Current Events > I had sex for the first time about a week ago. With a co-worker.

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Since it was my first time I felt the need to tell people (i.e. brag), but I realize now that was a poor choice. I told her that I was telling people because I felt guilty, and quite understandably that doesn't make it better.

It's strange, though. I know she doesn't hate me because she keeps texting me random things. She also talks to me at work as normal. It's just that, once in awhile, she brings up that she heard someone talking about us. I wonder if she regrets it.

I already asked her if she wanted to hang out again. We're both busy and I've been sick the past couple days, so not sure what to think about that. She didn't say no.
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yea...you shouldn't have said anything.
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You don't shit where you eat, and you definitely don't talk about it if you do.

You bragged to other co-workers? That wasn't a good idea
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Telling mutual co workers is the worst thing you could have done. And this is coming from a guy who sent a D pic to the receptionist.
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lol you were recently a virgin
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Unknown5uspect posted...

You don't shit where you eat, and you definitely don't talk about it if you do.

This.

Wtf mang
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Chicken posted...

lol you were recently a virgin

Honestly this is a big part of the reason why I told people. Everyone knew I was a virgin (because I told them that too).
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Did she swallow your jizz?
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AceAttorneyist posted...

Chicken posted...

lol you were recently a virgin

Honestly this is a big part of the reason why I told people. Everyone knew I was a virgin (because I told them that too).

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Now you have to marry hee
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Waluigi7 posted...

How old are you

24. She's 30.
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I can't blame TC for bragging after losing his virginity. Shouldn't have done it but not surprising.
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KiwiTerraRizing posted...

I can't blame TC for bragging after losing his virginity. Shouldn't have done it but not surprising.

I knew it was a bad idea, but I was so happy I wanted to tell at least a couple people. There was also the fact that, before we did it, I told her straight up I would probably tell people if we did have sex. We were both high though and she probably thought I was joking.
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How quickly did you nut?
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Patty_Fleur posted...

How quickly did you nut?

I wasn't even able to to be honest. We went at it for like an hour and a half, and by the end it was too uncomfortable.
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AceAttorneyist posted...

Chicken posted...

lol you were recently a virgin

Honestly this is a big part of the reason why I told people. Everyone knew I was a virgin (because I told them that too).

You need to tell more people at work. There's nothing wrong with that, as it'll help with your guilt issues.

Your co-worker might be a little embarrassed about it, but she'll respect that you're working on making yourself more secure.
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AceAttorneyist posted...

Patty_Fleur posted...

How quickly did you nut?

I wasn't even able to to be honest. We went at it for like an hour and a half, and by the end it was too uncomfortable.

Lol
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It's not surprising you were a virgin
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Dat_Cracka_Jax posted...

It's not surprising you were a virgin

Hard to disagree with you there.
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How was it uncomfortable...was it dry?
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TC why the fuck are you telling coworkers that you're a virgin

AceAttorneyist posted...

I knew it was a bad idea, but I was so happy I wanted to tell at least a couple people.

Don't you have friends back home to tell them instead?
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clearaflagrantj posted...

TC why the fuck are you telling coworkers that you're a virgin

He has no social awareness. Thatso why he was a virgin. He couldn't even cum when he had sex.
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Chicken posted...

lol you were recently a virgin

Lol you're still one
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I'm kinda shocked TC got any with how he's coming off in this topic.
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I'm surprised no one asked for pics of the girl yet.
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clearaflagrantj posted...

TC why the fuck are you telling coworkers that you're a virgin

Because they asked about my sex life and I didn't see the point in lying.
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AceAttorneyist posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

TC why the fuck are you telling coworkers that you're a virgin

Because they asked about my sex life and I didn't see the point in lying.

No because you have no spine and couldn't say "fuck you it's none of your business," and now you literally put your job and your coworker's job at risk because you are so desperate for attention and validation that you literally bragged about it to everyone. You have zero concept of social awareness and you will go absolutely no where in life until you fix it.

clearaflagrantj posted...

AceAttorneyist posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

TC why the fuck are you telling coworkers that you're a virgin

Because they asked about my sex life and I didn't see the point in lying.

