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Leanaunfurled posted...

DocileOrangeCup posted...

Oh believe me I know he's a good guy, he's been.... really nice to me in private.

*hug* I'm glad. This place is bad. For me, for us, it's also caused my be. i need to see you guys as people

Uh yeah whatever you say
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I'm sorry, I don't man to. Honestly new to me, hardly get drunk.

Only DAve & Busters thing I liked was trivia. They didn't even have Hatsune Miku, that's dumb
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When's the last time you've fucked a head of lettuce?
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Leanaunfurled posted...

I'm sorry, I don't man to. Honestly new to me, hardly get drunk.

should've gone with beer, or even wine. vodka is going to kick your ass if you have a low tolerance and drink the whole bottle.
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The hangover sucks too so that'll be fun.
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slothica posted...

When's the last time you've fucked a head of lettuce?

none at all sorry

juicebox4 posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

I'm sorry, I don't man to. Honestly new to me, hardly get drunk.

should've gone with beer, or even wine. vodka is going to kick your ass if you have a low tolerance and drink the whole bottle.

that's why. I think he has beer but I drank vodka. I don't want to feel anymore

leverageblargh posted...

What was your boyfriend's explanation for all this?

he didn't want to hurt anyone. If he didn't "indulge" her she'd get upset so he did, but of course I read his FB and got upset. I'm not sorry, had a feeling
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Leanaunfurled posted...

how? Once a vomit and sober it i'l likely regret bein so open with you guys abou what has been going on

This will sound like weird advice, but you should reflect on the reasons why you would regret being open. I'm sure not knowing who to trust and confide in is the #1 reason, but having more than one "best friend" to talk the rough times with can really be a blessing. You never truly know a person until you can sit down and have that kind of conversation with them.
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i demand you go to a spa, get a massage, and then RETHINK about why you think CE is so negative for you

it's like Nietzche said, ya' know...

"if you stare into the CE, the CE stares back at you"

~Albert Einstein
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Fossil posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

how? Once a vomit and sober it i'l likely regret bein so open with you guys abou what has been going on

This will sound like weird advice, but you should reflect on the reasons why you would regret being open. I'm sure not knowing who to trust and confide in is the #1 reason, but having more than one "best friend" to talk the rough times with can really be a blessing. You never truly know a person until you can sit down and have that kind of conversation with them.

i have no best friend. No one. Used to talk to you guys about irl shit but no more, I trust no one. Everyonejust hurts
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leverageblargh posted...

Is this other woman SableWolfAngel?

yes!
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Hey Leana, still go on AIM?
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Iwin2013 posted...

Hey Leana, still go on AIM?

No, I do Steam and Discord and I suppose Skype?> skype sucks
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Leanaunfurled posted...

Iwin2013 posted...

Hey Leana, still go on AIM?

No, I do Steam and Discord and I suppose Skype?> skype sucks

Skype sucks, I have FaceTime
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and you know @Fossil I never got why we stopped talking. I reregretted that, too. Maybe it was fault. In my pov it was a silly reason but to yours I was maybe I was being a huge jerk. I'm sorry either way.
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Leanaunfurled posted...

Fossil posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

how? Once a vomit and sober it i'l likely regret bein so open with you guys abou what has been going on

This will sound like weird advice, but you should reflect on the reasons why you would regret being open. I'm sure not knowing who to trust and confide in is the #1 reason, but having more than one "best friend" to talk the rough times with can really be a blessing. You never truly know a person until you can sit down and have that kind of conversation with them.

i have no best friend. No one. Used to talk to you guys about irl shit but no more, I trust no one. Everyonejust hurts

So ponder on the reasons for regret and find ways around them. It's only holding you back.
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Fossil posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

Fossil posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

how? Once a vomit and sober it i'l likely regret bein so open with you guys abou what has been going on

This will sound like weird advice, but you should reflect on the reasons why you would regret being open. I'm sure not knowing who to trust and confide in is the #1 reason, but having more than one "best friend" to talk the rough times with can really be a blessing. You never truly know a person until you can sit down and have that kind of conversation with them.

i have no best friend. No one. Used to talk to you guys about irl shit but no more, I trust no one. Everyonejust hurts

So ponder on the reasons for regret and find ways around them. It's only holding you back.

Choosing the wrong people. how do I now? I can't. Just blind trust and I don't want to do that naymore
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@Hey

Get in here, you still haven't asked anything.
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anth0ny posted...

i demand you go to a spa, get a massage, and then RETHINK about why you think CE is so negative for you

it's like Nietzche said, ya' know...

"if you stare into the CE, the CE stares back at you"

~Albert Einstein

ooo o o o oh o

And forget to get sushie that day, too. Sushi fixes everything
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JustMyOpinion posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

and you know @Fossil I never got why we stopped talking. I reregretted that, too. Maybe it was fault. In my pov it was a silly reason but to yours I was maybe I was being a huge jerk. I'm sorry either way.

You pulled the same sort of crap to me on my main a long time ago when I was trying to be nice to you about a bad situation you had. Instead you lashed out at me and one of your friends followed suit and harassed me. And that is why you get what you get from me.

