Poll of the Day > Planning on having a difficult conversation with my wife today

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Weve had a plan for a few months now that we would have family come visit us in December as kind of a thanksgiving/Christmas get together. Despite covid we thought it would be ok when we initially made plans since it would be a small group.

Now though it seems to me like its exactly the kind of thing to avoid right now. It would be around 10 or so people total, a couple of whom are little kids.

2020 has been a shit year and my wife has been overburdened with stress from working at a hospital during covid, so I know that canceling these plans would really hit her hard. I dont want to lose anyone though, or have them get sick and have to deal with long term complications from the illness. Especially not when vaccines are on the horizon and possibly just a few months away from being widely available.

Anyone have any opinions? Am I overreacting to things Im hearing from experts?

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Considering her job, you absolutely should cancel and if she doesn't understand despite her job I'd say that you have bigger issues

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Right. Disappointing as things might be, it would be better to call, by phone or video chat, some of these people and MAYBE enjoy the holiday in this way, rather than risk things with the current state of the world.

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Mead posted...

Am I overreacting

I would say so. Its close family. If youre worried about possibly infecting others, go get tested before they come. If youre worried about them possibly infecting you, ask them to get tested before visiting. Its really not that hard to compromise and make things work and not upset your wife.

MartianManchild posted...

I would say so. Its close family. If youre worried about possibly infecting others, go get tested before they come. If youre worried about them possibly infecting you, ask them to get tested before visiting. Its really not that hard to compromise and make things work and not upset your wife.

It also depends on how they are getting there. For example, taking a plane, train, or other public transport could put everybody at risk. If driving their own car, the risk is lower, but not non-existent...
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It sounds to me like you have the right idea. Like you said, vaccines are on the way. It will still be several months sure, but the wait is worth it to save lives.

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MartianManchild posted...

I would say so. Its close family. If youre worried about possibly infecting others, go get tested before they come. If youre worried about them possibly infecting you, ask them to get tested before visiting. Its really not that hard to compromise and make things work and not upset your wife.

Im not sure everyone could even get tested in time and a negative test would only show that the virus wasnt present when the test was done

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Sat down and spoke to her about it, she heard me out and sees why Im concerned. I sent her the CDC recommendations for the holidays this year and were gonna talk about it together with our other family members.

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BADoglick posted...

Considering her job, you absolutely should cancel and if she doesn't understand despite her job I'd say that you have bigger issues

100% this

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