Current Events > Would you consider it a "dealbreaker" if a girl already has a kid....

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....or would you still be interested but not exactly enthused?
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I would not date, but I probably wouldn't mind some sex.

NathanX95 posted...

I would not date, but I probably wouldn't mind some sex.

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Not having kids, so yes.
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yeah but that ain't one of the poll options, i purposely left it out, i know how you guys think
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Leanaunfurled posted...

Not having kids, so yes.

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Not a fucking chance

Depends on how old the kid is.
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Kineth posted...

Depends on how old the kid is.

what do you mean? is it worse or better if the kid is older?
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Worse if the kid is older.
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Only a real man can date a woman with a kid. I've gotten to the point in my life where I will not even date a woman who has not had a child with another man.

There is nothing more masculine and powerful than fatherhood, and what is even more masculine and powerful is taking the role of being a father from ANOTHER man (in this case, the child or children's biological father).

Just imagine going to another man and saying "hey buddy, I know how you created these kids and became a father and all that, but I'm going to take it from here." Humiliating to that man, for sure, but empowering to you.

My girlfriend has three kids with two different men, and every time I see these kids tell me about what they did at their dads houses this weekend, I just have to laugh to myself because I'm thinking what a cuck these biological dads really are. They have NO CLUE that there really is another man out there paying for their kids' meals at Applebees and buying them bikes.
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this_is_wow_huh posted...

NathanX95 posted...

I would not date, but I probably wouldn't mind some sex.

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Well I'm 29 so I'd be foolish not to consider it
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green butter posted...

Only a real man can date a woman with a kid. I've gotten to the point in my life where I will not even date a woman who has not had a child with another man.

There is nothing more masculine and powerful than fatherhood, and what is even more masculine and powerful is taking the role of being a father from ANOTHER man (in this case, the child or children's biological father).

Just imagine going to another man and saying "hey buddy, I know how you created these kids and became a father and all that, but I'm going to take it from here." Humiliating to that man, for sure, but empowering to you.

My girlfriend has three kids with two different men, and every time I see these kids tell me about what they did at their dads houses this weekend, I just have to laugh to myself because I'm thinking what a cuck these biological dads really are. They have NO CLUE that there really is another man out there paying for their kids' meals at Applebees and buying them bikes.

i kinda commend you for your opinion, you're definitely in the minority on this board, in not giving 2 shits about this. Another thing, you're the one that hated mgsv aren't you? I really liked this game. Did you even finish the game? How far did you get? Think it might be the best game i've ever played.
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im not 13 posted...

Well I'm 29 so I'd be foolish not to consider it

....no you wouldn't. There are plenty of women in your age range without kids. I'm 29 as well and have no problem finding women +/- 3 or 4 years my age without kids.
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Asherlee10 posted...

green butter posted...

Only a real man can date a woman with a kid. I've gotten to the point in my life where I will not even date a woman who has not had a child with another man.

This is just silly and baseless. People either like kids or they don't. It is an aspect of people's lives that fully encompass it when they have kids. If that is not something that is appealing to you, then it doesn't make anyone less of a "man."

green butter posted...

They have NO CLUE that there really is another man out there paying for their kids' meals at Applebees and buying them bikes.

What makes you think they even care? And it is alarming that you are empowered by trying to force out a biological father by your actions. You could, oh...I don't know, be mature about it and just treat the kids well and try to aid in those kids having a solid relationship with their biological fathers if it is possible and appropriate.

Just an FYI this is a copypasta that he has posted on this board several other times. It's an obvious gimmick.
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Depends, are they a good kid or a complete hellspawn?
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I love that copy pasta lol
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CircleOfManias posted...

Depends, are they a good kid or a complete hellspawn?

for the purposes of this topic, consider this kid a good kid
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If I don't have a child of my own, it's an absolute dealbreaker. If we both already have children from other partners, I'd be fine with it.

CedarPointcp posted...

