with the post directly above you when you could have just been replying to the topic title.

Gotta be careful with that sort of stuff,

Do you have a decent job or striving to better yourself if you don't already? Do you help your parents out? That's not a loser in my eyes if you meet those two.

I live with a parent. if I get it a long term relationship, I'll move out. But I need to find someone to live with her, cause she has health stuff.

Not that 40 is some magic age but by the time you're 40 you probably want to have some kind of plan to live independently of your parents since they're not going to be around forever.

Arcanine2009 posted...

Do you have a decent job or striving to better yourself if you don't already? Do you help your parents out? That's not a loser in my eyes if you meet those two.

I live with a parent. if I get it a long term relationship, I'll move out. But I need to find someone to live with her, cause she has health stuff.

Bro no offense, but you share a lot about your life on the sex board, and the relationship you have with your parents is very unhealthy as weve told you many times.

Dont want to start shit here, but you shouldnt be giving others advice on the matter.

You gotta put your mask on first before helping others fasten theresor however the airplane quote goes.

Arcanine2009 posted...

Do you have a decent job or striving to better yourself if you don't already? Do you help your parents out?

Probably not directed at me but I'll answer. No job and not really striving to better myself except I did start working out in 2019 and have kept it up to this day. I exercise every day for about 10-15 minutes. Pushups, crunches, some weight lifting, and walking/jogging on our treadmill. I do help my parents around the house with chores but that's it.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Probably not directed at me but I'll answer. No job and not really striving to better myself except I did start working out in 2019 and have kept it up to this day. I exercise every day for about 10-15 minutes. Pushups, crunches, some weight lifting, and walking/jogging on our treadmill. I do help my parents around the house with chores but that's it.

Look man. If you were truly healthy and happy with your life then you wouldnt be in this topic right now.

Thats probably the only advice that I or anyone else can give you that holds any value. Introspection.

Sometimes we delude ourselves into thinking things arent problematic when they really are. Being able to recognize I dont like my life is a necessary first step into making any sort of positive change whatsoever.

I think perhaps thats what this topic will do for you.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Probably not directed at me but I'll answer. No job and not really striving to better myself except I did start working out in 2019 and have kept it up to this day. I exercise every day for about 10-15 minutes. Pushups, crunches, some weight lifting, and walking/jogging on our treadmill. I do help my parents around the house with chores but that's it.

How often do you talk to people not your parents like other family or random people or friends/acquaintances are you OK with your social skills?- im shit at social skills irl btw

STEROLIZER posted...

Look man. If you were truly healthy and happy with your life then you wouldnt be in this topic right now.

Thats probably the only advice that I or anyone else can give you that holds any value. Introspection.

Sometimes we delude ourselves into thinking things arent problematic when they really are. Being able to recognize I dont like my life is a necessary first step into making any sort of positive change whatsoever.

I think perhaps thats what this topic will do for you.

Except I've posted in topics exactly like this dozens and dozens of times over the last two decades and nothing has changed. I've posted on other forums too. If I really deep down don't like my life, then I don't like my life. But I'm still not going to change anything.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Probably not directed at me but I'll answer. No job and not really striving to better myself except I did start working out in 2019 and have kept it up to this day. I exercise every day for about 10-15 minutes. Pushups, crunches, some weight lifting, and walking/jogging on our treadmill. I do help my parents around the house with chores but that's it.

Can't you atleast do some very basic jobs like a bagger at a grocery store? Or do surveys, they pay like shit but that's better than nothing I guess.

super_felicia posted...

How often do you talk to people not your parents like other family or random people or friends/acquaintances are you OK with your social skills?- im shit at social skills irl btw

I haven't really talked to anyone in person outside of my parents and my little brother in the last 24 years. The last time I talked to anyone else in person, was a psychiatrist/physiologist when I was 18 and he only made things worse for me so I quit seeing him.