Current Events > Why do humans fool ourselves with the illusion of monogamy?

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The very notion that once you find that special person that you will never ever be attracted to anyone else ever again is laughable.

Or better yet, the act of merely having sex with someone else is damming. How dare you just fuck someone else. Your actual feelings for the third party seem to be irrelevant.

I agree with you TC, but prepare yourself, you will get tons of hate.
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hollywood
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I would rather live and grow old with my fiance then have sex with a different women every week.

That said, I would much prefer and OPEN relationship, but I know she isn't keen on that so I won't cheat.
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There's nothing wrong with choosing a long-term monogamous relationship. Just like there's nothing wrong with not choosing that either.
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Haldol posted...

The very notion that once you find that special person that you will never ever be attracted to anyone else ever again is laughable.

That's not the definition of monogamy, and many people are like that.

But this is a shitpost topic anyway so dunno why I bother.
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Dragonblade01 posted...

There's nothing wrong with choosing a long-term monogamous relationship. Just like there's nothing wrong with not choosing that either.

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I think the bigger issue is it's forced upon us all instead of being optional
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gunplagirl posted...

I think the bigger issue is it's forced upon us all instead of being optional

It's forced and you are shamed If you dare do anything different

durrrr humans are hardwired to not be monogomous, it's unnatural and against our nature

*wears clothes, does not shit in public & does not consume all food in sight until no longer capable of eating*
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Because we are created in the image of God

We are monogamous even though that may seem to be "against our nature" because we are blessed
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This isn't an everyone or no one thing. Some people find the one and are happy, some don't.
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Dustin1280 posted...

I would rather live and grow old with my fiance then have sex with a different women every week.

That said, I would much prefer and OPEN relationship, but I know she isn't keen on that so I won't cheat.

This

I would love to grow old with someone But I also have the option to fuck a different woman every once in a while

Asherlee10 posted...

We live in a value-based society. There is a lot of valuable benefits that come with monogamy. That doesn't mean that once you are in a relationship you are never allowed to be attracted to anyone else again.

You make the choice to not act on it because you value the relationship.

This

......when you are really connected with someone monogamy is easy.

Sounds like you haven't connected with anyone at the deepest level yet.
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Because monogamy helps civilization thrive. Many of the current problems in the West are caused by the destruction of the family.

Seaman_Prime posted...

Asherlee10 posted...

We live in a value-based society. There is a lot of valuable benefits that come with monogamy. That doesn't mean that once you are in a relationship you are never allowed to be attracted to anyone else again.

You make the choice to not act on it because you value the relationship.

This

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Dustin1280 posted...

I would rather live and grow old with my fiance then have sex with a different women every week.

You expect to be with a different woman every week when you are an old man? Good luck with that.
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Ivynn posted...

Seaman_Prime posted...

Asherlee10 posted...

We live in a value-based society. There is a lot of valuable benefits that come with monogamy. That doesn't mean that once you are in a relationship you are never allowed to be attracted to anyone else again.

You make the choice to not act on it because you value the relationship.

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people who say stuff like this have never been in love

Don't like marriage or life long partners, don't get married or settle down with a person. Simple

Nobody is forcing anyone to be monogamous, not in America anyway.
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voldothegr8 posted...

Don't like marriage or life long partners, don't get married or settle down with a person. Simple

Nobody is forcing anyone to be monogamous, not in America anyway.

Well why can't we be allowed to have multiple wives?
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SilvosForever posted...

......when you are really connected with someone monogamy is easy.

Sounds like you haven't connected with anyone at the deepest level yet.

Not true. I love my gf to death and would love to spend my life with her

But it's sweeping fairy tale statements like these that I'm talking about.

I do agree that more life choices regarding this stuff should become accepted by the public. But as an aside, marriage as a fairy tale is a fairly modern concept. Marriage's original purpose was essentially for deal-making and combining two families for some (preferably) beneficial reason. Hell, that may be where prescribed monogamy comes from as well. One marital arrangement was likely all any family could bear. Unless you were wealthy, which is possibly why polygamy existed more prominently among the elite classes.
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because polygamy is degeneracy
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it's a pretty shit setup we got and humans seem right confused on the subject of sexuality in a lot of ways

Some people can do it, some people can't. Which pretty much applies to everything.
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I think a lot of guys are against monogamy because they live in a fantasy where they'll be fucking a new, hot woman every week and still come back to their faithful, full-time partner who will cook and clean for them and rarely engage in any other scandalous activity.

The reality is, your female partner will have many more thirsty guys coming at her and you'll have a hard ass time finding any woman to take you and grow bitter.

No one says you have to be monogamous. Fortunately, for men, there's much less social stigma about sleeping around with many women than there is for women sleeping with many men. If you don't want to be monogamous, then don't promise to be exclusive to someone and maintain your bachelor lifestyle.

Asherlee10 posted...

We live in a value-based society. There is a lot of valuable benefits that come with monogamy. That doesn't mean that once you are in a relationship you are never allowed to be attracted to anyone else again.

You make the choice to not act on it because you value the relationship.

I value all my partners and lovers. And I don't expect to have a single one of them support all my emotional, mental and physical needs. That's why I can have so many, because I value their unique personalities and traits. Likewise, they all can be with me because I offer something that their other partners might not be able to. And it works.
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Some people are wired for monogamy. Some for polyamory. Lotta folks make out like their way is the objective best because it feels right to them (monogamous people are more insufferable in this regard because they have pop culture and inertia on their side, and so have a lot more ammo masquerading as "proof").

Me, I'm somewhere in between. Got a serious girlfriend I'll probably marry someday, but she's alright with me hitting the town with a lady friend of mine every now and then. Because sex and love are awesome things, and arbitrarily limiting them hasn't ever made sense to me.
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marthsheretoo posted...

Some people are wired for monogamy. Some for polyamory. Lotta folks make out like their way is the objective best because it feels right to them (monogamous people are more insufferable in this regard because they have pop culture and inertia on their side, and so have a lot more ammo masquerading as "proof").

Me, I'm somewhere in between. Got a serious girlfriend I'll probably marry someday, but she's alright with me hitting the town with a lady friend of mine every now and then. Because sex and love are awesome things, and arbitrarily limiting them hasn't ever made sense to me.

Sounds like fun man. And frankly nothing wrong with that. But the monogamous will claim you don't love your girlfriend

Asherlee10 posted...

We live in a value-based society. There is a lot of valuable benefits that come with monogamy. That doesn't mean that once you are in a relationship you are never allowed to be attracted to anyone else again.

You make the choice to not act on it because you value the relationship.

True.
By how have we gotten to the point where acting on it will jeopardize the relationship?

To me. It's like your best friend getting mad that you make new friends.