Poll of the Day > ngl my mid life crisis is going to hit pretty hard.

(+) Yeah! (+)

I've basically wasted all of my 20s and half of my 30s with nothing to show for it except a leadership position at work where people may listen to me around 50% of the time.

Yeah I'd be having a crisis too if my life were mid, fr fr

Maybe your mid life crisis will be you getting any type of hobby or social life outside of your parents house

You should go outside.

Maybe you'll really break bad and go on a date

https://youtu.be/O1oQglI7WHc

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Yellow posted...

Maybe you'll really break bad and go on a date

You weren't here for that I guess.
I had a girlfriend once over a decade ago.
It was during the height of Thunder's no1curr gimmick and was part of why my original account was banned.

Metalsonic66 posted...

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Omg this is me lmaooo I really have been thinking of getting rollerblades again to use in the winter and spring here

I really want to be brave and try roller derby

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I want to be aggressively violent but also I'm very physically easily to injure so that's what puts me off

Judgmenl posted...

It was during the height of Thunder's no1curr gimmick

As dickish as that whole thing was, I always got a kick out of it, even when it was directed at me lmao

https://youtu.be/LqltVZ6IVKM

Jen0125 posted...

Omg this is me lmaooo I really have been thinking of getting rollerblades again to use in the winter and spring here

I really want to be brave and try roller derby

I hear Roller Disco is still popular in some places lol

As long as youve kept up with your 401k you should be fine...

Metalsonic66 posted...

I hear Roller Disco is still popular in some places lol

Oh yeah? We still have some skating rinks around here.

This week I've been stopping work at like normal times (between 5 and 6) instead of working like 12+ hour days.

It's just been pretty boring. I absolutely have been using work as a way to hide how utterly void my life is of anything remotely interesting.

Metalsonic66 posted...

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I'm turning 30 next week and have been randomly thinking about getting a skateboard lol

Jen0125 posted...

I want to be aggressively violent but also I'm very physically easily to injure so that's what puts me off

im going to say that doing roller derby by physically frail is a bad idea

My version is picking up mountain biking in my 40s. I'll do it until I crack a collarbone or kneecap or something.

Ill probably just start traveling everyone on my own once I hit my rock bottom.

Imagine hiking in the alps at the height of summer depressed!

SilentSeph posted...

I'm turning 30 next week and have been randomly thinking about getting a skateboard lol

Recapture that nostalgia!

Judgmenl posted...

I've basically wasted all of my 20s and half of my 30s with nothing to show for it except a leadership position at work where people may listen to me around 50% of the time.

Leadership positions are fun...NOT. But it is something, people always told me if life sucks outside work you got to do it yourself. Travel, take a walk, interact with people especially if you have friends. Take up another hobby preferably one that doesn't cut into your job (trust me, I tried the gaming hobby turns out a crap ton of backlog and never finished a single game in who knows how long). Make life the way you want it, if it does not go your way find another route or activity. Something will answer the call!

I've been thinking that I'm likely due for one as well. I turn 40 soon and have accomplished nothing and have nothing to show for it.

It's to the point where I was considering a different haircut and worrying that's the start of it. Anything I do out of the ordinary makes me think I'm just becoming desperate for a change and will snowball from there.

Not to mention that my life has basically just been an ongoing crisis, not sure I could handle much more of a drop off.

PK_Spam posted...

Ill probably just start traveling everyone on my own once I hit my rock bottom.

Imagine hiking in the alps at the height of summer depressed!

Depressed traveling is also part of my bucket list

Metalsonic66 posted...

Recapture that nostalgia!

Yeah man I'll be so hip

it helps to realize that just because you're older doesn't mean you can't do shit.

but you don't ever listen to anything anyone tells you here sooooooo

SilentSeph posted...

Depressed traveling is also part of my bucket list

Yeah man I'll be so hip

tbh traveling and getting away for a little bit if you can really does help a little

What kind of things happen during midlife crisis? Just curious

Ferarri619 posted...

What kind of things happen during midlife crisis? Just curious

Its usually some version of an existential crisis. Some people are sad they havent accomplished anything. Others start to wonder what the point of accomplishing anything is whether they have or not.

In either case you realize you need some goals to get out of the funk. If you have a strong purpose (hedonism? advocacy? Religion?) maybe youll be able to think of something good. If notyou buy a skateboard or sports car or something and try to develop a new hobby.