I don't remember what I did wrong to you, I never remember personally IM'ing you. With Fossil i reember Deus ex? If I hurt you though, I'm sorry. I don't want to wake up each day wanting to hurt someone, each one of us wants happiness. i really am sorry.
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The important thing is I'll probably be up too late to go to work.
What's a good excuse to email at 8am

Aeriis posted...

*hugs* Sorry Leana. I hope you feel better soon. Just know that you're awesome. You really don't get a lot of ladies like you, and you deserve to be treated fantastically <3

*hugs* You were always ool hermiione

WhinyZach posted...

wait, are you still at unquestionables place?

Yes until Monday evning. Awkard, right?
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Leanaunfurled posted...

Fossil posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

Fossil posted...

Leanaunfurled posted...

how? Once a vomit and sober it i'l likely regret bein so open with you guys abou what has been going on

This will sound like weird advice, but you should reflect on the reasons why you would regret being open. I'm sure not knowing who to trust and confide in is the #1 reason, but having more than one "best friend" to talk the rough times with can really be a blessing. You never truly know a person until you can sit down and have that kind of conversation with them.

i have no best friend. No one. Used to talk to you guys about irl shit but no more, I trust no one. Everyonejust hurts

So ponder on the reasons for regret and find ways around them. It's only holding you back.

Choosing the wrong people. how do I now? I can't. Just blind trust and I don't want to do that naymore

Preferably people you don't plan to get romantic with is a very good start. I'm sure there have been lots of times you thought "we could be good friends" or "this person is always so kind", etc etc. Use that as a feeler and see what they have to offer. You don't need to go balls deep with a cheating b/f talk as an "opening feeler", but I think you get what I mean.

Leanaunfurled posted...

and you know @Fossil I never got why we stopped talking. I reregretted that, too. Maybe it was fault. In my pov it was a silly reason but to yours I was maybe I was being a huge jerk. I'm sorry either way.

I'll pm you
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JustMyOpinion posted...

You pulled the same sort of crap to me on my main a long time ago when I was trying to be nice to you about a bad situation you had. Instead you lashed out at me and one of your friends followed suit and harassed me. And that is why you get what you get from me.

lmfao
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Fossil posted...

Preferably people you don't plan to get romantic with is a very good start. I'm sure there have been lots of times you thought "we could be good friends" or "this person is always so kind", etc etc. Use that as a feeler and see what they have to offer. You don't need to go balls deep with a cheating b/f talk as an "opening feeler", but I think you get what I mean.

Did't. Talked since, mayb 2015? on Steam, talked casually. got into deeper conversation mutually since late 2017. It felt right to me, but not it wasn't. I wish I wdidn't feel any romance.

And alright. Though I'l likely respond after I can think clearly.

WhinyZach posted...

wait that is awks af, wtf are you going to do? Is he kissing your ass?

what
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How are you sluts doing
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Okay everyone I'm home to take care of her. Any further questioned will be directed towards me and a moderately drunk TC. Will veto or ignore anything I find to be shitty or over the line.
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Unquestionable posted...

I've been exposed as a terrible bf and am going into damage control mode by shutting down this topic and controlling my soon to be ex gf. I can't even be bothered to defend my actions because there is no defense.

I gotchu fam.
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Unquestionable posted...

Okay everyone I'm home to take care of her. Any further questioned will be directed towards me and a moderately drunk TC. Will veto or ignore anything I find to be shitty or over the line.

why are you still friends with sable???
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MysteryMan923 posted...

Unquestionable posted...

I've been exposed as a terrible bf and am going into damage control mode by shutting down this topic and controlling my soon to be ex gf. I can't even be bothered to defend my actions because there is no defense.

I gotchu fam.

Nice way to take the high road. Go fuck yourself dickweed.

ssj3vegeta posted...

Unquestionable posted...

Okay everyone I'm home to take care of her. Any further questioned will be directed towards me and a moderately drunk TC. Will veto or ignore anything I find to be shitty or over the line.

why are you still friends with sable???

Because I've known her a very long time. I cut ties with her today because of how much I hurt Leanaunfurled. She knows this and it's painful but I have to be a better person.
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I apologize to everyone. I'm moderately better, currently just finished vomiting after I passed out for a bit after he got home.
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Unquestionable posted...

MysteryMan923 posted...

Unquestionable posted...

I've been exposed as a terrible bf and am going into damage control mode by shutting down this topic and controlling my soon to be ex gf. I can't even be bothered to defend my actions because there is no defense.

I gotchu fam.

Nice way to take the high road. Go fuck yourself dickweed.

ssj3vegeta posted...

Unquestionable posted...

Okay everyone I'm home to take care of her. Any further questioned will be directed towards me and a moderately drunk TC. Will veto or ignore anything I find to be shitty or over the line.

why are you still friends with sable???

Because I've known her a very long time. I cut ties with her today because of how much I hurt Leanaunfurled. She knows this and it's painful but I have to be a better person.

