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I'm extremely sexually frustrated. The last time we were able to just fool around was 8 months ago when she stopped letting me into her bedroom. I want us to check into a motel room and I know she'll say no because she won't want to risk having sex before being on BC. I need your guys help I need sex.
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Jesus man, you need to get some help. Join a gym, take up a hobby, meet with a therapist, etc.
Your topics about this girl freak me out.

Why did she stop letting you into her bedroom
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Is this a joke topic man

you need to stab her to death and play around with her blood
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KarmaMuffin posted...

Jesus man, you need to get some help. Join a gym, take up a hobby, meet with a therapist, etc.
Your topics about this girl freak me out.

I'd be fine if we had a place where we could let some steam out so to speak but we don't. It doesn't help that we both live with our parents and both sets have very 70s views on sex and relationships they arent...progressive so to speak.
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I feel Gamefaqs is a very poisonous place but you have very strong arguments on how our relationship is floundering. Really the only thing holding it together is our love for each other but every other area is in the red.
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You're going to end up cheating or at least trying to cheat if you don't break up with her. A sexless relationship is basically just a friendship. It's over.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

Duncanwii posted...

I feel Gamefaqs is a very poisonous place but you have very strong arguments on how our relationship is floundering. Really the only thing holding it together is our love for each other but every other area is in the red.

Sometimes love just ain't enough. Also, it barely seems like a relationship if you haven't even fooled around in 8 months.

Even my mother is suggesting looking around and finding a new girlfriend and that hurts because I protest when she brings it up but deep down I know she's right. Just, what if I never find someone like her who looks past all of my problems and just loves me for who I am. I look at posters on here who no matter how hard they try and can't find someone and that scares me out of breaking up because I also don't want to hurt Kara's heart she's an amazing person but I don't know if we should be together if the physical aspects of the relationship aren't able to be fulfilled.
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you're barely dating her, having sex won't magically fix these problems
you need to tell her that the two of you have some major issues that can't be fixed and start focusing on yourself first and foremost

being afraid of being alone means nothing if you're only even together in name
I do think you should end it
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Look, man, Ive sorta been here. It sucks. Everything is great but the girl wont put it in the sort of fashion that suggests shes emotionally and physically committed. I LIED to myself when I went through that. It had never been a problem in my previous relationships, so I told myself it was just a libido thing and tried to ignore it.

That girl dumped my ass out of nowhere. I remember my mother of all people warning me about that singular aspect and not listening to her because the girl was so otherwise affectionate.

You need to find a partner who treats you like she wants you around both in and out of the bedroom. This isnt healthy.
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if you're going to a hotel why don't you just buy condoms

they probably sell them at the front desk
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Duncanwii posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

Duncanwii posted...

I feel Gamefaqs is a very poisonous place but you have very strong arguments on how our relationship is floundering. Really the only thing holding it together is our love for each other but every other area is in the red.

Sometimes love just ain't enough. Also, it barely seems like a relationship if you haven't even fooled around in 8 months.

Even my mother is suggesting looking around and finding a new girlfriend and that hurts because I protest when she brings it up but deep down I know she's right. Just, what if I never find someone like her who looks past all of my problems and just loves me for who I am. I look at posters on here who no matter how hard they try and can't find someone and that scares me out of breaking up because I also don't want to hurt Kara's heart she's an amazing person but I don't know if we should be together if the physical aspects of the relationship aren't able to be fulfilled.

I'm one of those posters who never finds someone, but now I have an 8/10 bae interested in me because I never gave up. So don't worry about it.
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She sounds crazy

You are getting married but she won't even sleep in the same room as you
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Duncanwii posted...

I'm extremely sexually frustrated. The last time we were able to just fool around was 8 months ago when she stopped letting me into her bedroom. I want us to check into a motel room and I know she'll say no because she won't want to risk having sex before being on BC. I need your guys help I need sex.

Bangbus?
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Why is it taking her 8 months to get on BC? How about the depo shot(which is much more accurate in preventing pregnancy btw - birth control relies on her ability to take a pill at a certain time every day)? Or maybe she can try that ring thing...

Doesn't seem like she is real motivated to do this. And honestly, dude, if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. She may not know what she wants in this point in her life - there is a chance that it has nothing to do with you. She might also not be ready for a relationship. There is also a chance it has everything to do with you (or the chemistry between the both of you - the spark, so to speak. And if there's no spark, you can't force one. Don't take it personally).

So, you can't take it personally. And, she has every right to feel this way. She has every right to live her life the way she wants, but the selfish thing? Is stringing you along and acting like she's gonna take this step. It's time for her to put up or shut up. She needs to either take the next step in this relationship, or let you free to date other women. That's it.

Seems like it's on her end. But you guys need to talk. Ask her what she's looking for in this point in her life. Obviously if she really wanted to do it with you - it wouldn't take 8 months to get on birth control, or failing that, trying another form of birth control. Yes, it is safe to use 2 methods - that is normal...what's not normal is for her to take this long to take action.
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Duncanwii posted...

I look at posters on here who no matter how hard they try and can't find someone and that scares me

You shouldn't compare with others, I do the same and it just feeds insecurities. You can't live life thinking about the what ifs. You've already managed to find a girl and become engaged, it's certainly not out of the question that you could do it again.

I'll be honest, it feels like you both want different things. It very much seems like you want a strong sexual relationship with her, and it kind of feels like she really just doesn't care, at least from what you've told us. If she's truly indifferent about the relationship, and you want something you can't get from this one, maybe it's time to move on. I'm certain you'd be capable of finding someone else. In the end, it's a decision you have to make yourself though.
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