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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 1:49:59 PM
#151:


mipond posted...
She has to walk away from him. She can block him, take him off Facebook, ignore him, tell him no, and the most important, walk away from him. That isn't hard to do if you really want to. As she can't make up her mind to do that you are going to lose and you will get hurt. He isn't the problem...her feelings for him are. Its just that you want to go after someone and instead of dealing with her it's easier for you to go after him. You will risk getting in a fight with him because she can't decide. Sounds like she kinda has. He wants her and you want her..you both want the same thing. Man up and walk away. She'll come find you when she's decided.


she did, the ex started showing up at the gyms and places TC's gf hangs out with in an effort to subjugate the blocks and the messages that tells him to stop texting her.
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xOmniCloudx
12/09/17 1:55:11 PM
#152:


Let me tune in right now. One of my exes and I were DEEPLY in love and we're going to do marriage and everything. But it was complicated due to long distance and both of us having issues from our troubled childhoods that made us understand each other but also made us require what the other couldn't give. So of course we split due to things finally getting out of control nearly 3 years later. We tried the cool/friend thing and it didn't work so we had a heated fight and didn't talk for months. Then she wished me a happy birthday, we reconnected, learned she had a new bf and such. I stayed away to respect her new relationship. Fast forward now, she and I are STILL talking here and there, trying to keep the peace, I have since had a new gf myself and my ex and I have had our off and on fights pretty recently too.

Going by how we still manage to keep being drawn toward each other over a year later and a half later, how she's constantly asked if I was coming to see her once I moved, how she admitted she got jealous over my my new gf (since broken up since realized I was happy being single and wasn't interested in commitment) even though she got a new bf first (that is polar opposite me and we don't like each other), that it's obvious that if it wasn't for distance, she wouldn't have chosen to split and that if I could have closed it sooner it wouldn't have happened as it was her decision. Though I had been thinking of splitting several times long before she made the decision.

We would have probably gotten back together (she admitted she thought of it when we weren't talking) and how despite her claiming her new bf is so amazing and such, she rarely talks of him, she doesn't show their couple photos or use them as a profile or cover pic or show ANY of the type of affection for him that she did for me openly. Honestly, not even sure they're still together at this point. In any case, I am 100% convinced that if I was living close to her and I wanted her back, it would only be a matter of time until I got her back. We would at least have sex eventually. Her bf going by the reasons we split everything she has told me about him is CLEARLY the SAFE choice as he addresses needs I could not fulfil in our relationship at the time but I am not convinced it's love.

However, I legit don't want her back as I am over her and girls like her (which was a huge reason why my relationship after her was going to fail no matter what) and just want to keep peace and show care out of respect of for a woman I once loved more than anything else and once saw as my future wife. That being said, I wouldn't be against us having sex if we were both single but I still don't want a relationship with her.

What I'm saying is that if a woman REALLY loves a man, regardless of if they're relationship was toxic or not, some part of her is ALWAYS going to love him, especially because it's unlikely he was toxic to her 100% of the time so she has good memories with him and perhaps she understands why he's toxic given his upbringing so feels it isn't completely his fault despite her not liking it. If she's not over it enough then you run the risk of her having a moment of weakness and going back to him, especially if he wants her back too and acts on it. If I can do this from ACROSS the planet as I'm in the US and my ex is in freaking Australia so if I can do that, nothing stopping someone who lives no more than an hour away.

From what it sounds like, she needs time to figure it out. I bet you anything she wants a hall pass and perhaps that could solve everything and it would be the end of her ex as she'd get her closure. Or maybe it would make it worse and she leaves you for him. Either way, I wouldn't be down with a hall pass and from what it sounds like, you need to find the strength to leave. I know, it's hard as fuck because of how strongly you feel but this sounds like something that you're doomed to be miserable with no matter what and isn't healthy for you.

At this point, SHE'S toxic for you.
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NOM
12/09/17 1:55:54 PM
#153:


Get the fuck out of there TC. This is all on the female. She still has feelings for her ex and is using you as a placeholder.