Imagine talking about the high road after you knowingly kept a toxic person in your life who antagonized your gf and tried to pass it off as "but I didn't want to hurt anyone". How'd that work out for you? You fucked up royally. Don't lash out at me because you wanted to keep your crazy ex in your life and find a way for your gf to be ok with it. You can't have your cake and eat it too you selfish ass. And you don't get a pass for finally doing the right thing months later. Well, supposedly the right thing. You supposedly severely limited contact before but then you really didn't. Were you being purposefully misleading?
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For real though, how much of a scumbag do you have to be to think that her sexting you is ok and to not nip this stuff in the bud immediately? What rational person thinks it's ok? You're either incredibly dense or were keeping her on the side just in case. I'm honestly not sure which it is because I know exactly how much contact I'd have with my ex that cheats on me and destroys my self worth. And I wouldn't even have to wait until my current gf breaks down to get to that level of contact. You have no spine.
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MysteryMan923 posted...

Imagine talking about the high road after you knowingly kept a toxic person in your life who antagonized your gf and tried to pass it off as "but I didn't want to hurt anyone". How'd that work out for you? You fucked up royally. Don't lash out at me because you wanted to keep your crazy ex in your life and find a way for your gf to be ok with it. You can't have your cake and eat it too you selfish ass. And you don't get a pass for finally doing the right thing months later. Well, supposedly the right thing. You supposedly severely limited contact before but then you really didn't. Were you being purposefully misleading?

It's cool bro, I'm happy you're getting your daily fix of white knighting but I'm the one actually working to fix the problem. So yeah I fucked up and then you basically acted like a dick to me because it's easy to be a keyboard warrior.

And to answer your question so you don't try to cry deflection I wasn't being purposely misleading, I changed my entire interactions and was doing the bare minimum by giving the wrong kind of attention to a long term friendship.

To clear the air I don't know who you are and never cared before but I don't want to go back and forth being assholes to each other. I lashed out because it's a stranger commenting on a situation based on his knee jerk reaction about the most important thing in my life, I'm sure you wouldn't take it well if I did the same to you. So in hindsight I'm sorry for being so damn hostile but your comment struck me wrong.
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MysteryMan923 posted...

For real though, how much of a scumbag do you have to be to think that her sexting you is ok and to not nip this stuff in the bud immediately? What rational person thinks it's ok? You're either incredibly dense or were keeping her on the side just in case. I'm honestly not sure which it is because I know exactly how much contact I'd have with my ex that cheats on me and destroys my self worth. And I wouldn't even have to wait until my current gf breaks down to get to that level of contact. You have no spine.

Yeah it's called differing life experiences. Leana and I are working on things, no relationship is perfect and I didn't help things with trying to be so damn on the fence. I was wrong and I admit it.
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"Differing life experiences". Is that what we call keeping toxic people in our lives now? And calling you on your crap is simply calling you on your crap. You can't cry "white knight" when you fuck up in a relationship, know you fucked up, and others tell you that you fucked up. But hey, congrats on finally putting in some work after letting all this toxicity go on for months and months and hit the breaking point. You act like you deserve a pat on the back for doing the bare minimum while doing jack squat before.
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MysteryMan923 posted...

"Differing life experiences". Is that what we call keeping toxic people in our lives now? And calling you on your crap is simply calling you on your crap. You can't cry "white knight" when you fuck up in a relationship, know you fucked up, and others tell you that you fucked up. But hey, congrats on finally putting in some work after letting all this toxicity go on for months and months and hit the breaking point. You act like you deserve a pat on the back for doing the bare minimum while doing jack squat before.

Okay internet tough guy, I'm going to actual do things to improve the situation while you're going to sit here and rehash a one sided narrative over in over in your head. And I'm not doing anything like thinking I should be praised for trying to make up for a mistake, sorry if your inner monologue changed my tone of voice to further match your preconceptions.
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This seems like a really personal issue >.>

And I know from airing my own CE.
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@leverageblargh posted...

What is your side of the story, @Unquestionable ?

Do you contradict anything that TC's said ITT?

What was your initial reaction when this other woman was sending you her nudes and sexting and talking about all the violent stuff she wanted to do to TC?

What is your opinion of SableWolfAngel now, after all these events? Do you attribute her actions to mental instability, genuine malice or something else?

I don't contradict the majority of what she said partially because I don't want to reread something she read when she was drunk and emotion and also because I acknowledge I was in the wrong.

I do believe the "sexting" and nudes were overstated. The only pictures I got were unsolicited and when the sender mentioned them I said I wasn't interested and neutral at best, they didn't continue. She would ask if I missed her sexually and I would pester me about my own sex life, I eventually figured it would placate her and didn't ever initiate it. The violent stuff I brushed off as jealousy, she knew I would never stand for it.

My opinion of her is sadness because I couldn't make a normal friendship work and it hurt the most important person in my life as a result. I attribute her reactions as being overly defensive and upset because I've move on from her in my romantic life.

Thank you for the reasonable and well thought out questions.
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Axiom posted...

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I approve the use of this Seinfeld gif.
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