Current Events > Okcupid/Tinder/online dating/regular dating general topic VI

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Greninja posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

so based off what i read in that other tinder topic i deleted my tinder account and started over

i had like 600 matches and apparently matches slow down at that point? so i went with the fresh start

no matches so far. well, i got a notification for one and then when i went to view it nothing showed up--so an accidental match followed by immediate deletion

When I first started Tinder a few years ago, I was able to get at least 7 matches a day. I closed the account many times and have reopened since then, and I can barely get a match in a week. I don't know what the hell went on... it's been linked to the same Facebook account. I don't know what to do, but it sucks. It would be weird if girls have suddenly deemed me ugly for no reason?

Coupd just be age? I'm more attractive than I was, but the Tinder population is pretty young, and I'm falling off the age range for college girls
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Halloween girl surprised me and texted me

Just checked up on me and sent her condolences cause I was headed to a funeral


Told me to text her if I ever need to get my mind of all the sad stuff. I don't feel comfortable texting her yet though.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

gna647 posted...

Halloween girl surprised me and texted me

Just checked up on me and sent her condolences cause I was headed to a funeral


Told me to text her if I ever need to get my mind of all the sad stuff. I don't feel comfortable texting her yet though.

You really should grow a spine and block her, but we all know that won't happen. Have fun getting your hopes up and getting strung along.

I felt like I handled it well

I kept it short and sweet, asked her how she was doing. Said bye and that was that


I still don't follow her on anything. And everything seems chill between us so far
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So i got a piano lesson with a cutie. Let's see if if I work some of my "magic"
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JustMyOpinion posted...

gna647 posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

gna647 posted...

Halloween girl surprised me and texted me

Just checked up on me and sent her condolences cause I was headed to a funeral


Told me to text her if I ever need to get my mind of all the sad stuff. I don't feel comfortable texting her yet though.

You really should grow a spine and block her, but we all know that won't happen. Have fun getting your hopes up and getting strung along.

I felt like I handled it well

I kept it short and sweet, asked her how she was doing. Said bye and that was that


I still don't follow her on anything. And everything seems chill between us so far

Ahhh the slippery slope of backsliding. If you give her an opening you'll be right back to where you were.

Well you're not wrong


If she texts me "hey, wanna go out" I'm probably gonna say yeah, but I'm not making that first move
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Bump
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Greninja posted...

TheGoldenEel posted...

so based off what i read in that other tinder topic i deleted my tinder account and started over

i had like 600 matches and apparently matches slow down at that point? so i went with the fresh start

no matches so far. well, i got a notification for one and then when i went to view it nothing showed up--so an accidental match followed by immediate deletion

When I first started Tinder a few years ago, I was able to get at least 7 matches a day. I closed the account many times and have reopened since then, and I can barely get a match in a week. I don't know what the hell went on... it's been linked to the same Facebook account. I don't know what to do, but it sucks. It would be weird if girls have suddenly deemed me ugly for no reason?

I heard that's how Tinder works.
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I'm watching that online dating episode of Master Of None. What'd you guys think about it
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Guys, idk what to do. So lost and lonely.

Just found out this one girl from years back who was my boss at work just married both our boss at the time. Like, he was the guy that forced me out of the location because of the thing between me and her, and now 5 years later, they just got married. Wtf, that hurt me deeper than I thought imaginable. He was married with a kid at the time too. Would never expect them to end up together...
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My friend is hosting a kickback and halloween girl is going to be there

so idk if I want to go. I mean i should because she just talked to me recently and everything was pretty chill between us.

its just there's going to be a lot of drinking there too.
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Got buzzed on Friday and had the "brilliant" idea of messaging about 20 girls. Of course, none of them messaged back on Friday like I wanted, but 12 of them now have. I don't have a single free night to see any of them until after Memorial Day.
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I checked POF for my area and wasn't impressed with the selection, not sure if it'd be worth making an OKC profile now or not
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Why do only fat chicks reply?
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So what free things are good other than maybe OKC, Tinder and Bumble
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JustMyOpinion posted...

gna647 posted...

My friend is hosting a kickback and halloween girl is going to be there

so idk if I want to go. I mean i should because she just talked to me recently and everything was pretty chill between us.

its just there's going to be a lot of drinking there too.

Damn. You backslid even faster than I thought you would. Enjoy getting hung up on her again because now she's oh so nice in you stringing you along as a backup and giving you the time of day.

This. It's great that she was nice to you the last time she talked to you, but that doesn't change what she's said before: that she's not interested in you. Until you're ACTUALLY able to move on, it would be wise to keep your distance.
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Fought with the girl I've been sleeping with. She was being a bitch, she has a shitty attitude and is way too proud to laugh at herself. She got irritated that I would even jokingly ask her to come over when I know how much she works and then put me down and tried propping herself up when I called her out for getting upset over something so stupid. Don't even get it, man, she's an awesome person in general, but nobody would ever put up with the massive chip she has on her shoulder. It's like walking on eggshells.

So I dunno if we're done or not. I enjoy her company, but she really needs to lighten the fuck up because I can't be around someone who's that fucking sensitive.
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So people have to catet to you and be less sensitive rather than you working on trying to understand where people might be coming from? Sounds kinda selfish but I don't know you so I could be wrong
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Deedice posted...

So people have to catet to you and be less sensitive rather than you working on trying to understand where people might be coming from? Sounds kinda selfish but I don't know you so I could be wrong

I've been his position tbh. Sometimes women just cry about literally nothing.
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recently ive given up on interesting convo starters and always just start with 'hey whats up' or something like that

it works surprisingly well. if they reply its pretty easy to have a normal conversation. for ages i was trying out one liners/jokes/compliments but they really dont lead anywhere. compliments right off the bat feel quite unnatural when meeting someone in person so im trying to get it as close to real life as possible
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Deedice posted...