Get the fuck out of there man!
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thronedfire2
12/09/17 1:57:39 PM
#154:


sounds like you're just a backup until she gets back with him. she's probably still fucking him if he's still talking to her
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PesticideDream
12/09/17 1:59:13 PM
#156:


I'm not reading 16 whole pages but the few pages I did read makes it sound like she wants to keep you probably more for security and to settle down considering she has a kid but the ex sounds like the guy who taps more into her primitive instincts to fuck the "bad boy" and be wild and "free". Basically, she's torn because she wants the safe guy to support her but wants the other dude to ravage her.

The only solution besides dumping her and moving on (don't build a future with a chick with issues, it sucks, dude, and will ruin your life) is to become involved in self-improvement and make yourself better in her eyes than her ex. You mentioned he's jacked, start working out, start taking control of things, and learn how to really fuck her well and she'll forget all about him.
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IfGodCouldDie
12/09/17 1:59:36 PM
#157:


weekoldhotdog posted...
Thanks ifgodcould die. Appreciate the backup when everyone else is telling him to bend over and just let everything go.

Well as someone that said it's likely better to just jump ship, I won't deny good advice when I see it.
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A_Good_Boy
12/09/17 2:01:10 PM
#159:


PesticideDream posted...
16 whole pages

This is the real humiliating part of this topic.
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:02:13 PM
#160:


It wasnt intended to hurt my feelings. More so to get some stuff off of my chest
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xOmniCloudx
12/09/17 2:04:38 PM
#161:


A_Good_Boy posted...
PesticideDream posted...
16 whole pages

This is the real humiliating part of this topic.


The humiliating part is that you guys never changed your post settings so that this was at LEAST only page 6.
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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 2:06:06 PM
#162:


GregShmedley posted...
weekoldhotdog posted...
GregShmedley posted...
Callixtus posted...
GregShmedley posted...
Hairy-man posted...
https://imgur.com/a/ngW0t

Thats part of it. Im not afraid of him. Just dont want to do anything stupid


Dude...please stop. Holy shit.

I don't see what's wrong with the message. The guy seems like garbage. Why shouldn't TC tell him that?


Because it sounds desperate as hell and isn't going to fix the fact that his girlfriend still has feelings towards him.


Shmedly has never had a relationship with a real woman before and doesn't understand that the heart can be complicated place and good memories with one person doesn't exactly fade the moment you meet the next person. Shmedly and others just want to see the TC alone so that he can be exactly as they are.


Lol this is definitely StrikeGently language.

This is great.


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kiss666army
12/09/17 2:06:27 PM
#163:


Through your act of giving her all the support and patience you can provide her with, it is just upsetting how her lack of actions to move from this reflects the commitment she would give to this relationship overall.You have said it yourself, she is also to blame.

It just may not work out. And that's fine. We all enter relationships that unfortunately do not work well in the end. But atleast there is always something we can learn from just so we can find a healthy relationship with another person.
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Cornmuffins
12/09/17 2:06:28 PM
#164:


A_Good_Boy posted...
PesticideDream posted...
16 whole pages

This is the real humiliating part of this topic.


He probably has usernames/dates to the left too
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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 2:06:56 PM
#165:


xOmniCloudx posted...
A_Good_Boy posted...
PesticideDream posted...
16 whole pages

This is the real humiliating part of this topic.


The humiliating part is that you guys never changed your post settings so that this was at LEAST only page 6.


page 4 for me (50 posts per topic page)
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A_Good_Boy
12/09/17 2:07:00 PM
#166:


xOmniCloudx posted...
A_Good_Boy posted...
PesticideDream posted...
16 whole pages

This is the real humiliating part of this topic.


The humiliating part is that you guys never changed your post settings so that this was at LEAST only page 6.

