Current Events > So why wouldn't some people want a serious committed relationship?

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Real talk.... my girlfriend thinks dudes who dont want to settle down and have a long term gf/wife, move in together, and have kids ware losers and that they should grow up

Let's list reasons why some girls/guys dont want a committed relationship
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1. Because these hoes aint loyal
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Because they're their own, unique individuals and what they want out of life doesn't have to match up with what society tells them they should want.
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Increase in responsibilities where the added overhead is mostly measurable but the payoff isn't.
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Because it's too soon. And sometimes, because it's too late.
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I don't think people should seek out and force relationships as most currently do.

I watched my boy rush into a relationship that was mostly just sex. They had no chemistry at all. Its hard hanging out with people that don't have chemistry. Only you realize how awkward everyone should feel from their constant comments that always end it dead silence and stink faces.

Of course it ended with her being still attached and him getting too annoyed that she actually wants to do stuff
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I stand to gain absolutely nothing from marriage and children, thus my complete and total lack of interest in obtaining either.

It has nothing to do with maturity or lack thereof, rather I just weighed the personal pros (non-existent) and cons (list a mile long) and came to a final decision on the matter. It is to such an extent, that I'm actually *grateful* that I'll never have to deal with a woman being attracted to me, because it completely voids any possibility for love or sex.
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selfish and wish to spend their time only how they want, rather than have a dedicated companion whose company is welcome but also needs some of your time for you to be THEIR companion on some bullshit weekend with her family.

inability to compromise with others about shared living space, shared finances, or similar

emotionally immature/can't discuss feelings and stuff -- expects their partner to change wholly while changing nothing about themselves

Find an inherit value in sporadic strange instead of sex on the regular with a partner who will learn just how you like it

(OR, their current partner could be any of the above. So it may not be that the guy doesn't want to settle down, he just doesn't want to settle down with whomever they're currently seeing)

there's plenty of reasons out there! Although kids specifically is a different can of worms.
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fear of loss, broken hearts or some people are just cold
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bump
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The last girlfriend I had, had a problem with me playing video games 8 hours a day. Dumped the bitch on the spot.
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A lot of people don't understand that it's deeply ingrained in our DNA to be like this. Guys have an ingrained desire to be free, like wild beasts. Girls want to settle down and have stability.

When a guy meets a girl he likes so much that he is ready to abandon his wild nature and his freedom, then he settles down.
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They probably don't want a regular life style.

Leanaunfurled posted...

Because they're their own, unique individuals and what they want out of life doesn't have to match up with what society tells them they should want.

You're making too much sense for this topic. Stop with that there logic stuff.

I know for myself, I don't know why I should pursue a relationship when I've never found anyone who inspires that desire in me. It isn't a result of impossible standards or anything; I really don't think I'm capable of feeling that kind of attraction for someone else. I don't spend my time moping about over how lonely I am, because I don't feel that way.
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Not everyone wants the same thing, and who is it hurting if a man/woman decides marriage and children are not something they want now or ever ?

We are already seriously over populated so if people choose to opt out of the "wife/husband and kids" oh well.
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It's a sacrifice. I didn't want to make that sacrifice when I was much younger, but now I'm married because I'm ready for it.
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my ex hurt me. like permanently. pretty sure she fucked me up forever. i gave her my heart. she took a shit in it and gave it back. i'm okay now in comparison to a couple years ago, but it was like she took a crap in my soul.
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your gf sounds like a wonderful nonjudgmental person who i just couldn't wait to spend time with
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You don't get the fun of spreading the love around.
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lol what's your gf's problem?

people should settle down when they are ready and when they find the right person.

prob reason why divorce rates are so high cos people force themselves into it cos they got the idea that it's something they got to do by the time they hit X age.

like those chicks who commit suicide over not being married/engaged by 30 like the rest of their friends

I used to think the idea of 'settling down' and getting into a committed relationship was ridiculous. That has changed over the years, now I think all the casual stuff is dumb and boring. Growing up is funny like that.
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All I'll say is: if you don't feel ready for it, then you're not. Never go into it thinking that it'll magically change you, because it won't. I think too many people imagine a wedding ceremony is some kind of magic ritual that transforms you into a different sort of person. It isn't. If you weren't quite sure when you went into it, you won't somehow become more sure as time goes on. Trust me, I know whereof I speak.
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When I was younger, I ran away from some pretty great girls because I didn't want to limit my hookup options. Now, I would love to find someone to share that bond with. Just being able to share the small, everyday things with someone sounds like a great life to me.
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GODTIER posted...

1. Because these hoes aint loyal

They can fuck right off. My money isn't being soent on someone else, and I have no interest in babysitting some women and taking care of her lazy ass.
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Alimony sucks
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Sounds like your girlfriend is getting a bit impatient.

why don't you just give her half your assets, your house and a monthly 2000$ check for HER soon to be mixed race son so she can stop guilt tripping you? saves all the drama of a divorce in the future.

Funkdamental posted...

And sometimes, because it's too late.

I don't know why, but this part sounds sad.
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I'd like a committed relationship with no kids. This is obviously incompatible with someone who wants a committed relationship with kids, so it doesn't work out.
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