Ive done American dream sorts of stuff with the job/house/kids/dog/security. But whats the point, really? Said dream made more sense with the more admirable US of the past (and moderate religion). Hmm

This is why I started writing. I completed one book and now I'm working on another. It brings me a sliver of satisfaction knowing that something I made will outlast me. Assuming Amazon's servers stay active...

wpot posted...

Its usually some version of an existential crisis. Some people are sad they havent accomplished anything. Others start to wonder what the point of accomplishing anything is whether they have or not.

Wow sounds exactly what I've been going through. Lately I see no point in life whatsoever and don't even desire a relationship or anything else for that matter.

Mine destroyed me. I think irreparably so

Note: Everything must be an argument in which the person that is arguing with me states that I am wrong.

Ferarri619 posted...

Wow sounds exactly what I've been going through. Lately I see no point in life whatsoever and don't even desire a relationship or anything else for that matter.

Yes, it's a constant battle. I do OK when I force myself into getting involved with vacations/activities/etc...even though I would truly rather not be doing most of them if I'm being honest. I also do OK when I have a fun 'gaming project' going on. If none of the above is happening, though...my mind drifts to pointlessness and my mood suffers. It's not really depression (I've asked - it's more of a 'dysphoria/dysthymia') and there's no anxiety to it, but it sucks.

I assume more people are having this problem these days given the changes to American society:

• Lack of true societal pride/expectations (problematic, but provided a purpose)
• Lack of religion (same thing: problematic, but provided a purpose)
• Lack of family/gender roles (even more problematic than the above, but - again - they did provide some direction to life)

It's correct that no-one should be able to tell others how to live, however, if there are no agreed upon pathways or goals to work towards as a society...we're unfortunately blundering around for no reason.

Trumpians are currently happier and more energetic than others (I've seen studies in the NY Times) because their clique has a (sad) purpose: owning the libs and opposing any changes to the traditional life purposes listed above. They are morally wrong to do this in the way they do, but this is the core reason why they have been rising and "Make America Great Again" works as their slogan: it comes with a purpose to life.

There's little energy in defending norms for liberals (and probably especially for moderates) and they are largely left to watch the decline of society. There is some energy in "let people do as they will and celebrate them for it", but the celebration of disunity can only unify people to a certain point. :)

So there you go: here's hoping you enjoyed that encouraging (and unexpectedly political) pick-me-up. I'd be happy for someone to convince you (and me) I'm wrong. :)

Ferarri619 posted...

What kind of things happen during midlife crisis? Just curious

If you have money, you buy a motorcycle apparently

wpot posted...

It's correct that no-one should be able to tell others how to live

This isn't true. Some people should definitely be told not to live the way they're living.

For starters, that's what prison is for.

wpot posted...

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So... You'll be less depressed if you join a cult. Not necessarily wrong, but also not necessarily a solution.

Zangulus posted...

Just makes me think of a boomer going up to the guards

Nah, that's waaay more of a Millennial mindset.

Boomers can be self-centered and narcissistic, but Millennials are the ones who spent their entire childhoods being constantly told how special they were, how they could be anything they want to be and do anything they want to do, and who grew up to be so phenomenally entitled that they had to invent the Mandela Effect as a concept because they'd rather believe that they'd fallen into an alternate universe rather than admit they might be wrong about something.

wpot posted...

Yes, it's a constant battle. I do OK when I force myself into getting involved with vacations/activities/etc...even though I would truly rather not be doing most of them if I'm being honest. I also do OK when I have a fun 'gaming project' going on. If none of the above is happening, though...my mind drifts to pointlessness and my mood suffers. It's not really depression (I've asked - it's more of a 'dysphoria/dysthymia') and there's no anxiety to it, but it sucks.

I assume more people are having this problem these days given the changes to American society:
* Lack of true societal pride/expectations (problematic, but provided a purpose)
* Lack of religion (same thing: problematic, but provided a purpose)
* Lack of family/gender roles (even more problematic than the above, but - again - they did provide some direction to life)
It's correct that no-one should be able to tell others how to live, however, if there are no agreed upon pathways or goals to work towards as a society...we're unfortunately blundering around for no reason.

Trumpians are currently happier and more energetic than others (I've seen studies in the NY Times) because their clique has a (sad) purpose: owning the libs and opposing any changes to the traditional life purposes listed above. They are morally wrong to do this in the way they do, but this is the core reason why they have been rising and "Make America Great Again" works as their slogan: it comes with a purpose to life.