I'm on page 4 breh.
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Slaya4
12/09/17 2:07:52 PM
#167:


Dude leave. Its just going to go downhill from here. The sooner you dip the less of a headache you will have. The best decision for you is to leave bruh.
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:09:26 PM
#168:


Okay dudes my head is going to break. Too many posts to read through. Sorry for not replying to everyone

Update!!!!

She messaged me back saying we love you

Thats it.
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Forlorn_Ass
12/09/17 2:11:03 PM
#169:


Hairy-man posted...
Okay dudes my head is going to break. Too many posts to read through. Sorry for not replying to everyone

Update!!!!

She messaged me back saying we love you

Thats it.


Who is we?
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Electrokinesis
12/09/17 2:11:04 PM
#170:


We?

Is she hosting Venom?
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Cornmuffins
12/09/17 2:11:46 PM
#171:


The kid most likely.
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kiss666army
12/09/17 2:11:58 PM
#172:


That's a bit cryptic. WE?
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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 2:12:15 PM
#173:


Hairy-man posted...
Okay dudes my head is going to break. Too many posts to read through. Sorry for not replying to everyone

Update!!!!

She messaged me back saying we love you

Thats it.


There you go. Her and her child loves you. Stop worry about it and just get on with life. Have some trust in your woman and perhaps go to the gym with her to dissuade any ex bf attempts to get back at her. Just offer to get in better shape for no other reason but to look better for her. Either way, life is better with someone to share it with.
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Forlorn_Ass
12/09/17 2:12:30 PM
#174:


TC its too late not to leave. Get out.
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:13:42 PM
#175:


Her and her daughter. They really are beautiful people. Maybe were just not compatible. Im really not looking forward to going home today. 2 more hours of work. Still awaiting a proper message from her but who knows if Ill even get it.

Im gonna walk through the front door and its going to be awkward as hell. And hard because I have to put on a face for the daughter.
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:14:28 PM
#176:


She replied again!!

What am I supposed to do?

Quick Ce, help me come up with a good answer. Ill post results!
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:17:42 PM
#177:


Now the topic dies when I need answers. Jesus
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masticatingman
12/09/17 2:18:40 PM
#178:


Im outtie one thousand, deuces
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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 2:19:05 PM
#179:


Hairy-man posted...
Now the topic dies when I need answers. Jesus

read your pm and send me whatever comes, I'll do what i can before I give up and no longer care.
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Electrokinesis
12/09/17 2:19:33 PM
#180:


Weve give you the answers. I dont think anyone here suggested texting her.
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:22:24 PM
#181:


I know. You guys have helped me. Im just feeling broken right now.

I appreciate it
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yemmy
12/09/17 2:26:57 PM
#182:


'I think the best thing to do in this situation is to perform oral sex on me'
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Dark_SilverX
12/09/17 2:27:11 PM
#183:


A_Good_Boy posted...
PesticideDream posted...
16 whole pages

This is the real humiliating part of this topic.

Lmao
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Ulyanyx
12/09/17 2:35:35 PM
#184:


Hairy-man posted...
She also told me Im sorry that Im a monster. And then started crying.

I feel like she does feel bad for whats going on, and thats the part that makes me want to stay. But its not about that anymore. Its about how I feel. And I feel like shit!


tbh, she is doing it to guilt you into staying. she is more than likely fucking him, and keeping you as a second place if things end up not working out with him.

no self respecting woman should hang around or talk to an ex when they're with someone, and the fact that she makes herself look bad ("i'm sorry that i'm a monster") is only to guilt you into thinking she cares.

the only person you can trust is yourself, in life. if you stay with her i guarantee you are making a decision that is at least 99% likely to end up causing your heartbreak and pain.

if you leave, it might still hurt but in the long run you'll be better off finding someone who cares about you and your opinions on these kind of issues.
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Trigg3rH4ppy
12/09/17 2:37:56 PM
#185:


Ok if you really don't want to ditch this chick, you need to lay down the rules. She's asking you what to do, so fucking tell her.

