Current Events > Fastest way to get over her?

(+) Yeah! (+)

Besides another woman <_<
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Get under someone else
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Poop in her shoes
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Get under a new man
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Tfw I'm not sure if I made a grammar mistake or if CE is playing with me.
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NES4EVER posted...

Get under a new man

Get in between 2 mew.
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No way

You're done and life ruined

Focus on yourself and improving your life. Join a gym, purchase a mountain bike, go through your attic, start a movie blog.
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Drink her out of your head.
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NES4EVER posted...

Get under a new man

10/10 response
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SomeLikeItHoth posted...

Focus on yourself and improving your life. Join a gym, purchase a mountain bike, go through your attic, start a movie blog.

You have the mostonly serious post atm. Thank you for that.

Yeah, I already know that I should try to focus on something else, but its hard, you know? Like, I want improve on my keyboard, I want to read the mountains of books I have. I want to do a lot of things. I really do. But the constant thoughs about her distract me.
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TC, no matter what you do, you have to accept that it's going to take time

You can do all these things, but in the end it will still take a long time

And you cannot move on unless you accept that it's over.
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Bok_Choi posted...

TC, no matter what you do, you have to accept that it's going to take time

You can do all these things, but in the end it will still take a long time

And you cannot move on unless you accept that it's over.

Yeah, I know that. I just wanted a shortcut, because it kinda hurts. Thanks for your response.
I will try to get trough it. But the way sucks. Sucks.
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Don't worry man
I know it's hell, I've been through it.

Took me like half a year to stop getting sad about her, think about her each day
After about a year I realized I'd stopped thinking about her every day
After that I just stopped thinking about her for the most part
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I'd agree with Hoth, focusing on yourself and restoring your self-esteem and self-worth is the most important thing, and doubling down on your hobbies, or finding new ones, is an easy way to do that and stay busy/occupied so you don't sit around in self-loathing introversion.
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A year is too much imo. Sorry to hear about that.

I know I will get trough. I just don't want an eternity to do it. I know its too ideal to get it trough right now, its too soon. But, you know, I want something. I'ts not like I was the worst bf ever.
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Sinroth posted...

I'd agree with Hoth, focusing on yourself and restoring your self-esteem and self-worth is the most important thing, and doubling down on your hobbies, or finding new ones, is an easy way to do that and stay busy/occupied so you don't sit around in self-loathing introversion.

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Sinroth posted...

I'd agree with Hoth, focusing on yourself and restoring your self-esteem and self-worth is the most important thing, and doubling down on your hobbies, or finding new ones, is an easy way to do that and stay busy/occupied so you don't sit around in self-loathing introversion.

I can assure that, I will be busy to just not be myself and my toughts alone.
I think I will go back to my keyboard. Its the only thing that will do something to me in return(that I know at least).
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Run her over with a monster truck.
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Stop and realize how short life is. The longer you take, the more opportunities you may pass over because of your angst. It stings, it hurts, it sucks, but drive on and do what's right for you. This could happen a dozen more times before you find the one, I went through about 20 before I found my wife.

Live and learn, but don't dwell. Just keep driving forward and be strong.
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Thank you mabus. Yeah I think this should be something to learn more than to be deppressed at, but I can't control it right now.

In a few more days/weeks(/months?) I hope I will be able to look back and don't feel completely sad about it.
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Booze and buddies.
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Do something new.

At the moment all your memories of nice times are probably associated with her and you think "waaaahhhh i'll never feel that way again" well do something new and exciting and you'll realise you don't need her to make you happy.

knock her down.
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It makes it easier to forget and helps to talk about it just tell us everything about her and you. What happened? What were the plans? Etc...
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the truth: if you really loved someone you never forget, you just deal with whatever emotions until they subside, but you never forget.
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Milo_Yiannopous posted...

Do something new.

At the moment all your memories of nice times are probably associated with her and you think "waaaahhhh i'll never feel that way again" well do something new and exciting and you'll realise you don't need her to make you happy.

Yeah I was like that for like 3 days, and only getting out of my room/house would make me very sad and even cry for no reason, just looking at things completely unrelated to her made me cry(and I don't normally cry, ever). I would do new things, but I don't know what.

RedWhiteBlue posted...

You have limerence.

You'll be fighting it for months to a year.
The best way to fight it off is... To find someone else. The next best is to distract yourself with other activities that you get absorbed into from enjoyment. The whole self improvement stuff is just another way of saying you should wait and hope some woman goes to you when you enjoy your hobbies. Hope you have an outside hobby, I don't and it sucks.

I had to search the word to learn the concept. While I was reading it I wasn't really convinced that it was my case, but I think I'm just in denial. I don't think I'll find someone else soon, not because a low self-steem problem, it's just that I tend to be inside the house more than outside.

El Mexicano Texano posted...

It makes it easier to forget and helps to talk about it just tell us everything about her and you. What happened? What were the plans? Etc...

Oh well, to begin, we were together almost 5 years(that would have been in october), and that's time enough to plan everything. (possible) Future kid's name, where to live, etc.

She always had more friends than I do, and I never had problems with that. She even have more male than female friends, and again, I have no problems with that. But the other day, about two weeks ago, I asked her to meet like two days later, but she refused because she said that she had to go the doctor, and that she had to go to colege etc etc.

Then, a day later, she told me that she would like to meet some (female) friends that day, and I said ok. The next day she asked me that, she told me that she lied to me and actually she just want to party with mostly male friend, because the very moment she refused to meet me she was talking to this guy and planning this party, and said that she lied because I could get jealous. That was a red flag to me, I'm not an overly jealous guy, but I tought it was suspicious, so I began to interrogate my ex about that party, and this specific guy too. I couldn't trust her about anything she said in that moment, and I got mad and blocked her from any kind of contact(we live 2 hours away).

Then, three days later ignoring her, I said that I couldn't trust her, and that I didn't answered her because I blocked her. Then she get mad and says she wants to end this relationship, and that she don't even care if it is in person or not. That was this tuesday or monday maybe. I said ok and went to see her at 8 am. She was drunk and said she doesn't want anything to do with me, so I leaved her house one hour later after I arrived, after talking and literally begging to not finish the relationship.

Not much has happened after that. She said last night that today or tomorrow she would like to end in person, but I said to fuck off because if she doesn't care, then it doesn't matter... The truth is that I think I could have a breakdown if I see her again.

Well, I skipped a lot of things that makes me and my ex look bad, but let's just say that I'm not a very calm guy when I'm upset.

Sorry for the wall of text and poor grammar.
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Just focus on yourself and don't drink to cope with it. That will only make it worse
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idadpb posted...

Besides another woman <_<

Get under a man.
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Mr_Karate_II posted...

Just focus on yourself and don't drink to cope with it. That will only make it worse

Mr_Karate_II

Can't believe people are still quoting my name. Some people still haven't grown up I see.
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After going through something similar, a bad 5 year relationship break up.

I got over her in 8 months, but the biggest key was being around friend's that drive you forward, doing new things and breaking your mentality like bok_choi said, you have to get it through your thick skull its done/over, and unfortunately that takes time just as it took time to build that relationship.

Good luck to you, and exercise is great, I use to do it to burn myself out so I could sleep good without my mind racing so much.
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the correct answer is to get a ladder

"The best way to get over a woman is to turn her into literature"
- Some Fuck
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