There's little energy in defending norms for liberals (and probably especially for moderates) and they are largely left to watch the decline of society. There is some energy in "let people do as they will and celebrate them for it", but the celebration of disunity can only unify people to a certain point. :)

So there you go: here's hoping you enjoyed that encouraging (and unexpectedly political) pick-me-up. I'd be happy for someone to convince you (and me) I'm wrong. :)

Wait one of the symptoms of depression is anxiety? Does that mean I'm not depressed? I have loads of anxiety (all centered around work and not messing my day to day up.), but not at all related to actually doing things for fun. If I actually had interesting things to do I would do them. I usually describe it with apathy.

Otherwise this is the best post I've read in a while. Really paints a different side to the story and I can relate to what you are saying.

Judgmenl posted...

Wait one of the symptoms of depression is anxiety?

It can be, but like every mental disorder you don't need to tick all of the potential diagnostic boxes to be diagnosed with it.

Judgmenl posted...

I have loads of anxiety, but not at all related to doing things.

From what I've observed, I would actually disagree with you on that. It may be manifesting differently than the other anxiety responses you feel, but the extent to which you're averse to trying new things definitely comes across as a certain degree of anxiety around it. You've got a pretty narrow set of things you're willing to try to entertain yourself, despite expressing quite a bit of dissatisfaction with that set of things. I could be off the mark, by virtue of not being inside your head, but that's definitely the vibe I get.

Judgmenl posted...

If I actually had interesting things to do I would do them. I usually describe it with apathy.

"Nothing is interesting enough to be worth doing" is pretty textbook depression talk. It could also be another disorder, though, because quite a few disorders include avolition in their diagnostic criteria.

Mostly, I'd just suggest that you get yourself into therapy. Whatever is actually wrong with you, something is wrong, but I've seen nothing that suggests you're beyond help. An actual diagnosis and treatment will likely improve your situation a lot.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Nah, that's waaay more of a Millennial mindset.

Boomers can be self-centered and narcissistic, but Millennials are the ones who spent their entire childhoods being constantly told how special they were, how they could be anything they want to be and do anything they want to do, and who grew up to be so phenomenally entitled that they had to invent the Mandela Effect as a concept because they'd rather believe that they'd fallen into an alternate universe rather than admit they might be wrong about something.

https://youtu.be/LD0x7ho_IYc

also, the Mandela effect is named after an event people misremembered happening (Nelson Mandela dying) in the early 80s. not really millennials that created that. Mandela effect is dumb as hell though

I'm glad we can all at least agree that the Mandela effect is stupid.

Yellow posted...

I'm glad we can all at least agree that the Mandela effect is stupid.

One of the most absurd thing I have ever read about. Straight out of a Fringe episode.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

This isn't true. Some people should definitely be told not to live the way they're living.

For starters, that's what prison is for.

Of course I had a context for that statement: you can't (as a society) tell people how to live their life...so long as they're following the law. A relative could rightfully advise/push someone to live better than they are, but societally we can't tell people - for example - not to use legal drugs or follow a certain religion or not be gay...as much as some might like to.

adjl posted...

So... You'll be less depressed if you join a cult. Not necessarily wrong, but also not necessarily a solution.

If I had a solution I wouldn't be whining on a message board. But yes: I was trying to explain why some people struggle with emptiness more than others: societal/personal goals (even if we would describe those goals as 'wrong' i.e. a cult) make a huge difference to personal happiness. That explanation isn't a recommendation. :)

adjl posted...

Wait one of the symptoms of depression is anxiety?

It can be, but like every mental disorder you don't need to tick all of the potential diagnostic boxes to be diagnosed with it.

Yes, this: I have people close to me who are simply anxious...and others who are both...and others (me) who have a low level existential crisis going on at most times. Mental/moods issues come in many flavors and they can mix.

I'm just some guy on the internet, but I can say that my wife had significant anxiety for a time. She would start worrying about things that were clearly illogical and be unable to get them out of her mind. She has since gotten treatment for it (tiny daily pill) and the anxiety has gone away remarkably well with no side effects that we've seen over 15ish years. If she loses/stops taking the pills the anxiety comes back, so they are clearly working. I would recommend that treatment to anyone struggling with anxiety (if recommended by a therapist, of course). So:
adjl posted...

An actual diagnosis and treatment will likely improve your situation a lot.

...this.

Long story short in the context of what I wrote, the only solution I am aware of for existential crises is to get involved in activities and (hopefully) develop goals in the process. (Although like I said, that's easier said than done) Having anxiety on top make it that much harder to try things to address emptiness, and anxiety can be treated quite successfully.