Poll of the Day > So, I have a dilemma , possible room mates, but.....complications.

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wolfy42
07/13/17 3:56:46 AM
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I have these friends, one is my DM, and the other is his wife. They are great. They like the same books as me, same kinda movies, good friends, old enough to be responsible, have a great dog who thinks he's a cat and the husband even freaking works at gamestop.

I mean like perfect roomates.

I wasn't even thinking about having someone else move in here after the last time just didn't work out at all, but.....we all have the same interests and I think we would have a blast living together.

Thing is, the wife manages the apartments where they currently live. I have not asked specifics, but usually you get drastically reduced rent or free rent in exchange (i've had friends who did that in the past).

I mean, I could have them live here for just the increase in utilities etc, but if it didn't work out, they would lose the current setup they have, with her getting free or greatly reduced rent.

I could leave that up to them and still offer, but I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable if they say no etc.

So not sure what I should do. I'm thinking for now I'll just hold off. I'm still cleaning up the home and organizing it after my previous roomate left, and i'm not in a rush to have someone else move in here. Still, would be great to have people live here with the same hobies, interests, books, games etc that I have.

Wish the wife didn't have a job as an apartment manager as it would be an easy decision then.
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helly
07/13/17 4:01:02 AM
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or just don't bring it up at all because they're going to tell you no.
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wolfy42
07/13/17 4:04:52 AM
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helly posted...
or just don't bring it up at all because they're going to tell you no.


I'll probably just bring up casually that I'm looking for a new roomate eventually and see what they say.
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helly
07/13/17 4:06:01 AM
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"good luck"

is what they're going to say
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wolfy42
07/13/17 4:07:51 AM
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Helly, will you be my new roomate?!:)
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adjl
07/13/17 9:43:35 AM
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They're probably not going to be looking to live with anyone else, unless they've explicitly told you as much.
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Dynalo
07/13/17 10:16:49 AM
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Yeah, they're not gonna give up a place where they get free rent. Especially when the alternative involves living with more people.

People typically don't enjoy living with people that aren't their significant others.

So in other words:

helly posted...
"good luck"

is what they're going to say

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SunWuKung420
07/13/17 10:54:41 AM
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Why would a married couple want to be roommates with anyone?

Why would a single person want to be roommates with a married couple?
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Jen0125
07/13/17 11:01:52 AM
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Lmao why would you even think they'd want to move in with you just because you get along? So weird.
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Nicodaemos
07/13/17 11:06:28 AM
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Not really much of a dilemma, since it's a 0 percent chance they move in with you.
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wolfy42
07/13/17 1:05:02 PM
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Well, they have been over to my house many times and really love it, especially the view.

It's a large house with two floors that make it like two apartments . Downstairs has it's own bathroom, living room, bedroom, kitchen and the only reason I would ever need to go down there is the laundry room is at the bottom of the stairs (We would need to share that).

My downstairs is about 3x as large as their current appartment. In addition, I shared the upstairs living room and dinning room with my last roomate (and we probably would as well as an entertainment area for watching shows together, playing video games etc). The downstairs living room has a wood burning fireplace (The upstairs has a gas fireplace). It's a small kitchen downstairs, but the upstairs one is a really nice kitchen with a skylight (nice big open skylight where you can hear the rain hit the glass).

I also have 2 unused bedrooms upstairs (Well one is an office but could be used as a bedroom), another unused bathroom all at the top of the stairs that go down, which they could use as well (That is besides having a huge basement area for storage).

I also have a very expensive air conditioning unit I put in last year ($10k), which costs pretty much nothing to run (hence the expense) but keeps it a nice 69 degrees all the time (they have a little portable air conditioner but yeah, not nearly the same).

So yeah, they "probably" get free rent, or at least reduced, but it's a tiny apartment, which fits in one of my living rooms (the whole apartment). It would be a massive upgrade for them. That is not even counting the view of pugent sound with the lights on it at night etc (Everyone mentions the view when they come here).

Man worry I have is this is all expensive, and I would like whoever moves in to at least be able to help a bit with the expenses. I spend over $2k a month between mortgate/taxes/HOA and utilities.

I wouldn't need them to pay half, but I'd like them to be able to at least pay like the utilities + HoA (so like $700 a month) or something. I could rent the downstairs alone for $1500, but I didn't even charge that much for the friend that is just moving out (I charged her $1000).