No more talking to that dude

Find a new gym if they both go to the same one

And you need to grow a set because you're probably going to end up in a brawl with this dude. He sounds like the type that is going to keep stalking her. So if she's not going to tell him to fuck off, you're going to have to make him. Just make sure you're willing to get charges for this chick before you go down this path because the police are going to be involved one way or another. People can't take an ass beating anymore with being a bitch and calling the cops or trying to jump you later for it.

Honestly though she should be a big enough person to handle her ex on her own. I'd dump her ass but that's just me. I've dated crazy bitches before and they're never usually worth it. Find yourself a good chick who doesn't come with emotional baggage.
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Lorenzo_2003
12/09/17 2:44:42 PM
#186:


QlEXtaB

I can't believe nobody posted it yet. (Courtesy of kuwab0 and Turbam)
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Trigg3rH4ppy
12/09/17 2:46:13 PM
#187:


Also, don't take relationship advice from someone who's only ever been in one relationship. Also, jumping someone with a baseball bat is a felony (assault with a deadly weapon, and you'll catch a 3rd degree murder/involuntary manslaughter charge if you hit a little too hard).

Hotdog has supposedly been locked up before, so really he should know better.
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Kimbos_Egg
12/09/17 2:50:47 PM
#188:


Electrokinesis posted...
We?

Is she hosting Venom?


lol
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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 2:54:09 PM
#189:


Trigg3rH4ppy posted...
Also, don't take relationship advice from someone who's only ever been in one relationship. Also, jumping someone with a baseball bat is a felony (assault with a deadly weapon, and you'll catch a 3rd degree murder/involuntary manslaughter charge if you hit a little too hard).

Hotdog has supposedly been locked up before, so really he should know better.


We've already established the bat is just to leverage himself if things get physical. I clearly said in that post not to break any laws. Defending yourself against a guy who's bigger than you are is not assaulting someone with a deadly weapon.
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Hairy-man
12/09/17 2:54:30 PM
#190:


https://imgur.com/a/KJ5nn

There you go CE

I dont know what to think now. Im lost
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GreatEvilEmpire
12/09/17 2:57:25 PM
#191:


The next time you have sex with her, have her take it up her ass. These type of girl...you have to physically own them or their minds will wander.
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yemmy
12/09/17 3:01:24 PM
#192:


dog

dude has a big dick

that is how the world works man. I'm sorry, you keep posting, it is the truth.

Get over it. Either bang her or don't. But she ain't gonna give up feeling for the dude that fucks her better, to where she can't walk right after.
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Cornmuffins
12/09/17 3:03:31 PM
#193:


Hairy-man posted...
https://imgur.com/a/KJ5nn

There you go CE

I dont know what to think now. Im lost


She still has feelings for him, seems pretty clear what you should be thinking. Are you down for a polyamorous relationship?
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rhklce
12/09/17 3:05:27 PM
#194:


Leave yo.
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littlebro07
12/09/17 3:06:17 PM
#195:


GreatEvilEmpire posted...
The next time you have sex with her, have her take it up her ass. These type of girl...you have to physically own them or their minds will wander.


Or just nut in her hair.
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mipond
12/09/17 3:10:35 PM
#196:


Look at how you are already feeling...then multiply it by 10. She is playing you both. You need to let her go so she can figure it out.
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GuyCarlPeterson
12/09/17 3:14:28 PM
#197:


She sounds like she wants drama. Don't give it to her. Let them have their drama by themselves.
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littlebro07
12/09/17 3:18:51 PM
#198:


You should try having a threesome.

Whichever guy she chooses to suck is the one she doesn't want. The one who gets to go all the way is the one she loves.

Only way, brah.
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weekoldhotdog
12/09/17 3:30:06 PM
#200:


i wash my hands of this topic, we told you what you should do. you ignore everybody here and persue your own vendetta, over the phone and while you are both at work.

You'll get what's coming to you and you deserve it in the end. gg.
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