Another thing, you're the one that hated mgsv aren't you? I really liked this game. Did you even finish the game? How far did you get? Think it might be the best game i've ever played.

honestly i stopped playing after like mission 43 or 44 iirc, right before quiet leaves. i think i didnt have it in me to keep playing because you have to grind mother base or side quests or something to unlock levels, so i just watched the rest of the game on youtube. MGSV is trash

Twin3Turbo posted...

Just an FYI this is a copypasta that he has posted on this board several other times. It's an obvious gimmick.

I have never once used copypasta on this board.
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Just realized I didn't answer the topic.

I don't even know if I want kids, I certainly don't want one any time soon. Even long term thinking i'm leaning heavily towards no. So yes it's a deal breaker currently. I don't care how great of a woman she supposedly is, there are plenty out there that don't have kids.

I've dated several women with kids, not once have I ever met their kids and I keep it 100% casual.

Only way I would consider dating a woman with kids is if I had a kid of my own or if I got to be so old that I just couldn't find anyone without kids to date me.
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fenderbender321 posted...

Yes. Pregnancy ruins the body.

eh, not always those chicks can get their body back
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green butter posted...

Only a real man can date a woman with a kid. I've gotten to the point in my life where I will not even date a woman who has not had a child with another man.

There is nothing more masculine and powerful than fatherhood, and what is even more masculine and powerful is taking the role of being a father from ANOTHER man (in this case, the child or children's biological father).

Just imagine going to another man and saying "hey buddy, I know how you created these kids and became a father and all that, but I'm going to take it from here." Humiliating to that man, for sure, but empowering to you.

My girlfriend has three kids with two different men, and every time I see these kids tell me about what they did at their dads houses this weekend, I just have to laugh to myself because I'm thinking what a cuck these biological dads really are. They have NO CLUE that there really is another man out there paying for their kids' meals at Applebees and buying them bikes.

This is some copypasta you have already posted here.
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I was always the type of shut a woman out if she had kids. I didn't give a fuck how hot she was. If I saw she has kids, that shut that shit down instantly.

Though a year ago I met a woman who is basically my female counterpart and everything was lined up amazingly. We're STILL finding similarities. I decided to give the dad thing a shot and it's great. Best choice ever by fuckin' light years.

Kids are alright.
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Laserion posted...

green butter posted...

Only a real man can date a woman with a kid. I've gotten to the point in my life where I will not even date a woman who has not had a child with another man.

There is nothing more masculine and powerful than fatherhood, and what is even more masculine and powerful is taking the role of being a father from ANOTHER man (in this case, the child or children's biological father).

Just imagine going to another man and saying "hey buddy, I know how you created these kids and became a father and all that, but I'm going to take it from here." Humiliating to that man, for sure, but empowering to you.

My girlfriend has three kids with two different men, and every time I see these kids tell me about what they did at their dads houses this weekend, I just have to laugh to myself because I'm thinking what a cuck these biological dads really are. They have NO CLUE that there really is another man out there paying for their kids' meals at Applebees and buying them bikes.

This is some copypasta you have already posted here.

Why don't you go into your file cabinet, review your green butter reports, and come back to me when you have your information correct? thanks pal
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green butter is masturbating while reading this topic
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In the future, no. Any time in the next 10 years yeah
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At my age, it would be a negative but not a deal breaker. I don't want kids period yet but in a few years I'd like them and I'm not worried about the kids being biologically mine or not. Hell, id like to adopt when I'm older.
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I am not at a point in my life where I would want to take care of a kid. As such it would be irresponsible to get into a relationship with a woman who has a kid that I don't want to take care of.
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sex yes

date no

Dont want to take care of some other dudes kid sorry, I am young enough and attractive enough to where I can find a woman without a child to date
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People still getting baited by Green butter
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As someone who is currently in this situation [only it's the guy with the kids] I would have this advice, beware of the ex. Everyone has a psycho ex, if there are kids involved this psycho ex cannot just be cut off and ignored, they will be in the picture until the kids are at least 18. That is honestly the hardest part.
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Probably, but not an automatic dealbreaker. Really it would depend on how involved she wants me to be with the kid and how strongly I feel about her.
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