Current Events > Should I tell my fiance about any feelings I might be having about another girl?

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That's just a fast track towards breakup town right?
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What would is serve to achieve by telling her exactly?

Anyway as you get older and been with someone a long time it's natural to think and fantasise about other people. Having the feelings in itself isn't necessarily bad. Acting on them is.
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If you aren't completely convinced she is just right for you she should not be your fiancé. Personally I would advise against marriage all together but that's just me, everybody's different.
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No.
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Bottle that shit up.
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Absolutely not
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What could go wrong?
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Short answer is "no", long answer is "absolutely not"

If you're planning to cheat on her, just break it off. Otherwise, keep it to yourself.
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Cisco posted...

What would is serve to achieve by telling her exactly?

Anyway as you get older and been with someone a long time it's natural to think and fantasise about other people. Having the feelings in itself isn't necessarily bad. Acting on them is.

I don't know, I talked to said girl after she rejected me and she said talking to my fiance about it may help me forget about her and stop feeling like such a terrible person for liking another girl.
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The Admiral posted...

No.

Feelings come and go. Just because you want to stick you peen in some other girl doesn't mean you fiance has to know or you feelings for this chick are something that need attention and nourishment. Plus it could just be pre-wedding jitters or something.
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There is basically no up side to this
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I feel like an ass for having feelings for another woman especially since my fiance is sweet and honest and doesn't deserve a man who won't put 100% of his feelings in her corner.
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Duncanwii posted...

Cisco posted...

What would is serve to achieve by telling her exactly?

Anyway as you get older and been with someone a long time it's natural to think and fantasise about other people. Having the feelings in itself isn't necessarily bad. Acting on them is.

I don't know, I talked to said girl after she rejected me and she said talking to my fiance about it may help me forget about her and stop feeling like such a terrible person for liking another girl.

You actually told the other girl you liked her? That to me seems like crossing a line.

But no, I wouldn't say anything.

Duncanwii posted...

Cisco posted...

What would is serve to achieve by telling her exactly?

Anyway as you get older and been with someone a long time it's natural to think and fantasise about other people. Having the feelings in itself isn't necessarily bad. Acting on them is.

I don't know, I talked to said girl after she rejected me and she said talking to my fiance about it may help me forget about her and stop feeling like such a terrible person for liking another girl.

The fact that she "rejected" you makes it sound like you handled a crush extremely inappropriately.

It's normal to be attracted to other people. It isn't right to act on it.
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Melonfarms posted...

The Admiral posted...

No.

Feelings come and go. Just because you want to stick you peen in some other girl doesn't mean you fiance has to know or you feelings for this chick are something that need attention and nourishment. Plus it could just be pre-wedding jitters or something.

Pretty much. There is no good reason to tell your fiancee in either scenario:

1. This is a passing feeling, you tell her, and you end up getting married -- this is something she will remember for years and will potentially lead to fights/insecurity long after the feelings are gone

2. This is a sign you shouldn't be with your fiancee and you break off the engagement -- even in that case, she doesn't need to know it's because of some other girl. All that information would do is crush her feelings of self-worth and ability to trust. You should tell her you're just not ready to get married.
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You guys probably think I'm a horrible person like I think I am right?
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You can't un-ring a bell.
Having feelings for someone else doesn't make you a horrible person. It makes you human. Entertaining those feelings behind someone's back on the other hand...
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Duncanwii posted...

You guys probably think I'm a horrible person like I think I am right?

more like a loser tbh
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Pics?
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Duncanwii posted...

You guys probably think I'm a horrible person like I think I am right?

Melonfarms posted...

You can't un-ring a bell.
Having feelings for someone else doesn't make you a horrible person. It makes you human. Entertaining those feelings behind someone's back on the other hand...

This. What would have happened if new girl was all "i love you, let's go have sex in the break room."