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Coolppl Owns
06/13/17 9:21:58 AM
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is this bad

obviously i have female acquaintances and coworkers

but i don't have any females who i consider good friends
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Darkman124
06/13/17 9:24:49 AM
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eh

not really

what is a good friend anyway? i have female activity partners and male activity partners and a few close friends

but i dont want to know the gossip in peoples lives and i sure as hell dont want them to know mine
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green butter
06/13/17 9:28:06 AM
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i do not have any female friends either, it's weird. that's what happens when you get into a relationship in your 20s
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MegaTech
06/13/17 9:31:14 AM
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I have some female friends I hang out with regularly but they are total Bros in my mind. You're not missing out on anything honestly. You have the ones that count most
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Darkman124
06/13/17 9:55:48 AM
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green butter posted...
i do not have any female friends either, it's weird. that's what happens when you get into a relationship in your 20s


yeah i feel like you have 'friends of your wife who are nice to you' and 'women who enjoy doing activities you also enjoy' which is often what qualifies for female friends to women too

but post-college i talk about my feelings to precisely 0 people and listen to talk about feelings from approximately 3 people

idk. i am a very emotionally closed off person. when i experience anger i know how to channel it. when i experience sadness i go do something i enjoy until i am no longer sad. i think this is true of a lot of men. my wife is constantly talking to people on fb messenger and i'm just like "why"
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green butter
06/13/17 9:58:02 AM
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Darkman124 posted...
green butter posted...
i do not have any female friends either, it's weird. that's what happens when you get into a relationship in your 20s


yeah i feel like you have 'friends of your wife who are nice to you' and 'women who enjoy doing activities you also enjoy' which is often what qualifies for female friends to women too

but post-college i talk about my feelings to precisely 0 people and listen to talk about feelings from approximately 3 people

post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)
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Darkman124
06/13/17 10:04:56 AM
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green butter posted...
post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)


i enjoy 'couples friends' and we have tried to make more of those

but it can be hard when one of the two is down to earth and the other sucks
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drunkmuggle
06/13/17 10:06:50 AM
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green butter posted...
Darkman124 posted...
green butter posted...
i do not have any female friends either, it's weird. that's what happens when you get into a relationship in your 20s


yeah i feel like you have 'friends of your wife who are nice to you' and 'women who enjoy doing activities you also enjoy' which is often what qualifies for female friends to women too

but post-college i talk about my feelings to precisely 0 people and listen to talk about feelings from approximately 3 people

post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)

I think the only friends I've made post college are from here on gamefaqs and our barber
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Darkman124
06/13/17 10:24:18 AM
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i think i have had a net loss of friends since college
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MegaTech
06/13/17 10:25:59 AM
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I've only been getting more. I became way more outgoing after college strangely enough.
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BlazinBlue88
06/13/17 10:27:16 AM
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Darkman124 posted...
green butter posted...
post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)


i enjoy 'couples friends' and we have tried to make more of those

but it can be hard when one of the two is down to earth and the other sucks

Agreed. Both you and your partner have to like the couple which can be hard. We have one "couple friends" and they are related to us.
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drunkmuggle
06/13/17 10:29:15 AM
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leverageblargh posted...
There are few things more intimate than a human being cutting your hair

Your relationship with your barber surpassed friendship the second he used scissors on you

lol, it mostly helps that we like the same music so we will go to shows occasionally so I can consider him a friend outside of me paying money to get my hair cut

but the largest concentration of people I've met after college have come from gamefaqs which I am grateful for, also kinda eye opening

why's it feel hard to meet people and make friends?
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teepan95
06/13/17 10:52:15 AM
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The only women in my life I talk to regularly are family
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green butter
06/13/17 10:55:43 AM
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Darkman124 posted...
green butter posted...
post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)


i enjoy 'couples friends' and we have tried to make more of those

but it can be hard when one of the two is down to earth and the other sucks

fuck couples friends

usually the way it works is that your girl finds another girl that she gets along with or has some kind of a shared interest/lifestyle/etc, and then you're paired up with the other girl's boyfriend/husband/whatever, and you spend the night making cordial small talk because the only thing that you both have in common is that you are tied to the two women that are chatting in the other room
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clearaflagrantj
06/13/17 10:56:00 AM
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Leaving college and moving halfway across the country has destroyed my social health. I went from being surrounded by best friends and hanging out multiple times a week to having a girlfriend I met on a dating app (that I love), and two barely-friends I have awkward interactions with.

When we meet I never know if we're fucking fist bumping or shaking hands or anything. Meanwhile when I met my NY friends two months ago we all hugged each other and had a blast.

Life after college fucking sucks. You grind away 50 hours every week at work and then you're too fucking exhausted to do anything else.
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clearaflagrantj
06/13/17 10:56:38 AM
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green butter posted...
Darkman124 posted...
green butter posted...
post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)


i enjoy 'couples friends' and we have tried to make more of those

but it can be hard when one of the two is down to earth and the other sucks

fuck couples friends

usually the way it works is that your girl finds another girl that she gets along with or has some kind of a shared interest/lifestyle/etc, and then you're paired up with the other girl's boyfriend/husband/whatever, and you spend the night making cordial small talk because the only thing that you both have in common is that you are tied to the two women that are chatting in the other room