So yeah, it's certainly not something I think anyone would just turn down. They would still have privacy, their bedroom would be almost as big as their current bedroom + living room, and their living room would be bigger then their whole current apartment. Their kitchen would be...about the same size. They would have a nice big balcony with a great view, air conditioning, their own washer and dryer (don't have one right now, although they would need to share with me). Larger/better bathroom, and that is just saying what they would have downstairs.

I just freaking live in my room pretty much, I have 2 TV's in here (one I use for a monitor for my laptop sometimes, or for my ps4 etc, the other is for watching actual TV), my bed which is electric, so it turns into a seat if I want etc. I have my own bathroom in here, and a walk in closet. I literally only go out into the rest of the house if I'm socializing, or cooking in the kitchen.

So yeah, I'm pretty sure I could make an offer they would accept, but the question is, do I really want to have someone else live here (Even if I really like them), and if so, do I want to charge so much less then I could? I'm not rich, and not working right now, so even $1000 less a month is a big deal right now.
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adjl
07/13/17 5:09:08 PM
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wolfy42 posted...
Well, they have been over to my house many times and really love it, especially the view.


The thing is, there's a world of difference between "I like visiting this house" and "I'd like to rent part of this house." If they were actively looking for a nicer place to rent, then maybe you'd have something, but even then, as a married couple, they probably don't want to live with anyone but each other (presuming that's how they're living now).
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RoboT_Ripper
07/13/17 5:27:47 PM
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Important question: are you in love with either of them?
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green dragon
07/13/17 5:31:13 PM
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wolfy42 posted...
I have these friends, one is my DM

dungeon master?

and what happened with that girl that moved in with you?
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Action53
07/13/17 5:37:10 PM
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RoboT_Ripper posted...
Important question: are you in love with either of them?

Or both
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TheCyborgNinja
07/13/17 5:49:23 PM
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1. Why would anybody ever want roommates?
2. Living with somebody changes how awesome you think they are. At best, there's still some adjusting.
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wolfy42
07/13/17 7:42:26 PM
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Lol, no, I'm no tin love with either of them, and still just getting to know them really. I just think they would be awesome roomates.

The girl that moved in just moved out last weekend (Still has stuff downstairs that she needs to move to her new place).

She didn't work out. She was just too messy, needed to borrow money constantly etc. We are still friends and she still comes over to chat etc, just won't be living here anymore.

Kinda on the fence about having anyone else live here, and won't, unless it's someone I like/think we would have fun living near each other etc.

It's more like choosing your downstairs neighbor, then actually a roomate, as it's like a whole different apartment downstairs. I literally didn't see my last roomate all week a few times as she stayed out late to drink often.

There is no reason why we would ever have to interact, if we didn't want to, but, if we did, there is a large living room upstairs with a huge entertainment center where we could get together whenever we wanted to play video games etc. The dining room where we play DnD every other sunday is upstairs as well (and like last night we are currently just playing a side quest with just the 3 of us once a week as well).

So we are already getting together at least 1 1/2 times a week (3 times every 2 weeks), and when we do, it's usually for 6+ hours.

Yeah, living with someone certainly changes things, but again, this is more like choosing who you live above, not who you live in the same apartment with. We would never share a bathroom, wouldn't even need to share the kitchen (or fridge), we would have to share the laundry room, but people in apartments do that all the time.

Meanwhile they have a freakton of video games as well (and even have the switch which I don't have yet and was thinking of getting eventually), they love/have the same kind of books as me (so we like have endless hours of dicsussions about various series/characters etc), like the same tv shows/movies as me (so we could probably watch quite a few together if we wanted in the upstairs living room and we are looking forward to playing an MMO together eventually.

So yeah, they would make a pretty perfect couple to have live downstairs (or upstairs if I decided to move downstairs (it's cooler down there, and you can hear the rain better from the bedroom, but the kitchen is better upstairs and I like to cook).

Still not 100% sure though that I even want to have anyone move in (even if they are a perfect fit), and more importantly even if they did want to, it's a risk to give up something like what they have (free or reduced rent) to move somewhere else. It would probably be more expensive for them here even just paying for utilities etc, if they are not paying rent, since it's so much larger (and many apartments have deals on utilities/cable etc).

The wife's only job is managing the apartment, and the husband is a manager at gamestop, but seriously, that can't pay that much, so I don't think they are rolling in money.
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