So people have to catet to you and be less sensitive rather than you working on trying to understand where people might be coming from? Sounds kinda selfish but I don't know you so I could be wrong

You jumped to a weird place

I jokingly told her to come over and she started lecturing me and capped it off with "I'm irritated that you would even think to ask me that when I etc etc and you etc etc"
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Vermander posted...

Deedice posted...

So people have to catet to you and be less sensitive rather than you working on trying to understand where people might be coming from? Sounds kinda selfish but I don't know you so I could be wrong

I've been his position tbh. Sometimes women just cry about literally nothing.

Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't it generally seen as a feminine quality to be more sensitive or emotional? It seems like it would be an uphill battle for someone whom can't stand sensitivity to relate to them.
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So what do you do to find dates if Tinder doesn't work for yah?
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EnragedSlith posted...

Deedice posted...

So people have to catet to you and be less sensitive rather than you working on trying to understand where people might be coming from? Sounds kinda selfish but I don't know you so I could be wrong

You jumped to a weird place

I jokingly told her to come over and she started lecturing me and capped it off with "I'm irritated that you would even think to ask me that when I etc etc and you etc etc"

I don't think so. You went pretty hard with insults and a lengthy paragraph because she was irritated with you for seemingly disregarding something that she told you about, before. Your reaction seemed really self-centered and not proportional to the situation.
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I've inadvertently taken another break from dating lol and I ended up saying yes to that girl's friend offer because I was curious to see if she'd still talk to me, she actually is which is kinda cool so at least I made a pseudo friend who's actually gonna legitimately leave the state at some point
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Got an ice cream date with a pretty blue eyed blonde girl tonight :)
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Found this girl that's hot af and plays video games and I have 80% with but in her questions it said she wouldn't find anyone slightly overweight attractive. Still gonna message her sometime, at worst someone to play games with maybe
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Had the date tonight

We got ice cream and went back to my place. She cuddled a bit and we watched an episode of black mirror

Was kinda hoping we make out for a bit but she said she had to go since she had an early day tomorrow. She just hugged me goodbye though we didn't kiss or anything


So idk. Also turns out we've met at a Halloween party before


Edit: she texted me when she got home and told me she had fun so that's good.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

A Halloween party you say?

lmao
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Managed to have a little conversation with a cute asian chick on tinder

hoping it can lead to a date at least..
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JustMyOpinion posted...

A Halloween party you say?

Yes
Coincidentally I met her the same night I met Halloween girl

Just at two different parties
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MegaButterfree posted...

Has anyone here met an older woman (like 15-20+ years older than you) on an online dating site/app? I'm interested in dating someone older than me but I don't really know where to find women who'd be interested (I'm 21).

Almost did


She was 34 and asked what I was doing tonight (assuming she wanted to hookup)

I stupidly said I was going to a party.
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Yeah been getting a lot more matches since finals are over



This 18 year old girl just recently turned 18 and has been snap chatting me more.
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Anyone else noticing an even bigger flood of bots lately? They're outnumbering real profiles I see like 20 to 1. All I do is left swipe all day.

Also, an old friend told me she saw my tinder profile and wants to meet up. She's swiped right on me twice and I have yet to see her profile. Wtf tinder do you think I'm too cool for her because I left swipe all day and have 1000+ matches? I'm afraid to reset, but getting tired of this.
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Great timing

I just used Coffee Meets Bagel for the first time in 2 months and got matched with a qt 3.14 art teacher not much younger than me

What say? "How's it going" has worked 0 times as well as a joke that got the other person laughing (about it brightening her day and then saying nothing ever again)

:D

D:
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She texted me again


She saw my snap that I was watching twin peaks and I guess she's a huge fan and got excited so we just talked about twin peaks



:(


I'll never get over this girl. She's just too fun to talk to.
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Guyyyys she said she is hiking in yellowstone now and that she's not ignoring me; was about a day in a half between her messages.

she lyin? i wanna hit it off with her....she asian and i only been with white chicks
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So things are actually going really well for me dating wise

I guess cause finals just ended and girls are out


Talking to this pretty blonde girl, had our first date the other night. Might hang this weekend

Matched with this girl and she messaged me saying she remembers me from Spanish class. She's pretty cute so I'll take her out tomorrow night or something

This 18 year old chick has been hitting me up more ever since she turned 18, but we've known each other for like 2 years so kinda iffy on that. It's like "hey I'm legal now let's hookup"


Halloween girl has been texting me first now >___>
I have a feeling she's in that lonely stage and she knows I like her a lot so she's either doing it for attention or she's looking for affection.
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I know

I'm too hopeful about it :(
She's just a genuinely cool girl to be around
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gna647 posted...

So things are actually going really well for me dating wise

I guess cause finals just ended and girls are out


Talking to this pretty blonde girl, had our first date the other night. Might hang this weekend

Matched with this girl and she messaged me saying she remembers me from Spanish class. She's pretty cute so I'll take her out tomorrow night or something

This 18 year old chick has been hitting me up more ever since she turned 18, but we've known each other for like 2 years so kinda iffy on that. It's like "hey I'm legal now let's hookup"


Halloween girl has been texting me first now >___>
I have a feeling she's in that lonely stage and she knows I like her a lot so she's either doing it for attention or she's looking for affection.

BANG EVERYONE
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Will most likely bang chick from Spanish class.

Been thirsty for her for a bit. Nice tits too.
One time she followed me after class and had lunch together. She had a boyfriend then though. But time to get it lol.
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