No because you have no spine and couldn't say "fuck you it's none of your business," and now you literally put your job and your coworker's job at risk because you are so desperate for attention and validation that you literally bragged about it to everyone. You have zero concept of social awareness and you will go absolutely no where in life until you fix it.

Why the hell would that put their jobs at risk? Unless there's a company policy against dating/fucking, I can't really see why.
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Wolf_J_Flywheel posted...

Telling mutual co workers is the worst thing you could have done. And this is coming from a guy who sent a D pic to the receptionist.

@Wolf_J_Flywheel
Storytime
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ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.
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JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't because I was 20 and I felt pathetic it took that long.

Pics of you and the girl
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JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

You don't tell work. And even say who it was with. That's just careless.
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clearaflagrantj posted...

JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't because I was 20 and I felt pathetic it took that long.

Hmm, yeah, I didn't consider the age thing, I suppose. I was 15, as were most of my friends, when it happened.
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JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't. It's called "don't kiss and tell."

So probably no way I can make up for this, right? Even if she still likes me?
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You can just apologize and be honest

With her, not your co-workers. Don't too bragging anymore

well at least you have awareness of how bad all your decisions were

dude, you NEVER tell people about the girl you're banging. that's the fastest way to unbang her.
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Um, you fucked up. You could have kept bagning this co-worker, but now no one is going to sleep with you in that circle.

Was it worth it?
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Tony_Biggie_Pun posted...

You can just apologize and be honest

Honesty is what got me into this situation lol

In all seriousness though, if there's one thing I've been with her it's honest. I even told her which people I told. I only told three people, but those people obviously told others. I've apologized for it more than once.
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_Rinku_ posted...

JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't. It's called "don't kiss and tell."

this. I didn't even tell my closest friends (which annoyed them for some reason ) I'm reserved so I keep my dating and sex life private till it's out there . kind of like Jeter.

as for your co workers. those are literally the WORST peoole you could have told . they will twist and poke fun at you guys whenever they can (which is why I have my rule about dating co workers or fucking) and even with that rule they still managed to claim I'm dating and fucking this newer co worker who I got really close with and they ran away with the stories between us
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XT3M3 posted...

_Rinku_ posted...

JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't. It's called "don't kiss and tell."

this. I didn't even tell my closest friends (which annoyed them for some reason ) I'm reserved so I keep my dating and sex life private till it's out there . kind of like Jeter.

as for your co workers. those are literally the WORST peoole you could have told . they will twist and poke fun at you guys whenever they can (which is why I have my rule about dating co workers or fucking) and even with that rule they still managed to claim I'm dating and fucking this newer co worker who I got really close with and they ran away with the stories between us

See, my thing is that they would have figured it out on their own eventually anyway. Obviously I wouldn't have had to confirm it, but I'm sure they still would have talked about it and poked fun. Thought it might have been better to own it.
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AceAttorneyist posted...

XT3M3 posted...

_Rinku_ posted...

JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't. It's called "don't kiss and tell."

this. I didn't even tell my closest friends (which annoyed them for some reason ) I'm reserved so I keep my dating and sex life private till it's out there . kind of like Jeter.

as for your co workers. those are literally the WORST peoole you could have told . they will twist and poke fun at you guys whenever they can (which is why I have my rule about dating co workers or fucking) and even with that rule they still managed to claim I'm dating and fucking this newer co worker who I got really close with and they ran away with the stories between us

See, my thing is that they would have figured it out on their own eventually anyway. Obviously I wouldn't have had to confirm it, but I'm sure they still would have talked about it and poked fun. Thought it might have been better to own it.

Orrrrr they would have had the common sense to not publicly speculate about coworkers banging. Something you obviously lack.
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_Rinku_ posted...

JlM posted...

ITT : Everyone pretends they didn't tell the world when they had sex for the first time.

I didn't. It's called "don't kiss and tell."

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@AceAttorneyist. In the same boat, except never bragged about it. People just put two and two together cause they saw us at restaurants and walking around town and just spending a ton of time together outside of work. I think you can salvage it, if she cares about you and if you care about her a lot.
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AceAttorneyist posted...

So probably no way I can make up for this, right? Even if she still likes me?

You can, talk to more of your co-workers about this, find out what they think about it. There's nothing wrong with seeking out more help in these situations.
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