Current Events > Is it normal to have a wedding without choosing a best man?

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I'll be honest.... none of my male friends deserve the title of being my best man or any of my groomsmen

if anything.... i'd honestly pick my cat or my son to be my best man over any of my friends who are all unreliable

I gotta decide a best man before my wedding next year.... oh god....
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Pick yourself to be your best man

It would be the most delightfully petty thing ever
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Go watch I Love You, Man
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its your wedding man, do whatever the hell you want.
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honestly a best man or even groomsmen in general doesnt mean much. they dont really do anything, they just kind of stand there on the altar/stage at the beginning of the ceremony and take pictures with you after the ceremony. after that their "responsibilities" are pretty much over, exact maybe if you make them do an entrance at the reception.

so no it doesnt really matter if you want to eschew a best man, it's ultimately a very minor thing that people blow out of proportion because they want to get their friends involved in everything
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go with your son.

and a lot of people consider the title of best man to be an honor, so even if it's not typical, if there's no one you wanna go with, then do your own thing
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no, it's not normal.

just pick your kid (2nd marriage?) and run with it, especially if your wife* has someone she'd like as a maid of honor. Symmetry is ideal.

*or husband, with appropriate other gender-relevant words swapped
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boxington posted...

go with your son.

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I wish this was the biggest problem in my life. I can't even get married. Nor can I get a girlfriend. Nor can I get a girl to actually show up on the first date she agreed to.
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philsov posted...

no, it's not normal.

just pick your kid (2nd marriage?) and run with it, especially if your wife* has someone she'd like as a maid of honor. Symmetry is ideal.

*or husband, with appropriate other gender-relevant words swapped

no this is my only marriage. we ended up having our kid together accidentally.... lol

I love my little guy to death though!
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Dude choose your son.
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Only if you're a loser with no friends
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Okay i've decided..... im choosing my son

GOATSLAYER posted...

Only if you're a loser with no friends

I have friends. I just don't trust or believe in any of them enough to give them this honor.
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Romulox28 posted...

honestly a best man or even groomsmen in general doesnt mean much. they dont really do anything, they just kind of stand there on the altar/stage at the beginning of the ceremony and take pictures with you after the ceremony. after that their "responsibilities" are pretty much over, exact maybe if you make them do an entrance at the reception.

so no it doesnt really matter if you want to eschew a best man, it's ultimately a very minor thing that people blow out of proportion because they want to get their friends involved in everything

The hell...

They plan the bachelor party, make sure other groomsmen show up on time, carry the rings, take care of things so you have no stress, give a toast, plan the travel arrangements post reception and it's considered an honor.

There's a reason people often introduce someone as this is John, he was the best man in my wedding and not this is my friend John.

There's a reason you ask someone to stand for you.
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^and none of my friends have the capability to do any of that

that's way too big of a responsibility and I can't trust anyone with doing all that
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AzNDarkSamurai posted...

^and none of my friends have the capability to do any of that

that's way too big of a responsibility and I can't trust anyone with doing all that

I'll do it for you. Probably gonna be my friends soon. I could use a practice run.

Also wasn't trying to say you had to pick one. The guy I was quoting just seemed to be making light of what many people consider important and what often plays a pretty big role.
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aaaah gotcha

I don't mind you helping out with planning it though
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Cj_WlLL_VVlN posted...

There's a reason people often introduce someone as this is John, he was the best man in my wedding and not this is my friend John.

Do they? I've never encountered this lol. Not as an introduction anyway.
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