And they're always pussy whipped boring fucks.
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green butter
06/13/17 10:59:46 AM
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clearaflagrantj posted...
green butter posted...
Darkman124 posted...
green butter posted...
post college, the quality of the friendships you make are garbage anyway, it's either people you work with that you're cordial with, or they're "couples friends" (ugh)


i enjoy 'couples friends' and we have tried to make more of those

but it can be hard when one of the two is down to earth and the other sucks

fuck couples friends

usually the way it works is that your girl finds another girl that she gets along with or has some kind of a shared interest/lifestyle/etc, and then you're paired up with the other girl's boyfriend/husband/whatever, and you spend the night making cordial small talk because the only thing that you both have in common is that you are tied to the two women that are chatting in the other room

And they're always pussy whipped boring fucks.

normally what i end up with is that the guy is usually something like an ex-marine or a construction worker or some kind of career where i am basically in a different world than this dude, and outside of that we have absolutely no mutual interests or compatibility. so it's basically small talk about our commutes to work or something because i unfortunately dont know dick about sports and that is all that 90% of guys seem to know about outside of work. often the guy is like 10 years older than me as well

these are the highest quality friendships i've made since college. my social skills at this point have degraded pretty badly; i am now at a level where i can easily communicate and "socialize" with people but it's all entirely superflous bullshit and is entirely devoid of any sort of honesty. i pretty much play a character 24/7 now
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clearaflagrantj
06/13/17 11:03:07 AM
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green butter posted...
these are the highest quality friendships i've made since college. my social skills at this point have degraded pretty badly; i am now at a level where i can easily communicate and "socialize" with people but it's all entirely superflous bullshit and is entirely devoid of any sort of honesty. i pretty much play a character 24/7 now

Which is why we're all on CE because this is the only place we communicate honestly to ourselves.
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Darkman124
06/13/17 11:04:33 AM
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it goes the other way too

we visit my old college roommate once a year and my wife and his wife have very little in common

what happens now is we go, do some stuff as a group of four, and some of the time he and i go shooting/ATVing/etc while my wife goes to a lindy hop class and his wife reads a book

so long as the group is together in one place i usually am ok with everything
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drunkmuggle
06/13/17 11:06:08 AM
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clearaflagrantj posted...
green butter posted...
these are the highest quality friendships i've made since college. my social skills at this point have degraded pretty badly; i am now at a level where i can easily communicate and "socialize" with people but it's all entirely superflous bullshit and is entirely devoid of any sort of honesty. i pretty much play a character 24/7 now

Which is why we're all on CE because this is the only place we communicate honestly to ourselves.

maybe this is why I've devolved into being a fucking nerd who doesn't want to leave his house
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Coolppl Owns
06/13/17 11:12:26 AM
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clearaflagrantj posted...
Leaving college and moving halfway across the country has destroyed my social health. I went from being surrounded by best friends and hanging out multiple times a week to having a girlfriend I met on a dating app (that I love)


How long have you been with her now?
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clearaflagrantj
06/13/17 11:37:13 AM
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Coolppl Owns posted...
clearaflagrantj posted...
Leaving college and moving halfway across the country has destroyed my social health. I went from being surrounded by best friends and hanging out multiple times a week to having a girlfriend I met on a dating app (that I love)


How long have you been with her now?

10 months
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Coolppl Owns
06/13/17 11:51:32 AM
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clearaflagrantj posted...
Coolppl Owns posted...
clearaflagrantj posted...
Leaving college and moving halfway across the country has destroyed my social health. I went from being surrounded by best friends and hanging out multiple times a week to having a girlfriend I met on a dating app (that I love)


How long have you been with her now?

10 months


man, i've been with my gf for just about 6 months thinking about the l-word but i feel like i need to hold out longer

how did you know when you loved her? @clearaflagrantj
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clearaflagrantj
06/13/17 11:54:39 AM
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Coolppl Owns posted...
clearaflagrantj posted...
Coolppl Owns posted...
clearaflagrantj posted...
Leaving college and moving halfway across the country has destroyed my social health. I went from being surrounded by best friends and hanging out multiple times a week to having a girlfriend I met on a dating app (that I love)


How long have you been with her now?

10 months


man, i've been with my gf for just about 6 months thinking about the l-word but i feel like i need to hold out longer

how did you know when you loved her? @clearaflagrantj

I don't know after we banged for a few months? I said it only like four months in because I don't really care, it's not a big word to me.

I am horribly afraid of marriage and kids though, fuck that noise.
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Haldol
06/13/17 12:04:16 PM
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I personally don't talk to any unrelated women unless they are just that cool or I'm trying to fuck

So you're fine.
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Coolppl Owns
06/13/17 12:16:45 PM
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clearaflagrantj posted...
Coolppl Owns posted...
clearaflagrantj posted...
Coolppl Owns posted...
clearaflagrantj posted...
Leaving college and moving halfway across the country has destroyed my social health. I went from being surrounded by best friends and hanging out multiple times a week to having a girlfriend I met on a dating app (that I love)


How long have you been with her now?

10 months


man, i've been with my gf for just about 6 months thinking about the l-word but i feel like i need to hold out longer

how did you know when you loved her? @clearaflagrantj

I don't know after we banged for a few months? I said it only like four months in because I don't really care, it's not a big word to me.

I am horribly afraid of marriage and kids though, fuck that noise.


Does she know that?
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clearaflagrantj
06/13/17 12:18:14 PM
#32:


Kids yes, marriage no.
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GunmaN1905
06/13/17 12:19:47 PM
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Well, if you're in a relationship and unless you plan on cheating, there's no reason to talk to women outside of your family.
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