Poll of the Day > I have issues making friends.

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This is something that I've carried with me for a long time - I simply struggle to make friends. I feel uneasy starting conversations with people I do not know, and if I end up making friends by people approaching me, I tend to not know how to deal with people being kind to me.

You guys all know about that Girlfriend I had 6-ish years ago and how we broke up, and how I got my previous account here banned due to how upset I Was about that. Well, we broke up because I struggle to deal with people being nice to me, and my head gets all weird when people give me things, and I tend to panic and do silly things like hide or throw away gifts from people. I think I've for the most part dealt with latter half of that, but I still struggle to talk to people, and continue to have no friends in real life.

So this is part two of putting some shit out there.
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Put this shit out to a therapist who can help you develop healthy coping skills
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Good morning RC.
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Sometimes it's good to put things in words so you can read them back to yourself. It sounds like you are trying to work it out so that's a good thing. I can only tell you how it works for me and maybe you could take some of that for yourself. I look at every person as someone with a story and I love stories. You can learn so much from a person if you just take the time to listen. So treat everyone as someone who can teach you something. Listen and be kind. I love giving little gifts to people when I can, not so much because I want to make them happy but because it makes me feel good. So go about this friend thing as you just being a kind person. Maybe try and love yourself a little bit too and quit being so hard on you. Baby steps.

Judgmenl posted...

Good morning RC.

Good morning, sir
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RCtheWSBC posted...

Put this shit out to a therapist who can help you develop healthy coping skills

I thought you were PotD's therapist RC?
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What the fuck have I been paying her for if she's not

Hey tc, wanna be friends?

I also have a hard time making friends. Don't have anything in common with anyone that seems interested. I went to a movie with this guy and we saw King Arthur. As we walked out of the theatre I was like "wow, can't believe I paid for this shit" and he was like "are you joking that was awesome". And that was the last time I saw him.
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AllstarSniper32 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Put this shit out to a therapist who can help you develop healthy coping skills

I thought you were PotD's therapist RC?

I'm not going to become a licensed practitioner and some of y'all need behavioral interventions >___>

Bligh_with_no_T posted...

What the fuck have I been paying her for if she's not

http://www.christmaslibrary.ca/cb/doctor.gif
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1. therapist
2. fake it til you make it
3. join clubs and sports.

RCtheWSBC posted...

http://www.christmaslibrary.ca/cb/doctor.gif

Life makes so much more sense when viewed through this lens.

wow I'm impressed, you actually are trying to change

Props to you TC
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just find people that are as awkward as you and hang out with them, ok?

that's what i used to do until i got over my weirdness around people when i was younger.
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I don't know any awkward people ok? =/
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You don't say?

Judgmenl posted...

I don't know any awkward people ok? =/

go to any comic or video game store. you'll find plenty there, ok?
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RCtheWSBC posted...

AllstarSniper32 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Put this shit out to a therapist who can help you develop healthy coping skills

I thought you were PotD's therapist RC?

I'm not going to become a licensed practitioner and some of y'all need behavioral interventions >___>

Just write, "official PotD therapist" on a cardboard plaque and hang it on your wall. That's all the credentials you'll need.
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I totally recommend meeting other awkward people. You're less likely to compare yourself to the other person and you'll be less nervous. At the very least you two will have your awkwardness in common.
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Blue_Thunder posted...

I totally recommend meeting other awkward people. You're less likely to compare yourself to the other person and you'll be less nervous. At the very least you two will have your awkwardness in common.

Honestly as an awkward person interacting with other awkward people is fucking awful. A social person encourages me to open up more. With an awkward person I need to carry the conversation on my spineless back.

Bligh_with_no_T posted...

Blue_Thunder posted...

I totally recommend meeting other awkward people. You're less likely to compare yourself to the other person and you'll be less nervous. At the very least you two will have your awkwardness in common.

Honestly as an awkward person interacting with other awkward people is fucking awful. A social person encourages me to open up more. With an awkward person I need to carry the conversation on my spineless back.

Meeting awkward people helps me practice being conversational. You know, baby steps.
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Hey it's cool, just ignore my friendship offer

I tend to just make acquaintances so meh.
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wwinterj25 posted...

I tend to just make acquaintances so meh.

That is what I have more of anyway. You don't need a lot of friends, one good one will do.

green dragon posted...

Hey it's cool, just ignore my friendship offer

I'll be your friend.